When we were children, we all watched the TV series "Ji Gong" and were made to laugh by his crazy and funny expressions. We were also moved by his spirit of promoting good and suppressing evil and upholding justice, but we also wanted to We have always wondered why such a good person was so crazy.

Jigong’s original name was Li Xiuyuan. He was an eminent monk in the Southern Song Dynasty and a native of Yongning Village, Tiantai County, Zhejiang Province. Later generations respectfully called him the Living Buddha Jigong. He has a famous saying: After wine and meat pass through the intestines, it remains in the heart of the Buddha. It can be seen how crazy he is, but he is not stupid. He has high Buddhist cultivation and medical skills, and he is also very wise to fight against evil people.

Jigong was kind-hearted and righteous by nature, but he couldn't bear to see secular officials guarding each other, bullying the weak with the strong, and making officials a fish of the common people, so he vowed to shave his hair and become a monk to do good for the people. The Southern Song Dynasty was a very dark dynasty in China. In the TV series, Jigong's parents died due to persecution, and his house was burned down. It was such a huge grief that the family was destroyed and everyone was destroyed, which made Jigong crazy throughout his life.

Let’s study a question now. Some people’s relatives have passed away, and some people cry with great sadness. Why can’t some people cry, and behave indifferently that surprises us? This is because he has been completely engulfed by great sadness and he has chosen psychological isolation. What does it mean? It was that he chose to escape from the truth and shut himself in a closed space, rejecting all connections with the outside world, including the death of relatives at this time, and all emotional connections with living people.

He placed himself in a silent and silent world, and all the beautiful and sad emotions given to him by the external world were shut down. This was a spiritual defense mechanism, but at this time, he In essence, he is still lonely, but he does not dare to truly face the facts. He has no complete life experience as a person. He has lost not only his relatives, but also his soul. This person at this time can also be said to be a walking zombie.

At this time, he is a strange person to us, just like Jigong, he behaves strangely. This is because: the painful experiences that made him did not really disappear, but were suppressed. , those emotions will be expressed in a mutated way, and the person will behave strangely.

At this time, his soul and heart have nothing to rely on, and his heart is filled with pain. The wilderness must be inhabited by ghost foxes. If a person's heart becomes abnormal, then The crooked ways of society will take advantage of this, and charlatans and swindlers will target such people for wealth and death. But there are also people who, through some chance encounters, learn the right methods to get rid of bad luck. For example, Jigong learned Buddhism and medical skills to sublimate his soul after the death of his family, and diverted his attention by contacting the right things; People improve themselves through learning knowledge, thereby changing their future lives.

Mental isolation means rejecting all emotions, but when an individual cannot bear the loneliness, he will occasionally pay attention to the outside world. This time is very important to him, because if he is lucky, he will Get in touch with things that are good and actually helpful. Otherwise, it will be very dangerous. But the most important thing depends on his true heart.

Generally speaking, when a person encounters great sadness after the death of a loved one, the right way for him is not to isolate, but to accept the fact that people have self-healing function, and this period of grief will last for 6 months Around 6 months, most people will come out of the shadows and return to normal life after 6 months. However, when a person cannot get over it for more than 6 months, he or she needs treatment. This treatment is completed in the following four steps:

Accept the fact that your loved one has passed away. Confirm and understand the reality of loss and increase the sense of reality of loss

Experience the emotions of pain. Accept the painful experience and grieve fully.

Adjusting and adapting to life after the death of a loved one. Learn to change and adapt.

Rebuilding relationships. Emotionally reposition the inner position of the lost individual, say goodbye to the past properly, and move towards a new life.

Those who behave strangely when encountering great sorrow are actually suffering from a mental illness. We should care more about them instead of ridiculing and fooling them. Everyone is likely to face misfortune. When faced with disasters, we should use correct psychological methods to solve them. Those problems that you think are impossible to solve, when you solve them, you will find that the world is so wonderful.

Jigong spent his whole life in spiritual isolation. Because there was no psychology at that time in the Southern Song Dynasty, he was always crazy. However, he came into contact with Buddhism and worked hard to become a spiritual person. Man, he is a man who has encountered great hardships. We only remember what he said: After the wine and meat pass through the intestines, the Buddha remains in his heart. But few people know that he also said another sentence: If the world imitates me, it will be like going to hell. Xishuiwen