Keywords: frustration, the so-called frustration means frustration, obstruction, and frustration. In psychology, frustration refers to the tense state and negative emotional reaction that occurs when an individual encounters obstacles and interference and cannot satisfy his or her needs when engaging in purposeful activities.
Summary of content: Safety issues have now become a concern of the whole society, but today's children have poor self-protection ability, poor self-care ability, and lack of courage to deal with difficulties and setbacks, so they often give up on themselves, commit suicide, etc. How should we understand this problem and how to deal with this phenomenon?
With the continuous development of modern education and teaching, educational concepts are also constantly updated, from strict teachers to close friends, from strictness to appreciation. Today, praise has become another way of motivational education. Praise does play an important role in motivating students, but some people over-exaggerate the role of praise, so the truth appears in the subtleties, finding the extraordinary in the ordinary, and praising the advantages that are not obvious. Praising students even when the least is expected. Along with this, various methods of praise have emerged: commendation on the list, commendation in reports, thumbs up, smile praise, etc. Some people also pointed out that one word of praise is worth a hundred words of criticism, and students can only be praised but not criticized. I think this view goes to the other extreme.
No one can make mistakes without being a sage, let alone a student who wants to receive education? Making mistakes is a student's right. Everyone grows up in the forging of mistakes and failures. Nine times out of ten things in life are unsatisfactory, but how many people can have smooth sailing? How do children today face the challenges of the future and how do they face the bleak life. I think students should be allowed to enjoy setbacks and gradually grow up in setbacks.
After the serious traffic accident in Shanxi, safety issues were gradually put on the agenda. Although paying attention to traffic safety, food hygiene, personal safety and other issues can avoid large-scale casualties, suicide and running away from home are often prohibited. Suicide has become the leading cause of death among people aged 15-40. Research has found that in our country, about 1.5 million people suffer long-term and severe psychological trauma due to suicide of family members or relatives every year, which has become a serious social burden. According to the international standards set by the World Health Organization, the annual suicide incidence rate exceeds 20 per 100,000, making it a country with a high suicide rate. my country has become a country with a high suicide rate. ① Recently, the media randomly interviewed some students at a university. More than half of the students admitted that they had had suicidal thoughts or impulses. What a serious situation! Being blamed by parents, criticized by teachers, falling out of love, having conflicts with classmates, failing to improve academic performance, being criticized by others, or even failing to lose weight can all be reasons for suicide. Once they are in adversity, they become pessimistic and desperate, and often end their lives impulsively by committing suicide, completely ignoring their parents' upbringing. There are countless reports on this aspect. People not only have to ask: What happened to today’s students? Why have you become so vulnerable? The suicide rate can be counted, but how many people have lost confidence in study and work because of a little frustration and have been depressed ever since? How should this number be counted? What are the causes of various situations is worth pondering for each of us.
Obviously, what the students are doing is just a phenomenon, and the essence is that there must be some omissions in our education system and social form. If we pay a little more attention, it is not difficult to find the increasingly prominent shortcomings of the current education system: it only emphasizes intellectual education and not moral education. It can even be said that it only focuses on intellectual education. Although there are still some moral educations that are only superficial, but in a situation where schools are generally amassing money crazily and only focus on the admission rate, who would still believe it? Therefore, it has long been despised by parents and students alike. The social pattern is the intensification of competition and the unavoidable significant reduction in the affordability of the one-child generation. That is to say, the family's over-protection of its only child turns it into a flower in the greenhouse, unable to see the wind and rain. The focus of the contradiction may be that the contradiction between the increasingly fierce social competition and the increasingly fragile psychology of teenagers has become increasingly apparent and aggravated. Today's children rarely experience the baptism of severe setbacks and failures. Their ability to take care of themselves is so poor that their parents have to wash their socks in high school. How students face life, how to take responsibility, and how to get along with others. Every child thinks that he should be the core and 100% of the family, and they do receive every possible care from their parents. But when he enters the classroom, he is only one in 40, when he enters school, he is only one in a thousand, and when he enters society, he is only one in a billion. How can he adapt to this contrast? As the saying goes, "When heaven is about to entrust a great responsibility to a man, he must first strain his mind, strain his muscles and bones, starve his body, deplete his body, and mess up his actions." Which famous person in history did not face setbacks and adversity? What about growing up? Sima Qian of the Western Han Dynasty was convicted and sentenced to corruption for defending Li Ling who surrendered to the Huns. He endured a humiliation that was worse than death in the eyes of the scholar-bureaucrats at that time. The "Historical Records" of "The Last Song, the Li Sao Without Rhyme" left behind the eternal famous line rich in philosophy: "Everyone is destined to die, which may be heavier than Mount Tai or lighter than a feather". Sima Qian was proud of life and death, fought hard with a tenacious will, and obtained the sublimation of life. "Xibo Kuli performed "The Book of Changes"; Confucius and Chen Cai wrote "Spring and Autumn"; Qu Yuan was exiled and wrote "Li Sao"; Zuoqiu was blind and wrote "Guoyu"; Sun Tzu was crippled and discussed "The Art of War""②. It can be said that the idea of ??frustration education has existed in ancient my country. This is not only true for humans, but also for animals.
In the Alaska Nature Reserve in the United States, managers here eliminated wolves in order to protect wild deer. From then on, deer no longer had to run to escape natural predators, so the number of sick, weak and disabled deer increased day by day, and finally they were on the verge of extinction. At this time, the management staff woke up and lured several ferocious wolves back to the Deer Park. With the threat of natural enemies, the deer herds frequently ran for their lives and soon regained their former vitality. It can be seen that setbacks are not only a need for us to achieve our career, but also a need for our survival. Just imagine, a person who has never experienced even the smallest setbacks and slight storms since childhood, if he suddenly encounters a slightly bigger storm in his later life, can he not panic and act randomly? The essence of frustration education is like giving students immune vaccinations, using small infections to stimulate the establishment of their own immune function.
In daily life, people find that those who often suffer from minor illnesses such as colds and fevers often have a shorter life span; on the contrary, those who usually look as strong as a cow and never get sick , once sick, it is often a serious disease such as malignant tumor. This phenomenon has been explained in medicine: the occurrence of tumors is the result of excessive cell proliferation caused by disorders of the body's immune surveillance system. People who get a little sick from time to time have their immune systems frequently activated, so they maintain considerable vigilance and jump into battle as soon as there is any sign of trouble. As for the latter, due to their strong resistance, the immune monitoring system is in a state of "putting swords and guns in storage, and letting horses go south". When encountering malignant cell proliferation, they have no time to react, and the results are out of control.
This is true of human physiology and psychology. Frustration is an inevitable event in everyone's growth process. A person's ability to resist setbacks has a certain relationship with age, but what is more important is his experience in dealing with setbacks. Victory over minor setbacks can leave valuable experience for the frustrated and enhance their psychological endurance in dealing with setbacks. Therefore, people who often deal with small setbacks can often persevere in the face of big setbacks, while those who have no experience of setbacks may be devastated by a big setback.
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Life is the process from birth to death. Difficulties and confusions are inherent and cannot even be eliminated in life, so life is about dealing with difficulties. process. There will always be moments in life when people forget their valuable gifts as human beings and the sentiments that make them shine wherever they go and in any dilemma; there will always be moments in life when people forget about their precious talents as human beings and the sentiments that make them shine wherever they go and in any dilemma; People begin to hesitate, potential geniuses look less than mediocre, and men who were originally strong and powerful become paralyzed when danger strikes.
Please write an essay on the topic of "frustration". It is required to draft your own title, style, and content, no less than 800 words, and plagiarism is not allowed.
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A person always has a certain goal, and may be running to achieve this goal throughout his life. However, the road of running is not smooth. Even if you hope to live a peaceful life, sometimes you will fall and fall very painfully. Maybe, you will get injured - this is a setback. Although adversity is painful, experiencing setbacks and failures can increase the "wealth" of life. Suffering is also training. A life without setbacks is a life that seems lucky but is actually poor. When setbacks come, it’s how we deal with them that matters. As the saying goes: Frustration is like a spring. If you are weak, it will be strong. To face it or to escape? Is it a brave overcoming, or a needless sinking? Different attitude, different life. The article should get to the point and organize the material from here. The theme is very easy to grasp, and it seems that we will have to compete in terms of literary talent and structure.
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Idea Tips
Frustration is inevitable on the road of life. We should not be discouraged when we encounter setbacks.
The setback itself is not terrible. What is terrible is the failure to recover after experiencing the setback.
We should maintain an optimistic spirit when dealing with setbacks, so that we can move from failure to success.
Even if you are in good times, you must be prepared for danger in times of peace and be ready to withstand setbacks at any time.
Famous Quotes
Seeds do not fall on fertile soil but on rubble. A viable seed will never be pessimistic and sigh, because only with resistance can it be tempered. ——Xia Yan
There are no rocks in the sea that cannot stir up waves, and you cannot become strong if you cannot withstand setbacks in life. --proverb.
Suffering is a stepping stone for genius, a fortune for capable people, and an abyss for the weak.
——[French] Balzac
Life is full of thorns, and the only way we can think of is to quickly jump over those thorns.
——[Fa] Voltaire
Failure is also what I need. It is as valuable to me as success. ——[Beauty] Emerson
Failure is the mother of success. ——As the saying goes
Suffering is the teacher of life. Through suffering, you can move towards joy. ——[Germany] Beethoven
Classic material
Frustration cannot stop the strong (Zhang Haidi is determined to become a talent)
Zhang Haidi has been severely paraplegic since he was a child. He was on the verge of death for the first time, and his body was considered weak. However, over the past 20 years, she has learned 4 foreign languages, translated more than 160,000 words of foreign language works, obtained a master's degree in philosophy, taught herself acupuncture techniques, and treated more than 10,000 people, making great contributions.
Compared with Zhang Haidi, what should we healthy people do?
Be brave enough to use setbacks as motivation (Verne’s 16 contributions)
Jules, the famous French science fiction novelist in the 19th century. Verne's first work "Five Weeks in a Balloon" was submitted to 15 publishing houses in a row, but was not appreciated. It was only accepted after the 16th submission. American writer Jack. When London originally submitted his manuscript, no publisher was willing to publish it, so he had to work hard. Later, his "Northern Story" was picked up by a discerning Western Monthly magazine, and he became famous in one fell swoop. When the famous Danish fairy tale writer Andersen's debut novel came out, some people knew that he was the son of a shoemaker, so they attacked his work as "a continuum of words", "ignoring grammar", and "understanding rhetoric". But he was not discouraged, kept writing, and finally became famous. After the publication of "Idle Time" written by the British poet Byron when he was 19 years old, some people scolded him as "bloody" and said that he "expressed his feelings on a lifeless swamp." However, Byron did not retreat, but responded to the slanderer with better poetry.
Strive against adversity and seek happiness in suffering (Gao Shiqi fought hard against illness)
Gao Shiqi is a popular science writer in my country. When he was studying abroad, during an experiment, a glass bottle containing a cultured encephalitis virus broke and the virus invaded his cerebellum. This left a legacy of physical disability. He endured the torture of the virus and completed the entire doctoral program in bacteriology at the University of Chicago. After returning to China, he dragged his half-paralyzed body to Yan'an to work. After liberation, his condition worsened and he had difficulty speaking and moving. He even needed help from others to open and close his eyes. However, he still created with an astonishing spirit of hard work and wrote more than 1 million words of works. Someone asked him if he was suffering, and he smiled and said: "No! Because I struggle every day, and struggle is endless fun."
Suffering is also a wealth ("Father of Western Folk Songs" Wang Luobin)
Wang Luobin, the music master known as the "Father of Western Folk Songs" in China, experienced hardships in his life, was in jail, had his wife and children separated, and was in adversity with great psychological pressure for a long time. However, with an attitude that was "better than strolling around in a garden", he devoted himself to the desert smoke in the northwest and composed many western folk songs such as "In That Distant Place".
After experiencing setbacks, you can become more angry (Pele and the reporter)
After Bailey became famous, a reporter interviewed him. "Will your son become a football king like you in the future?" Pele replied: "No. Because his living environment is different from mine. The living environment in my childhood was very poor, but I was in This harsh environment honed my strong fighting spirit and made me qualified to become the world champion. However, he lived an easy life and could not have become the world champion without enduring difficult training."
Faced with setbacks. Never be discouraged (Edison was not intimidated by fire)
A fire burned the laboratory to rubble. All of Edison's research materials and samples of sound films were burned to ashes. His wife was so sad that she cried: "Years of hard work have been burned up in a fire. Now that you are old and weak, what can you do?" Edison was also very sad, but he would never let it go. Down. When he invented the electric light, he tested more than 7,600 materials and failed more than 8,000 times. He was still not discouraged and finally succeeded. The current fire also could not make him retreat. Edison said to his wife: "It doesn't matter, even though I am 67 years old, I am not old. From tomorrow morning, everything will start again."
A hero is one who can bend and stretch (Gou Jian, who is willing to work hard)
The State of Yue defeated the State of Wu in 494 BC. Gou Jian, the king of Yue, had no choice but to seek peace from Wu and wait for a comeback. Gou Jian first bribed the King of Wu and his ministers with beautiful women, gold, silver and jewels, and also used his wife as a hostage and worked as a groom for the King of Wu. Gou Jian also served the King of Wu with tea, meals, and urine. He finally won the King of Wu's trust and was released. After Gou Jian narrowly escaped death and returned home, he continued to pay tribute to the state of Wu while gathering troops for training. In the end, he led tens of thousands of elite troops, completely defeated the Wu State, and realized his wish to restore the country from humiliation.
Defeat setbacks with optimism (Newton and others faced setbacks)
In ancient and modern times, at home and abroad, because of extremely strong and effective optimism, there are many people who have overcome various difficulties and obstacles and achieved victory. . When Newton invented the theory of gravity, people all over the world opposed him; when Harvey invented the theory of blood circulation, people all over the world opposed him; when Darwin announced the theory of evolution, people all over the world opposed him; Bell When he first made a telephone, people all over the world laughed at him; when Wright first worked hard to make airplanes, people all over the world laughed at him. Speaking of Dr. Sun Yat-sen, when he first lectured on revolution and national salvation in Nanyang, there were only three people who listened. Many of these people are praised by the world for their optimism.
Extremely strong and effective optimism can enable people to defeat the confusion, blind obedience, callousness, terror, resentment and resistance in the world. And the greater the work, the more severe the resistance it will receive, which has become a kind of law. To deal with this kind of powerful resistance, the most important weapon is optimism. A person who lacks the spirit of optimism will inevitably be defeated by all kinds of demons.
Example: Life needs setbacks
Everyone pursues joy and happiness and avoids disasters and sorrows. We will always feel sad about setbacks and sad about our lack of happiness. . Imagine that if our lives had no setbacks or depression, would we cherish the happiness we have, be moved, and feel the long-lost joy after being freed? No.
When I was a child, I often had colds and fevers. When I was about to take the exam, I fell down again and had a high fever, reaching 40 degrees. I was going crazy, as if something was struggling desperately in my head. At that time, I had only drowsiness as my companion, and haziness surrounded me. I could never escape from this trembling circle.
I took medicine and drank water, but my condition did not improve much. I'm worried, I'm angry, I'm complaining, why is there such a thing as disease in this world, why does it cause people to suffer so much, and why am I the one who suffers? A hundred, a thousand whys are spinning in my heart. All I could do was lie in bed, unable to sleep or laugh. When I stood up, the world was spinning, and I seemed to have lost my center of gravity. I longed for the outside world and hated the disease that wouldn't let go of me. At this moment, my whole body and even my soul seemed to be on fire. I was struggling desperately in the fire, just struggling like this. It wasn't until a week later that I recovered.
When I returned to school, I was in the warm sunshine. How much I longed for this bright and beautiful world. I found that the long-lost clear sky appeared in my world again. My long lost smile. Everything is so cute and so nice to have life in it! I have long been intoxicated with the excitement and joy of seeing my classmates again. I can shout loudly and run freely again! I experience happiness like never before.
This kind of life is colorful. It is precisely because of setbacks that I have a heartfelt love for life, and I will be grateful to all the people and things that give me happiness. We should be grateful for the power of setbacks, the joy after pain, and the happiness after suffering that a peaceful life can never achieve, because we need setbacks.
Remember: life without setbacks is incomplete.