1. A slap cannot make a sound

People who hold this idea believe in cause and effect. In their view, if there is an effect, there must be a cause. It is true that in life we ??cannot escape from the relationship of cause and effect, but it is possible that something unexpected will happen - in the numerous bullying incidents on campus, it seems that the bullied rarely seek their own death.

Therefore, people who hold this idea are simplifying the uncertainty of interpersonal communication, and even shirking responsibility: a bullied child tells the teacher that he has been bullied, and as a teacher, he should Investigate well, punish bullies, and protect the bullied.

But the sentence "a slap can't make a difference" doesn't just throw away the responsibility of resisting school bullying - "Please reflect on it, what did you do to be bullied?" This is obviously wrong.

2. If you can do it, you can do it

The meaning behind this sentence is actually "I have done it. Although I didn't do it well, I worked hard, and those of you who didn't did it" Why should you criticize me? "But think about it, why can't others criticize you? What if the reason why you are able to go to school is because someone else gave it to you?

We didn’t know each other not long after school started. The class monitor elected by everyone did not do a good job in the class committee work. I made a few suggestions. Of course, maybe it was because the monitor was in a bad mood at the time and my tone of voice was always the same. For a very cold reason, she said, "If you can do it, go ahead!"

I responded at the time: "I just don't think I'm good enough, so I'm not the monitor. But you can do it because we all believe in you." I have the ability to vote for you and give you a chance to win. If you don’t do well and you are anxious, we are not anxious.”

3. Don’t make excuses for yourself

Ask for reasons and attitudes. This is probably very common in the "human society". Indeed, being late, not turning in homework, and not doing your work well are irreparable mistakes that have already been made. When teachers and leaders ask you "why", they actually want you to show an attitude that you will not make mistakes next time, not Really ask you why.

But I still think this is a very wrong concept. Facts and attitudes are two different things. Being late is a fact, and not being late in the future is an attitude. They should not be confused.

What’s even more unpleasant is that these people have a fixed concept that if you don’t give them the answer they want, then you are making excuses. But again, why tell a fact that you are making excuses? Woolen cloth?

What makes me feel even more terrible is that this kind of humanistic society has caused everyone to lose the ability to distinguish between facts and attitudes, and they should be lumped together.