People teach others, but they can’t teach. Things teach people, once is enough!

The fastest way to make people mature is through hardships. After experiencing hardships, people will naturally see themselves clearly, see reality clearly, and see clearly how to take the road. This is more effective than any advanced preaching.

01 Only when you are in trouble can you understand that it is not easy to be sincere.

Mr. Yang Jiang once said: "When you are in a high position, all you see are flashy dreams. When you are in a humble position, you have the opportunity to see the truth of the world."

When people are proud, they always feel that they are surrounded by good friends.

Only when you are at the lowest point can you really see the human heart.

Li Mengyang, a scholar in the Ming Dynasty, was extremely smart since he was a child. He passed the Jinshi examination at the age of 21 and was awarded the position of head of the household department.

For a time, local officials, wealthy squires came to make friends with him one after another.

But the good times did not last long. Because of his popularity, he was jealous of his cousin Zhang Yanling.

Not long after, Zhang Yanling framed him for treason. The emperor was furious and ordered him to be imprisoned.

While in prison, Li Mengyang wrote letters asking for help to his friends who used to drink and chat.

Unexpectedly, after the letter was sent, it all disappeared without any reply.

Just when he was at his most desperate, a man named Kang Hai, who had not had much contact with him before, stepped forward and interceded for him.

Kang Hai found the eunuch Liu Jin and agreed to become his staff in exchange for Li Mengyang's life.

After Li Mengyang learned about it, he couldn't help but sigh: "I didn't expect that the person who saved me in the end would be Duoshan (Kang Hai's number)."

After he was released from prison, those who had Friends came to visit enthusiastically again, but Li Mengyang turned them all away.

He turned down many banquets and invitations, and from then on he only interacted with a few friends such as Kang Hai.

Time is the best filter, and years are the truest discriminator.

Those who are still willing to stay by your side when you are in trouble, and who are still willing to help you when you are in trouble, must treat each other sincerely.

02 I was bullied by life and found out that reading is useful.

If you haven’t gone to college yet, you must have heard many elders advising you to study more and get into a good university. Do you often feel that it doesn’t matter, and you even think of the inspirational story of Bill Gates who dropped out of school to start a business?

What you know is that Bill Gates dropped out of school, but you must not know that Bill was already very good in junior high school and high school.

He was admitted to Harvard University with a score of 1590, just one point away from the perfect score. By my junior year, I had already earned US$180,000 in royalties from designing software programs.

Although there are many successful cases of people who dropped out of school to start their own businesses, the reason why these successful people dropped out of school was not because they were tired of studying, but because they were capable enough to achieve more dreams.

Hong Kong's reality show "Rich and Poor".

In one of the episodes, Hong Kong rich man Tian Beichen was invited to experience the life of a sanitation worker with an hourly salary of only 25 Hong Kong dollars as required by the program team.

He needs to live in a "cage house" with the lowest rent. There is only room for one bed in the house and there is no hot water in the room.

When he finished sweeping the streets exhausted for the day, he found that the income from a hard day's work was only enough to buy two lunch boxes, and he had to work overtime to earn enough money to take the subway back.

Because the conditions were too difficult, he only lasted two days before giving up.

After experiencing the bitterness of the bottom class, he couldn't help but sigh: "This society is severely punishing people who fail to study!"

Tian Beichen's experience and life aptly reflect the most important aspects of society. The real side.

Li Kuchan, a master of traditional Chinese painting, once said: "If a bird wants to fly high, it first flutters its wings; if a man wants to make progress, he first studies."

I remembered a question I saw on Zhihu: "Is it true that I can't find a good job if I don't go to school?"

I saw such a heart-wrenching answer: "Going to school is definitely not the only way out, but if you have no business acumen and are not very good at talking, then choosing to study can also help you to have a better future at work."

Academic qualifications do not necessarily mean that there is a good future. , but without academic qualifications, the road you have to take may be more difficult and bumpy.

Reading is the ladder to progress and the ticket to a better life.

03 It took a serious illness to understand that health is the most expensive thing.

A hundred years of life is like a blink of an eye.

Whether you are poor or rich, whether your status is high or low, it is all passing by.

Only health is the most important thing in our life. ?

When you get sick, you will know that no one will pay for your health except yourself. ?

I still remember that actor Li Bingbing said on the show that when she was working abroad, she had a high fever for 21 consecutive days because of overwork and severe overdraft. ?

In the end, she had to stop filming and return to China early for treatment. ?

Li Bingbing said frankly: “Since I got seriously ill, I suddenly felt that my physical condition was not as good as before. I got tired easily, had no energy, and could not endure as well as before.

< p> I can’t afford to abuse myself anymore, my body will really be damaged.”?

So after recovering from the serious illness, she did not immediately get into work mode and catch up with her work progress.

Instead, I gave myself a long vacation to take good care of my body.

There is such a famous saying: "There is no wealth better than health in the world, and there is no happiness greater than inner happiness."?

Yes, even if there is no rich life , but as long as you have health, you will be happy even if you have simple meals;? Even if you do not have a highly respected position, as long as you have health, being ordinary is enough. ?

The sky is vast and the earth is vast, health is the greatest. ?

Instead of longing for more money and fame, it is better to hope for a healthy life. ?

Because health is the greatest capital in a person’s life.

04 Only when you lose once can you learn to cherish.

Someone once asked the famous Japanese director Takeshi Kitano: What is your biggest regret in your life? Kitano Takeshi said: "I spent my whole life competing with my mother, but in the end I lost everything."

His mother had a strict upbringing, but Kitano Takeshi longed for freedom, and the mother and son had constant conflicts since childhood.

When he was a sophomore, he had a quarrel with his mother, and Kitano ran away from home angrily and began to live alone.

For a period of time, he had no income. Not only could he not afford to eat, but he was also in arrears with his rent for half a year.

In order to avoid debt collection, he climbed out of the window every time he went in and out.

One day, as soon as he entered the room, he saw the landlord sitting on a chair, waiting for him.

Kitano Wu immediately fell to his knees and begged.

Unexpectedly, the landlord said to him: "When you moved here, your mother followed you. She said to me: "This child is stupid. He will definitely owe rent. If he doesn't pay the rent in a month, If you pay, come and get it from me. ”

Although his mother gave him a hand in difficult times, he still refused to bow his head and go home.

Only after becoming famous, he gave his mother money on time every month.

Many years passed like this, until his mother passed away, and his sister handed him a bag and a letter.

Kitano opened it and saw a letter with his name inside.

In April 1976, 300,000. In July 1976, 200,000...

It turned out that her mother had not spent any money.

In the letter, my mother said: As a director, you might lose your job one day, and you don’t know how to save money, so I will keep it for you.

< p> Only then did Kitano Takeshi truly understand how deep his mother's love for him was.

He held this letter with regret and finally couldn't help crying.

But whether it is a long-overdue apology or words of admiration, my mother will never hear it again

In "The Reader", Yuan Quan once read a letter affectionately. There is a sentence in it: "Every passerby you meet on the road is someone that others would only dream of meeting." ”

Milk will be spilled, wallets will be lost, lovers will be separated, friendships will fade, and parents will grow old.

When you ignore the people around you who love you most because of temporary dislike and resentment, you are actually wasting the best things in your life.

Don’t wait until you’re over the hill to find no one is waiting.

Life is not long, please cherish the people who are still with you at this moment, cherish every moment, love well and live hard.

Writer Teng Ping said: "I have always believed that only pain in this world can truly make people remember."

What can convince a person is never the truth, but the truth. Wall; What can awaken a person is never preaching, but suffering.

The more heart-piercing pain you feel, the more it will enlighten you and make you mature.

As the saying goes: If you don’t experience something, you won’t gain a piece of wisdom.

When you understand life, when you recognize life clearly, you will also know how to cherish and own it.