Queen Yixiu in "The Legend of Zhen Huan" originally did not have to personally participate in palace battles.

In terms of status, she was born in the Queen Mother's family. As soon as she entered the royal palace, she was the side of Fujin, and was later named the queen. Both her own status and that of her family were much higher than other women around the emperor.

In terms of love, she and the emperor were a young couple who had been together for many years. Although they could not be said to be in harmony with each other, they were at least in love for a long time. Because she is the sister of Queen Chunyuan, she loves the house and the house, and the emperor respects her very much.

With her noble status, long-term emotional foundation, and the respect of the emperor, it stands to reason that she could sit back and relax.

However, instead of just smiling at the turmoil, Yi Xiu took action again and again.

The relationship with her was as close as that of Queen Chunyuan, and she never let him go. She did not let go of her noble family background and favorable treatment such as Concubine Hua and Zhen Huan. She didn't even let go of concubines who were as stupid as Concubine Qi, as frivolous and flamboyant as noble Qi, and as lowly as Ye Lanyi.

Looking at all this, we can’t help but feel puzzled: What is it that drives her to murder others again and again? Why do we have to attack again and again and make enemies one by one?

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In fact, what led her step by step to become the "Runner in Palace Fight" and "Abortion Master" was none other than her own anxiety.

In the beginning, when Queen Chunyuan was still there, Yi Xiu was side by side with Fujin. Originally, under the protection of Queen Chunyuan, she could be the concubine, imperial concubine, and imperial concubine of Fujin for the rest of her life.

However, Yi Xiu is deeply worried.

In the Ulanala family, she is the daughter of a concubine. She was afraid that she would never be able to erase the word "concubine" for the rest of her life, and she was even more worried that her children would be like her in the future, and would be disadvantaged in the fight for the legitimate rights because of being a concubine.

Driven by this anxiety Next, she ran out of tricks and began to murder Queen Chun Yuan to seize the throne.

Anxiety blinded her.

She did not understand that she was not taken seriously at home. , not because she is a concubine, but because her parents care about the difference between a concubine and a concubine, because her sister is famous and eye-catching

But her husband does not care about her. Her situation would never happen again to her son.

Because she could not see through the reasons for her own tragedy, she would create more tragedies.

After Prince Yong ascended the throne, it was appropriate for him to do so. Xiu was naturally appointed as the queen, but instead of relieving her anxiety, she was always worried that her position would be unstable and that other concubines would try to take over the throne. /p>

For this reason, she not only did not sit back and relax, but also intensified her efforts to murder all the concubines.

When Meizhuang was the most favored, she had the idea of ??cutting down the regular dishes.

Empress Yixiu knew that this would arouse dissatisfaction among the people in the harem, so she not only added fuel to the fire and asked the imperial kitchen to use more vegetarian dishes, but also specifically said, "This idea came from Shen Guiren." This sentence made Hua angry. The concubine is even more gnashing her teeth at Meizhuang, and the queen just borrows the knife to kill people.

Not only Meizhuang, but also Concubine Hua, Zhen Huan, An Lingrong, Qi Guiren...

Queen Yixiu is against the beloved concubine. They took action not because they really did anything to harm the queen, but because she was anxious and afraid of losing her most important position as queen.

She completely forgot about Jia Zhimi. Sugar, Yi's arsenic, what she values ??most may not be wanted by others.

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Queen Yi Xiu is not only anxious about losing her position, but also afraid that others will become hers. The Queen Mother.

In order to become the only prince's mother, she not only wanted to murder the prince's biological mother, Concubine Qi, but also prevent other concubines from giving birth to new princes. Only in this way could she calm down her anxiety.

It was under this anxiety that the queen hinted to An Lingrong to take action against the pregnant Fucha nobleman.

Although the Fucha nobleman was not liked by the emperor, the queen was still afraid of being rich. When Cha Gui gave birth to a son, Hui Mu would use it to gain power and seize the throne.

So the queen ordered An Lingrong to use a cat to cause Fu Cha Gui to have an abortion on the spot. /p>

It was also under this anxiety that the queen gave Qi Guiren a "red musk bead" and asked her to wear it like a treasure every day. Not only did she give it to her, she also hinted that the imperial doctors were not allowed to tell Qi Guiren.

In fact, Qi Guiren was shallow and publicistic, with mediocre intelligence and nothing outstanding. He was far from the queen's opponent, and he was not an important role in the emperor's mind.

But the queen was still afraid, afraid that she would ascend to the throne, afraid that she would be pregnant, and afraid that she would give birth to a son, so she used red musk beads to "prevent the slightest change."

Because of this string of red musk beads, until the end of the play, although Qi Guiren was favored, he had never been pregnant.

Still under this kind of anxiety, after the queen induced Concubine Qi to poison Ye Lanyi, she said to Concubine Qi, "It is because the third elder brother has a mother like you that he is not taken seriously by the emperor."

In order to seize custody of the third elder brother, Queen Yixiu forced Concubine Qi to commit suicide.

It can be seen how irrational the queen's anxiety is.

When she was the concubine, she was afraid that she would be a concubine and her son would be a concubine, and her status would be too low to rise to the top.

And after she became the principal wife, she was afraid that the concubines and concubines would rise to power, even though they were far inferior to her.

Anxiety is the background of her emotions and her biggest weakness.

Because of this anxiety, she suffered and tortured herself all her life.

In order to relieve this anxiety, she has fought all her life and committed her own evil.

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There is a famous saying in psychology: 90% of the things you worry about will not happen. This tells us that most of the anxiety is actually unnecessary. Basically, what the queen is worried about will never happen.

If she did not harm Queen Chunyuan, would her child really not be taken seriously and not inherit the throne because he was a commoner?

No.

The emperor himself is neither his direct descendant nor his eldest son, and he is also a wise king. What he values ????and loves more must be a smart and capable son, rather than a noble son. Otherwise, why hasn't he seen the third elder brother from beginning to end?

If she did not harm the other concubines, would they really endanger the queen's position?

No.

For the emperor, if the queen has no serious fault, he should not be dismissed lightly.

Moreover, with the Queen Mother here and the identity of "Empress Chunyuan's sister", even if the emperor knew that she had framed Hongzhan for having an evil bloodline and that she had plotted to murder Zhen Huan, as long as she had not harmed the emperor's beloved Empress Chunyuan , he will never be abolished.

If she did not harm the other princes, would their mother really take away her position and power as the queen mother?

No.

Looking at the entire harem, no one except Zhen Huan is her opponent. Otherwise, during the years after Zhen Huan left the palace, she would not have been the only one in the palace.

Her only weakness is that she is not very favored by the emperor. But after the new emperor ascended the throne, this was not a matter of competition between the two queen mothers at all.

Deep foundation, noble status, family power, mature mind, and superb means are what really matter when the two houses are competing. When it comes to these things, Yi Xiu is the leader in the harem.

It is not difficult to imagine that if the third elder brother finally ascends the throne and becomes the emperor, and Yi Xiu and Concubine Qi become the queen mother, then with Yi Xiu’s scheming skills, he will definitely be able to suppress Concubine Qi’s stupidity. beginning.

Even if another prince were to take the throne, or if Fucha Guiren, Qi Guiren, or Ye Lanyi gave birth to a prince and became the queen mother, Yi Xiu would never be at a disadvantage in his fight with them.

However, Yi Xiu's anxiety and worries prevented her from seeing her own advantages clearly, causing her to fall into confusion and unable to extricate herself, causing her to make enemies again and again. She did not lose to Zhen Huan, but to her inner anxiety.

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Psychology expert Zhang Hui said that anxiety is our negative imagination about things that have not happened yet.

The first step to cracking anxiety is to see reality clearly and rebuild cognition.

When you are worried about losing to your opponent, you have to think about what are your objective advantages compared to your opponent?

When Queen Yixiu was worried that the emperor would depose the queen, she thought about it, had the emperor ever expressed his intention to depose the queen? Why did he make himself queen in the first place? Are your original advantages still there? Have the emperor's standards changed?

After analysis, she will find that her anxiety is really just imagination and has no basis. Her position was stable and had never been shaken by any concubine.

But sometimes, we can really find some evidence, so what should we do?

This requires the second step of solving anxiety, focusing on progress and enhancing confidence.

If Queen Yixiu could think about it carefully, she would know that she was indeed not as beautiful, virtuous, talented, and noble in status as her sister.

After becoming a queen, she has a sound reputation, a virtuous reputation, and a meticulous mind. She has no shortcomings in being a queen, and she will never make the same mistakes again, and there is no need to worry.

Don’t be controlled by your emotions and don’t become a slave to anxiety.

Only by seeing reality clearly, recognizing yourself, paying attention to progress, and overcoming anxiety can you become the true master of your own life.