Sanmao once said in "Send You a Horse": "How the heart is like, it is like a maze of thousands of miles, and there is no boat in it that can ferry people across. Except for crossing by myself, others can't help. ”
I remember this little story:
A devout Buddhist disciple encountered difficulties, so he went to the temple to pray for Guanyin.
When he walked into the temple, he found that a man who looked exactly like Guanyin was also worshiping the Bodhisattva.
Then he asked: "Are you Guanyin?"
The man replied: "Yes."
"But why do you want to worship yourself? "
"Because I have also encountered difficulties. "
Guanyin replied with a smile, "But I know that it is better to ask for help from others than to ask for help from yourself. "
The Buddha said: Life. Come to suffer.
Life in this world cannot always be smooth sailing, and you will always encounter various difficulties.
Not all pain will be understood, and not all fatigue can be shared.
Some people can "transfer" you for a while; but the only one who can "transfer" you for a lifetime is yourself.
During the Warring States Period, Su Qin, a famous political strategist, traveled for several years and came back from deep sleepiness every time.
When he was at his most impoverished, even his relatives abandoned him: his wife would not work on the loom, his sister-in-law would not give him food, and his parents would not talk to him.
Su Qin did not complain, because he knew very well that when he gained power, he was supported by others, but when he lost power, he was looked down upon by others.
If you want to get ahead, you can only overcome all the hardships of human relationships.
That night, he dug out the "Yin Fu Jing" written by Jiang Taigong, stayed up to read it, and studied the vertical and horizontal skills.
When he read late at night and wanted to sleep, he pricked his thigh with an awl, and blood even flowed to his ankle.
A year later, Su Qin ventured again, and finally lobbied the six countries, and the alliance was successful, and he was awarded the seal of the six countries.
After he became famous, he returned to his hometown, and the scorn and scorn that he once expressed turned into praise.
All disappointments in life are not without hope.
Good times can certainly make it easier for you to succeed, but adversity can often bring out a better version of yourself.
When people are at a low point, it is better to strive for success than to be angry, to change instead of complaining, and to rely on oneself rather than relying on others.
When you bear all the darkness alone, you will find that the suffering you once thought is not worth mentioning at all.
As Rabindranath Tagore said:
"The suffering you suffer today, the losses you suffer, the responsibilities you bear, and the pain you endure will all turn into light in the end and illuminate your path. . ”
Writer Martin said:
“Every strong person has gritted his teeth and spent a period of time when no one helped, no one supported, and no one asked for help. ”
In life, suffering is only for a moment, not for a lifetime.
When you are at a trough, don’t always think about letting others share your pain; no matter how difficult the road is, you have to walk it yourself; no matter how painful life is, you have to go through it yourself.
A mature person should understand that some things can only be reported as good things but not bad things, some responsibilities must be borne by oneself, and some hardships can only be endured alone.
For the rest of your life, if you encounter a trough, I hope you can endure the pain without saying a word, endure the pain and become a better self.