Are you afraid of being alone?

Being alone is not deliberately leaving the group, but enjoying the inner peace when a person calms down.

In this fast food society, not all people and things deserve our enthusiasm. Everyone's energy is limited, enthusiasm is given to the wrong person, used in the wrong place, and finally only oneself is injured.

When we don't have the ability, resources and status to match it, those friends who make great efforts are actually ineffective. This kind of socialization is not suitable for us, and it is meaningless.

Don't disappoint enthusiasm, don't please indifference. Instead of maintaining superficial excitement with blind enthusiasm, it is better to stay away from this "ineffective social interaction", learn to be alone with high quality, improve yourself, do what you like, and make life full and meaningful.

Low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude. Remember to do these things to improve yourself when you are alone.

1? talk to oneself

I like a passage very much: "Being alone is our best chance to know ourselves. What you lose in excitement will be recovered in loneliness. "

The world is too noisy, and there are too many voices from outside that always affect us, making us lose our judgment, disoriented and always confused.

When you are alone, calm down and talk to yourself and listen to your inner voice.

2? Read or listen to a book.

Reading can make us maintain high-quality input and output, expand our knowledge and cognition, and cultivate our logical thinking ability and communication and expression ability.

Books:

A woman's moment and the power of speech

My own room.

Meet the unknown self and break up.

The power of loneliness and the yellow eyes of crocodiles

May you be the best woman.

A knowledgeable girl lives a higher life.

Excellent people will never lose in expression.

3? Watch TED talk

Watching ted talk can not only exercise your English listening and speaking methods, but also improve your language expression and logical thinking ability, understand deeper knowledge and widen the gap between you and your peers.

TED talk:

How to define yourself

It only takes two years to change yourself.

30 is not the new 20.

Girl, you don't have to be perfect, you just need to be more courageous.

How to speak before others listen

Don't let anyone disturb the rhythm of your life.

4? see a movie

Movies are the art of life, which can improve our aesthetics and taste. There are many high-quality dialogues and speeches in movies, which are worth learning.

Movies:

The Shawshank Redemption

The Truman Show

The Legend of 1900

Green Book

Genius girl

The Devil Wears Prada

tight/small shoes―difficulties deliberately made usu by one's superior

How to go home

The King's Speech

A Beautiful Mind

5? take exercise

Good health is really important! Exercise for 20 to 30 minutes five days a week. It's really cool to relax after complete exercise. You can choose to go to the gym to exercise or do yoga at home by yourself. If you persist for a long time, you will really find that the whole person's state is better.

6? Clean up useless things from.

Take a regular rest, sort out all the clothes and sundries you don't need or like, throw away all the things you should throw away, or choose to donate them, so as to keep your family space clean, concise and refreshing, make your life more orderly and regular, and make the whole person feel happy!

7? Cultivate one's hobbies

Pick up your hobbies, you can travel, learn guitar, learn dancing and so on. Try to find more possibilities for yourself, improve your vision and pattern, and the days supported by hobbies are rich and colorful. Don't be afraid to try. Life is about constantly trying to find your own interests.

8? Regular recovery

Review is a process of discovering one's own shortcomings, re-recognizing oneself and enhancing cognition. Record what you learned that day, sum up the shortcomings and strive for improvement next time.

The process of resumption is boring, but if you persist for a long time, day after day, you will find that your thinking mode has changed invisibly, and you will find that you are making progress!

Yu Hua wrote a passage in Shouting in the Drizzle: "I no longer pretend to have many friends, but return to loneliness and start a lonely life with the real me."

Learn to be alone with high quality, and let us become excellent quietly!