The first point: Inferiority

Phenomena:

Because you were outstanding in junior high school, you have been surpassed by too many better classmates for a long time and ranked among yours. In front of you, you feel that you have lost face, your interest in learning has been reduced, you have no motivation, and you can’t see the future.

Solution:

You still don’t understand. There is a saying: Don’t compare with others. , only compare yourself with yourself. Making progress every day is the best state. You must think that what I say is just clichés, common sayings, meaningless. But I tell you, one day, you will understand: compare with others , is nothing more than a means. Comparing yourself with yourself is the consciousness and purpose that a person should really maintain. Many people don’t understand this philosophy. But it is very simple. If you think about it carefully, we don’t care what others do, as long as we have our own Goal, and you are moving towards the goal every day, making progress, growing a little, learning more, understanding more than yesterday, and the goal completion rate has increased by 0.1 (even if it is), then you will one day (Assuming 0.1 is completed every day, it will take 3 years to complete the goal) Will complete the goal (this goal may be more than one college entrance examination score, or an annual income of 1 million, or memorizing 4,000 words, or reaching a certain level of physical exercise An indicator, in short, it is a goal that you have determined and must achieve). Going back to your current situation, what you should do now is to set a good goal and improve it, and make a little progress towards the goal every day, and only compare with yourself ( It doesn’t mean much if you always compare yourself with others. It is just one of the lowest means to push yourself). In your current situation, the goals can be as follows:

1? Learning goals:

For subjects such as Chinese, Mathematics, English, Politics, History, Geography, Biochemistry, etc. (I don’t know if I have chosen subjects now in my second year of high school, I assume I have to study them all), I set a general learning goal, for example, to understand all the basic knowledge, to understand Understand and remember (remember, don’t do anything difficult first, it will be a huge waste of your time and energy, similar to sprinting, one hundred meters can exhaust you to death, difficult problems will also make you strenuous like sprinting) Please, the same is true during the exam. If you don’t feel anything after reviewing the questions, move on to the next question decisively. Don’t waste your precious time by being blocked. We must do the questions strategically). First understand all the simple and easy concepts. , formulas, theorems, and examples from books, these are the most basic things that must be understood. After going through the basic things in each subject, you can almost understand and roughly explain the principles. Then look for the key content. Remember that it is the key point, not the key point. Difficult points. Because the key points must be tested!!! Difficult points can increase the score. See clearly what the significance of their existence is. You must have goals in class. Find out in advance what the teacher will teach in this class, and make your own decisions before class. Plan, write down the theme and related knowledge points of this class, and do your best to understand the knowledge points and principles taught by the teacher in class. If you don’t understand, ask the teacher after class. Don’t be embarrassed, that is his responsibility. , he will never reject you. No teacher will reject a studious student, he will only appreciate your diligence and initiative more!!! When buying reference books, only buy books with mind map knowledge structure diagrams, those are all Don’t ask for books that are densely packed with text, no guides and no illustrations, because those books will only make your brain explode! All human skills and knowledge rely on memory. The root of memory is image memory. Words and numbers are symbols. , you must visualize knowledge and use knowledge maps and mind maps to sort out knowledge points and the causal relationships between them. Use a set of note-taking techniques that you only understand (marking symbols and various colors (prepare at least three colors) Pens, red, blue, black or other) are used to mark various important and difficult points, concepts, principles, etc., so that one can see that this word is a concept, that word is a keyword, etc. by looking at the notes or labels. Simple mathematics and quick arithmetic must be learned , for example, 99*56, the answer will be given immediately: 5544, just like 11*23564, the answer will be given immediately: 259204. Another example is 23*27, the answer will be given immediately: 621, these are not the answers that I have memorized, but It is calculated quickly. You must learn some when you have time. When you encounter numbers that can be calculated quickly during mathematical calculations, you can save 2/3 of the time. The time saved can be used to solve other problems!!! Memory skills

You should also learn it, especially the associative memory method. You can use Baidu to find many tutorials. Practice writing more! Nowadays, in Chinese language for college entrance examination, if you write beautifully, you can get up to 10 points. Think about it, even if you add 5 points, you can count how many people in the country you have. Hundreds of thousands of candidates competed!!! Let me tell you the four rules for beautiful and neat writing. If you follow them, you can ensure that your writing is beautiful and neat: 1. Positive: Horizontal and vertical, and similar strokes are equidistant (more horizontal, more vertical, more (Multiple points are equally spaced); 2. Even: characters with a well-proportioned, upper and lower structure, the strokes are symmetrically distributed around the vertical center line of the square (that is, the center of gravity), and the main stroke should be prominent. 3. Tighten the middle palace: the parts of a character intersect Wherever you want to go, write it more compactly, don’t be too loose. 4. The left and right structure of characters will almost always use this rule. The main strokes of the characters should also be highlighted. If you follow the above four directions, your writing will be neat and beautiful. Of course, the prerequisite is that your basic strokes (28 commonly used ones) must be standardized. It is best to learn Xingkai in high school, otherwise you will not have enough time to write. !!!Remember. Writing essays in Chinese is actually very simple. You can use one of the eight basic forms of mind mapping: circle diagram. You can spread your thinking around the topic (essay title), write down the relevant keywords, and then circle two or three A key keyword, whether it is to write a scene and narrative around the key point, to explain or to make an argument, in the middle, correctly use some metaphors, personification, parallelism, rhetorical questions and other rhetorical techniques (use at least three different rhetorical techniques Once or multiple times each), and write at least one aphorism, remark or famous quote, and then write it neatly and beautifully. This way you can ensure that even if the content is not very exciting, you can get 60-80 essay points (assuming 30 points, Get at least 20 points, believe it or not). Because the marking teacher does not look at your essay writing, but your ability to organize and use language. He has no time to look at whether the scenes and stories you write are good or not. If you don’t read them, he will definitely I don’t care how well your story is written. It only depends on how well you perform and develop your basic Chinese knowledge. That’s all. You only need to use writing routines to express your basic Chinese literacy. The rest You don’t have to think about it, it’s useless even if you think about it! One thing to note is, don’t use spoken language or Internet language, don’t use even half a word!!! For example: I’ll go, wipe, cool, cheating , classmate Chen Duxiu, etc., remember!!

2? Entertainment goals:

The combination of work and rest is not something that is just blown away. It is an objective law. If you do not follow the combination of work and rest If you study in the same way, you will gain less in the same time (you could have learned 100 knowledge points, but if you don’t follow the work-rest method, you may only learn 60 knowledge points in the same day and you will be overwhelmed) My brain is going to explode.) After studying one subject, I take a ten-minute break, play word puzzles, and hum a song (listening to songs is also ok, preferably music, classical music is best, light music is very good, lie down on the stage It seems like sleeping, but in fact it is resting, listening to music, don't worry about your classmates, no one is looking for you, don't look for anyone, concentrate on yourself, don't think about what no one pays attention to you, no one wants to play with you, wait for you For all the messy things that you can’t control now, you have only one purpose, to study step by step under the goal. Of course, it’s also good for someone to chat with you, make fun of you and tell some jokes. A truly strong person can play both , you can be more alone, and you will discover this secret if you observe and think more in the future!!!). There are actually many interesting things for entertainment, such as reading jokes, listening to stories (just buy a portable MP3 4), chatting, and playing magic (online There are a lot of them. Go to Douyin Huoshan and other places to find a few simple ones to learn it. When you have time, show your skills in the class. You will be instantly charming and kill those boring tall, handsome, rich and academic tyrants! Remember, good-looking skins are all the same, interesting ones There is only one soul in the world, you must be an interesting soul. There are many methods. Learn and accumulate slowly to make yourself humorous and interesting, and life will have more "seasoning"). Handicrafts are also a good entertainment, all kinds of simple Small crafts, such as plant stickers, paper cutting, origami, etc. are easy to use, simple to make, and full of fun.

3? Exercise and health:

Be sure to exercise after school. Be sure to go to the playground or sports ground and run, jump, push-ups, skipping rope, badminton, basketball, etc. openly for at least 30 minutes, less than 30 minutes.

Then don't go, it won't have any exercise effect. You must take a hot bath when taking a bath. The effect of dredging blood vessels and making people full of energy can never be compared to a cold bath. Don't be picky about your food. You can't keep up with nutrition. The brain's receptive capacity will be reduced. Don't eat fried and spicy snacks. The sleep time must be guaranteed to be at least 7-8 hours a day. Don't be hard on yourself, and have enough energy to study again. The body is the capital of revolution. If you don't understand this sentence In other words, go to the lobby of the People's Hospital for ten minutes on Saturdays and Sundays. Ten minutes is enough. Look at the long queues for registration, those running to the departments, and the patients and related family members who are in a hurry. In the face of death, no one can relax their brows. .Health is 1. With health, the more 0s, the better (10000..., knowledge, work, money, family, feelings, entertainment, etc. are all 0. With health, 1. The following 0 is meaningful, otherwise it will all be 000000. No matter how many 0s there are, there will be nothing!!!!)

3? Interpersonal goals:

What must be achieved first : Be polite to the teacher. The teacher you see often, no matter what, try to get his or her name, and when you encounter him, he will take the initiative to call out with a slight smile: Hello, Teacher Chen, Hello, Teacher Li, etc. Don’t be embarrassed, be brave. Look at him and she said it!!! If you do it, the teacher will only give you extra points, like you more, recognize you more, there are no exceptions, unless the teacher is mentally ill, those will not count.

Be polite to your classmates. If you are usually unfriendly to you, just smile and pass by. If you don’t take the initiative to look for you but are still friendly to you, if you meet (meeting here means you are the only one around) When you are two people) you should take the initiative to call him her and ask him casually where she is. When you see someone in trouble and want to help, be bold and proactive in helping. Don’t think about other weird thoughts. You have to know that you are positive energy. Actions to help others, not to have a crush on people, not to get close to each other, not to have hidden agendas, don’t think about those things, you are a positive energy being, don’t care what others think, do things that are generally recognized by society with a high probability, and don’t do other things Think and manage. Be brave and focused on being yourself, and implement your own beliefs and values!!

If you do the above mentioned, you will basically be an excellent student, without exception!!! Trust me. Of course, you cannot violate laws and disciplines, such as fighting, going to Internet cafes, watching small movies, etc.

Second point, it is very depressing and stressful.

Reason: You care too much about what others think of you. !

Solution:

You just need to remember one thing: you work hard in action (learning and thinking), you are enterprising in thought, and you are in this world in a legal and reasonable way. Living on earth is a matter of course and understandable. No one can accuse you of anything. You can exist with peace of mind and face anyone and anything (of course, the prerequisite is that you have not violated laws or disciplines or done bad things. This is the main premise.). So you don’t need to at all. Pay attention to other people's eyes or words, and be yourself with peace of mind. What can he do to you? Eat you? Make you unable to survive? Make you unable to study? Make you unhappy? Make you amputate? Why, you say , why do they look down on you and influence you? Do you live on their money? No! Do you rely on their help to eat, sleep, walk, read and study? No! Can't you live without them? No! At best, you are alone. A little bit, a single shadow, nothing more. But this is back to the beginning. I said that a person with a truly strong heart is responsible for his words and deeds, is firm, brave, persistent, and exists in this world without regrets. He can be gregarious, but he can also live alone. So what you should pay attention to is not other people's opinions and words, but your ideals and goals. Those are your values, your life, and what you should care about and Perfect things, not other people’s messy opinions and ideas. If you don’t change yourself and become strong and excellent, you will never be able to change other people’s opinions! Use your actions and plans, be strong and determined, and be methodological and focused. Work hard to achieve your goals, and in the end, you will be "professionally slapped in the face" - let those who look down on you and are unfriendly to you look up at you with doubts and confusion due to your progress and achievements, and look down upon you! !!This is what you should do. Maybe you don’t understand it, but I believe you can understand it. Look at your history book, then

These accomplished great men of the past, did they become strong in comfort, panic, depression and helplessness? No! They grew up in fighting the enemy, fighting themselves, and being strong and brave in their own actions! !!

Having said that, if you still can’t break through yourself and don’t take action to change your thoughts and learning lifestyle, then you have failed my enthusiastic help. You can just print out what I wrote. , show it to your parents, ask your parents for help, ask your parents if what I said is right!!! Hide these words in the deepest part of your schoolbag, read them at night and in the morning. Then, start to sleep well with peace of mind Sleep or start a day of study and life. You can definitely do it! Great! Meeting is fate. I sincerely wish you good health, study progress, focus, determination, courage, and successfully complete your goals! Over~!

-------Passenger A from Guangdong