I have been introducing a book to my parents these days. This book is called Appreciating Your Children. Mom and dad didn't take it to heart at first. Yesterday, mom and dad accidentally found this book on the Internet, so they read it all at once. My mother told me that "after reading this book, my feeling is only two words" shock "! I also deeply understand your good intentions! "

This book tells the story of Isabella Chow, an expert in education. Isabella Chow said that he was "unlucky to fall down and was lucky enough to pick up a treasure". Professor Zhou unfortunately gave birth to a deaf-mute daughter. In the process of educating his daughter, Professor Zhou realized the inseparable truth between education and life. We not only respect our children, but also look at them from the perspective of life, which inspires our love for life and the pursuit of life value. Under his appreciative gaze, my daughter has grown from a deaf-mute with no self-confidence to a girl full of self-confidence. In the world of sound, she can communicate freely and live freely. At the age of 16, he became a young college student and was rated as one of the "Top Ten Teenagers" in China.

As far as I can remember, from the third grade, there were few "sunny days" at home, because my mother always thought I had poor academic performance! In mother's eyes, a girl is going to get ahead in the society, and the only way out is to study well and get into college in the future to gain fame. Under our current education system, the whole family is full of complaints and scolding. Parents are sad all day, but happiness, liveliness and self-confidence are far away from us.

Yes, how much we need encouragement and praise from our parents, even a word! I always can't remember my poems. Through my efforts these days, I finally made some progress. My mother said to me, "Yes, there is progress." I clapped my hands and said happily, "Mom, you finally praised me! I will definitely learn poetry in the future! " After listening to my words, my mother's tears are about to fall! A casual compliment will greatly increase our confidence! You haven't looked at your children with appreciative eyes for a long time. When we were young, it was this kind of eyes that surrounded us and filled our hearts with warmth. You haven't praised your children for being smart and beautiful for a long time, which is exactly what we really need.

Being good at seeing our advantages and not stingy with words of praise will not only make us happy, but also make you happy!

Appreciate your children, appreciate our progress, and let us always be confident, so growth is more important than grades! Give our children more encouraging words, more trusting eyes, more understanding smiles and more kind touches! Then, we will grow happily!

Reading grows with my mother * * *

It never occurred to me that my mother, dubbed by my father and I as "a well-educated woman, man of great talent", was defeated by me at the age of ten one day.

that day, I watched Robinson Crusoe by my classmate at school, which was very interesting. After coming home from school, as soon as I put down my schoolbag, I rushed to my mother and said to her, "Mom, do you know who Friday is?"

"Friday is my brother on Saturday." Mother put down her book and said casually.

I was in a hurry, grabbed my mother's book and said solemnly, "I don't even know' Friday'. I tell you,' Friday' is a person, a character in Robinson Crusoe."

"Robinson Crusoe does have such a book. I have heard of it but haven't read it." Mom said.

"You are such a big man that you haven't even read this book. You are OUT. "I didn't expect my mother, who knows everything in my eyes, to have never read this book, and my tone seemed a little contemptuous.

Mom didn't say anything, but smiled at me thoughtfully.

When I came home from school the next day, I found a brand-new Robinson Crusoe on the coffee table in the living room. Mother sat on one side and said with a smile, "son, yesterday my mother candidly admit defeat, and today we will PK again." "That night, my mother and I talked about this book until midnight. I'm so happy. In just one day, my mother finished reading this book. My mother is really something.

A few days later, while reading a book, my mother said to me, "Son, do you know who pavel korchagin is?"

I've never heard of this man, and I'm at a loss. Mom smiled. Ask again: "Do you know ostrovsky?"

because my mother spoke quickly, that name amused me. I shook my head and asked my mother where she was from.

My mother is very mysterious. She smiled and said, "Do you want to know? The answer is in this book. " She took out a book from behind, entitled How Steel was Tempered. I was eager to know the answer, grabbed it and read it hungrily. From this book, I got to know Paul and Zhu Helai ... I remembered the famous saying, "Life is the most precious thing for people ..."

In the days to come, my mother and I often read PK. Under the influence of my mother, I am fascinated by red works; Under my guidance, my mother became addicted to children's books. Reading grows with my mother and me.

Parents

Be tolerant of others and be happy with themselves

My son is in the fifth grade this year, and his academic performance has been good, and he is also very smart and lively, so I never have to worry about it. But recently, I don't know what happened. I always come home from school unhappy and preoccupied, and sometimes I have scars on my neck or hands. I know something must have happened at school. But I asked him several times, but he refused to say.

One day, the child came back dejectedly with several scratches on his neck. I know, something must have happened at school. I took his hand and sat down on the sofa and asked him softly what was wrong. His eyes were red and he told me. It turned out that there was a man named Han Tao in their class, who studied poorly and was very naughty. In class this afternoon, while the teacher was away, he hit my son on the head with a book and said, "Can you hit me in a fight?" When his son didn't say live, he pushed his luck and knocked on his head and said, "You say live." His son said, "I can't beat you." Seeing that his son wouldn't fight with him, he took his book and tore it up. When the son was in a hurry, the two men fought together, and as a result, his son was caught several times on his neck. After listening to the narrative, I was heartbroken to see my son wronged. I couldn't stand being bullied like this, so I said to my son, "Mom will handle this for you, and I will go to school to find him tomorrow. If he dares to bully you again in the future, you will beat him hard and make trouble for you!" . I didn't take it to heart when it was over.

One day, while reading with my son in the library, I accidentally came across the book A Good Mother Is Better than a Good Teacher by a famous education expert, Yin Jianli. I borrowed it home and studied it carefully. When I saw the character "Tolerance and Generosity" in Chapter 3, "Smart Mothers Must Give Children Twelve Personality", I knew that I had handled this matter wrong last time. When a child is bullied, parents should first investigate the truth of the matter, and then negotiate with the other parents and teachers to solve it. They must not impulsively scold each other, let alone ask their children to fight back with their fists. On the long road of life, friction and conflict between people are inevitable, and calm handling is the best policy. The way mothers deal with problems in their childhood will leave a deep impression on their children and have a great impact on their lives.

So, I found an appropriate time to have a heart-to-heart talk with my son. I said: Does Han Tao still hit you now? The son said, "Don't hit me, but he ignored me and I ignored him." I said slowly, "Actually, my mother was a little impatient when she handled this matter last time. Later, I made an investigation. Han Tao was joking with you that day. He didn't mean anything, but he was a little naughty, not as sensible as my son. I know that Han Tao was so naughty because he had no mother since he was a child, and he never got maternal love, and no one disciplined him well. You see, he is pitiful. Even if he accidentally makes a mistake, we should forgive him and help him correct it, don't you think? " The son nodded his head sensibly. When I saw the child come to his senses, I gave him further education, saying, "There is no shortage of gold, no one is perfect, and it is inevitable for human nature to have shortcomings and deficiencies. There is absolutely no need to seek perfection and blame when interacting with classmates and getting along with friends. As long as the shortcomings of classmates and friends are not qualitative or antisocial, there is no need to care about everything. Forgive people once more, give people more tolerance and understanding, and you will find a good mood for yourself, and you will also feel that you have taken another step forward on the road to perfect your personality. " Then one day, my son told me that Han Tao forgot to bring his pen that day, so his son gave him his pen so that he didn't have to return it. Han Tao was very grateful to him and repeatedly said thank you. Since then, the two have become good partners. My son is no longer preoccupied, and he has become that happy and lively child again.

tolerance is a very precious emotion, which is of great significance to the healthy development of children's personality, especially their emotions, and the establishment of good interpersonal relationships. Teaching children to learn tolerance is not only for their children to deal with classmates today, but also for their future happiness. Of course, parents should let their children know that tolerance is not cowardice or blind obedience, but a concession to classmates and friends after distinguishing right from wrong, not a compromise to bad people. Therefore, parents should teach their children to be tolerant, tolerant of others and happy.

paving the way to realize dreams

-some thoughts on family education

Family education is the cornerstone of school education, which is related to the success or failure of education. Every parent should study it as a life topic, and the flower of education will bloom more brightly.

first, educate children to be spoiled but not charming, strict but not cool, free but not vertical, and teach but not reprimand.

children are parents' pet, and it is human nature to pamper them, but they should not be spoiled and let themselves go. There is no Fiona Fang without rules, parents should teach their children by example, and the education of their children should be strictly in place, and simple and rude ways and means should not be adopted. It is unscientific to give birth to a dutiful son under the stick, because after the passion, it not only hurts the feelings between children and parents, but also makes parents regret it. We should give children some free space and time for self-control, but we should grasp the direction of children's thoughts so that their behavior will not deviate from the norm and they will develop happily and healthily. When educating children, we should be persuasive, rational and emotional, and don't be overbearing and reprimand loudly.

second, educate children to be "triple-minded and triple-minded".

1. Pay more attention to the process than the result.

children's development and growth is a gradual and gradual process. They are young, inexperienced, weak in distinguishing right from wrong, tempted by unhealthy phenomena in society, and their thoughts and behaviors easily deviate from the track of healthy development. On the other hand, learning is characterized by poor initiative and the psychology of completing tasks. Parents should observe frequently, find out early and guide more to protect their healthy growth. Children's thinking is correct, their enthusiasm for learning is high, and their academic performance will come up. Therefore, parents don't need to be too serious about their children's academic results. It is enough to do a good job in their children's development.

2. Pay more attention to communication than preaching.

"though I have for my body no wings like those of the bright-coloured phoenix, yet I feel the harmonious heart-beat of the Sacred Unicorn" is a famous sentence by Li Shangyin, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, describing the soul mates of young men and women. Physiologists believe that due to the inheritance of genetic information between human parents and children, their spiritual communication is far more direct and tacit than that of young men and women in love. Talk to your children before going to bed, take a walk with them after dinner, and have fun with them in your spare time. You will soon enter their hearts, and you will know what they are thinking and where they are confused. I believe you are only one step away from educating your children. And those inappropriate soft muttering and hard nagging that are divorced from children's thoughts will definitely make children bored. They will bury their true thoughts in their hearts and not confide in you, and educating children will become a tiger gnawing at the sky and nowhere to bite their teeth.

3. Pay more attention to vertical development than horizontal comparison.

It's natural and normal for a child to walk all the way from his babbling, and his growth trajectory is rarely a straight line. Most of them go around or even go backwards at a certain time or several times. As a parent, there is no need to be nervous and anxious. It is the biggest feature of children to get up after falling. This kind of rolling and crawling will make them stronger, stand straighter and more stable, and walk faster and further. Parents should pay attention to their children's unyielding and stubborn, pursuit and dream, and the light of reason in the arduous journey. No matter when and where, you should tell your children that you are the best. Under your spur and inspiration, your children will definitely step on difficulties and walk well all the way. Every child has its shortcomings. Don't take other people's children as an arrow, compare them with your own children, and say that children are not good or not. Everyone has self-esteem, and a child's childish mind can't stand your blow, and his high-spirited mind is likely to be wiped out in the bud inadvertently.

In short, high-quality family education requires parents to have broad love and high enthusiasm, to meet with children's hearts, and to let children grow up healthily in a harmonious and happy environment full of trust.