Victor Hugo left a famous saying long ago: "The widest thing in the world is the ocean, wider than the ocean is the sky, and wider than the sky is the human mind."
Only with a broad mind and open-minded tolerance can we accept all rivers with a smile, stand on the rocks of Weiwei Mountain, and watch with a smile all the stories happening in the world. Only with great ambition can you overcome obstacles. Only by being open-minded and broad-minded can great things be accomplished.
A person with a broad mind can not only please himself, but also please others; not only can he be tolerant of his own imperfections, but he can also tolerate the imperfections of others. They don't care about things, they don't push others, they have their own world, and they don't have much time to care about the little things in their eyes.
A general has a sword but cannot kill flies. With tolerance in your heart, big things turn into small things.
On the contrary, those who are narrow-minded like to find fault with others when encountering problems. They cannot take jokes and easily cause a lot of troubles. If others are not happy, in fact, I am not satisfied with myself afterwards, but I don’t know how to change, and I feel very conflicted inside.
I have always believed that a person who wants to change himself can absolutely do so, as long as he wants to change from the bottom of his heart. The smallest thing can make you angry, or you may become extremely depressed. You especially envy those who are free and open-minded. You hate yourself like this, but you dare not express your thoughts to others.
If this goes on, one by one, the temper may become more and more irritable, or the person may become more and more depressed.
Instead of envying those who are open-minded, it is better to let yourself become such a person.
So how can you become an open-minded person?
I have a very senior psychological consultant mentor who said that we should read more philosophy. Philosophy makes people wiser, while psychology makes people a little smarter.
I deeply believe in reading. When you don’t know what books to read, first decide which ones not to read. It’s best to read less of those books that are useless and too romantic, and don’t read stingy words.
If you read more books, you will be able to judge which books are suitable for you to read, and which ones are more classic and worth reading.
There is nothing wrong with reading more good books according to your own preferences. It is not limited to books in any field, but I also suggest that when you are studying, in addition to reading books in your own industry, you can read more Philosophy and Psychology.
Philosophy means "love of wisdom" in Greek. Philosophy is a discipline that loves wisdom. It is to look at the entire world, or even the entire universe, from a high level, and to summarize the general laws of world development. Reading philosophy will expand your perspective on the world.
Some people may say that philosophy is like metaphysics. If you read too much, will you become paranoid? I don’t know. Anyway, I see that many friends who study philosophy are very open-minded and generally have a high perspective on problems. My own personality is inherently optimistic, but after reading a lot of philosophy books during my studies, I feel that many things are no longer a problem in my eyes, at least not worth worrying about.
Psychology, everyone should read it. Not only can you understand some general psychology, but you can also think about problems from the other person's perspective. Understand a little psychology, care less and be more tolerant.
Give yourself more time, learn to be alone, and understand and examine yourself well.
If you want to understand yourself, it is really not through contact with many people, but more about being alone with yourself and talking to yourself. Most of us will go through a confused stage, not understanding the world, let alone what we want.
Entering society in a hurry, and then being tested by society, experiencing many twists and turns, and becoming more and more tired of life. The lonelier you feel inside, the more you want to be close to people. Gradually, you have a glass heart. You are sensitive and fragile. A word from others may easily cause internal injuries.
What is needed at this time is not to eliminate loneliness, but to enjoy loneliness and hone yourself into a stronger self. Whenever you encounter something unpleasant, don't rush to vent, but reflect on yourself, what is the reason why this happened, what do I need to correct, and what will I do next time I encounter such a situation? face?
Or take out a pen and paper and write down your bad emotions. This is also a good way to engage in self-talk. If we insist on doing this for a period of time, in the process of getting along with ourselves, we can not only reflect on ourselves frequently, but also read more books, which can help us understand ourselves better.
Slowly, I learned how to face problems. In the process, I enriched myself and became no longer so fragile and sentimental. Another thing to note is, sometimes others just don’t mean it, but we care too much, leading to conflicts? These should be thought through when you are alone.
The biggest benefit of getting along with yourself is that you understand yourself, what you like, and what kind of life you want. Once you know what kind of life you want and what kind of people you like, you will no longer pay attention to what those unimportant people say and do.
When everyone learns to reflect on themselves, many things in this society will be solved, and there will be less groundless complaints and anger.
There is a saying that says: If you haven’t even seen the world, how can you talk about the world?
Some people’s world view may be like that of a frog sitting at the bottom of a well and seeing the narrow patch of sky above their heads.
Some people climb mountains to look at the sea. See a wider world and make more interesting friends. While walking in the sky and the sea, my mind was slowly expanded.
Traveling is truly the best way to learn more. We live in a small geographical space for a long time, and the only things we come into contact with every day are those. Without the integration of new things and concepts, it is easy to become short-sighted and only complain about a few things.
And when you go out and see the broader world, you come into contact with many different people and customs. In addition to seeing your own limitations, you also see more ways of life.
I also have a lot of insights about travel. Every time I travel, I rarely think about the suffering in reality. What I see is the infinite beauty of the world. Why do I still struggle with depressed emotions?
I have also stood in the Himalayas, a plateau of more than 5,000 meters, sometimes covered with snow, sometimes with blue sky and white clouds; I have stood on the top of the Lion Rock, one of the "eight wonders of the world" in Sri Lanka, and watched the beauty of the common people... …
As I travel to more and more places, I realize how ridiculous people’s narrow-mindedness is. The world is so vast, and there are so many beautiful scenery waiting for me in the future. How can I be so narrow-minded as to be mediocre?
When you know what you want to do, when you feel that time is particularly precious to you, you will not waste your time casually.
Focus your time on things that are important to you, and work hard for this important thing every day. The day will be fulfilling and happy, and you will have no time to worry about those messy things.
There are so many things you want to do and your personal time is so precious. How can you be willing to waste your time on people who are not worthy of it?
In the eyes of these people, those things are matters that do not need to be debated. Smart people have long since discarded unnecessary emotions and actively do things they like.
Be open-minded and calm throughout your life.
From a psychological point of view, you should not only consider issues from your own standpoint, but should override your own narrowness and achieve rational thinking.
When a person stands at a high place, he has a broad field of vision and can see thousands of miles away.
A friend asked me if I rarely lose my temper. Indeed, I rarely lose my temper because I don’t pay attention to many things at all and I generally don’t punish myself for other people’s mistakes. When a problem comes, face it head-on and solve it. There will be no unwarranted anger, and your mind will feel relaxed. I will be sad because of some things, but rarely can't think about one thing.
I rarely get angry at students, they do something wrong, tolerate them, re-educate and change them. In my own way, with one look and one movement, we formed a good tacit understanding. My presence is discipline. Some people also say that I look very gentle, how can I shock so many children, and will I be very irritable.
No irritation, just enjoy it. I tolerate students' mistakes, patiently correct them, and rarely get angry.
I felt very early on that this might be determined by my realm and mind.
Only when your mind is open will your life be clear and clear.