Treat time as a friend. There are nine chapters in total: dilemma, awakening, reality, management, learning, thinking, communication, application, and accumulation. I have read it twice, but each time I read it with passion either because of this famous quote or because of that famous quote. When I look back, I only know that it is a book about using your mind to gain liberation. When I was reading the book, I felt that what Teacher Xiaolai said was right, and I agreed with it, but to be honest, it did not become a part of me, I did not internalize it, it did not guide me, and it did not change the current situation. . Therefore, I organize the famous sentences to deepen my impression, hoping that it can become my own thing and guide my life, so as to encourage me.

1. Tasks have a deadline. Moreover, as long as the task must be completed, whether it has been started or not, the deadline is constantly approaching because time never stops.

Solution to this problem:

① Start executing the task on time.

② Correctly estimate the time required to complete the task.

③Don’t make mistakes when performing tasks.

Solving the problem seems simple, but in fact it is not that simple, otherwise there would not be so many people who would be helpless throughout their lives.

2. Are you both diligent and lazy?

The strange phenomenon of "both diligent and lazy" comes from their feeling of "time pressure". The panic of "no time" or "not enough time pressure" makes them extraordinarily diligent. Even false diligence still makes them want to forget about food and sleep. The same feeling also makes them constantly look for shortcuts all day long, euphemistically called "improving efficiency", but in fact they think "it's best to do it without any effort". No matter what kind of behavior, it is definitely unrealistic, because there is "no time" - this is the cold reality.

3. Death is not scary, but the process of facing death is truly scary.

It is obvious that there are other people in life who are living in another state of life. They are calm, they are elegant, they are good at resolving various pressures, quietly do what they think they should do, and achieve something. They can even reach a state that ordinary people cannot imagine - not being happy with things and not being sad with themselves.

How did they remain calm when faced with the same dilemma?

4. It is difficult for people to accept information or concepts that are inconsistent with existing knowledge and experience. The more wrong the concepts that are instilled, the more amazing their reproductive capabilities are. As time goes by, he becomes more stubborn, until eventually, he unknowingly blinds a person to their ability to grow.

5. Time is impossible to manage. We must open our minds, see clearly, and understand: the problem lies with us. And the problems we face have little to do with time, management or time management. There is only one core idea to solve the problem - everything depends on accumulation.

6. Anything a person possesses can be deprived of him, but the last freedom of human nature - the freedom to choose his own attitude and lifestyle in any situation - cannot be deprived of him.

In other words, that is: after long-term thinking, Frank finally realized that he could actually control his own brain instead of being controlled by his own brain.

The so-called "use your mind to gain liberation". No longer allow yourself to "follow your feelings" and become a slave to your brain, but become the master of your brain.

7. What is the mind? Simply put, a person's mind is the sum of all the knowledge and experiences he has experienced (including the thinking methods and thinking models based on these knowledge and experiences).

8. Some understandings, even simple common sense, require personal experience before they can be truly understood.

9. Quick success is impossible

10. In general, on the one hand, one has unlimited desires, on the other hand, there are too many things to be accomplished, and on the other hand, self-satisfaction The degree of rapid decline - this is the root cause of people's involuntary expectation of quick success. There is definitely a way out, but there is only one starting point - accepting reality. Tell yourself: I have shortcomings, I need time, and I can't get it done overnight.

11. Only by giving can you gain

Exchange is the last word - quick success is impossible, so what should we do? The answer is one word: - Exchange. Or change "what do I want" to "what do I have".

The reason why people who accumulate more are stable is because for them, the desires and desires of "I want" can be satisfied with the things "I have". Even if what "I have" is not enough for the time being, he can still make use of the sufficient efforts and diligence (or opportunistic methods and experience) he already has. As long as he gives time, he will be able to get what he wants. Once you get what you want, not only will "I have" more, but "I want" will also be easy to obtain, thus forming a virtuous circle.

When you think of "what do I want", immediately remind yourself that you need to spend some time thinking about "what do I have". The latter will put you "down to earth" in an instant.

The worst-case scenario is that you take out a pen and paper and face yourself seriously, only to find that "I have nothing."

This may be discouraging, but in fact, for any normal person, it is enough to still have time, energy, and normal IQ. As long as we work hard and are diligent, opportunities will always exist - we must believe this, and it is best to believe it without any doubt.

12. Perfection never exists

Some truly outstanding people will also be called "perfectionists" by others. In fact, this description is not accurate. A more accurate statement should be "He is a person who has the ability to be closer to perfection, and they have been working hard."

13. The unknown will always exist

In order to make progress, we must tolerate a certain amount of unknown. If you cannot accept this reality, you will not be able to tolerate the unknown existence and will add countless anxiety. Anxiety is one of the root causes of wasted time and inefficiency.

A relatively effective strategy is: when the problem cannot be solved, you can write it down first and then move on. Note: Be sure to write down the questions.

Not necessarily when, where, or for what reason, some of them suddenly have clear solutions. Of course, there is only one most likely reason - you keep moving forward, you keep accumulating, and you keep growing. So, the moment you get the answer, you are no longer the powerless you you were at the beginning, you have been reborn.

14. The status quo cannot be escaped immediately

Being dissatisfied with the status quo and eager to get rid of the status quo is a trap that people often fall into unknowingly (although occasionally this is the real motivation for a few people). Accepting the status quo is the best strategy - do whatever you have and use whatever you have; do whatever you do well and make good use of whatever you have. Don't always feel miserable (this will make people feel sorry for themselves and waste energy and time), but find ways to find fun in any situation - happiness is a skill. Excellent young people almost all have the following characteristics: they are rarely dissatisfied with the status quo (maybe their excellence makes it difficult for them to feel dissatisfied), they love their lives, they are relatively less concerned about the influence of the outside world, and they focus on you They are in a virtuous circle because they are focused on doing things without any distractions. Of course, they are making progress every moment because of this.

15. The way to make friends with time is very simple: do the right things in the right way.

How to judge whether what you are doing is correct? There is only one core: see if it is realistic.

Almost all stupid behaviors come from denying reality and escaping from reality. Only by accepting reality can we stay grounded and avoid being impetuous and ambitious.

Although the reality is always so difficult to accept, you should be calm if you are strong. All the realities mentioned above, including "Quick success is impossible", "You can only gain by hard work", "The unknown will always exist", "You cannot get rid of the status quo immediately", are both clear and simple, and you must accept it - not only Accept it, remember it, and firmly believe it, without wavering at all.

Accepting the reality 100% may be painful. But wake up – there is no other way. Just like the Phoenix Nirvana, only desire can be reborn.

Time is the friend of realistic people and the enemy of unrealistic people. Time doesn't mean to do this, it's just the way it is.