Things in life are like flipping a coin, there are heads (joy) and tails (trouble). However, often we can only see the opposite side of things (loss), which adds a lot of "unnecessary" worries. So, in order to have a happier life, you need to use "coin toss thinking" to see both sides of the coin.

Coin tossing thinking means that when looking at things in life, we need to see both sides (good and bad).

Many famous quotes also reveal this attribute of things, such as "Science is a double-edged sword", "Blessings are hidden by misfortunes, and misfortunes lie on blessings"...

< p> In life, it is easy for us to only see one side of things, so there is a very vivid word: "one rib". This word shows that life is not just one side, but many people can only see one side of things.

In life, if we can only see the "bad" side of things, we will have a lot of "superfluous" worries. These worries will affect our emotions and make us unable to concentrate and lose efficiency when doing things. Low, and life will be less joyful.

This is how you look at things, and the same is the result of looking at people this way.

Many people like to label people as "bad" - to describe this phenomenon, there is a special English word "judge". When you judge others, you are like wearing "colored glasses" - you can only see the "badness" of others, and then make a generalization that there is nothing "bad" about this person... completely forget it Forget that "no one is perfect" and "everyone has his own advantages"... At this time, his existence can only bring you troubles and has no other effect.

But if you can use "coin tossing thinking" to look at this person, deliberately discover the "good" side of this person, so that you only like the "good" of others and don't care about the "good" of others. "bad", you will find:

1. It turns out that this person has so many "good things" worth learning from;

2. It turns out that this person is quite good...

Isn’t it magical? There is something even more amazing! You will also find some "shortcomings" in yourself through comparison - it turns out that I am a bit stingy, and my connections are not that good... Although you have discovered your shortcomings, you will still be very happy. Believe me, you will face these "shortcomings" with a smile, because you have seen the good in others and you have seen a better world...

The same is true for things in life. When you can only see the "bad" side of it, it can only annoy you, but when you can see the "good" side of it, it will actually make you very happy. This is because when you change your perspective on things, things change accordingly.

Many worries arise because you only see the opposite side of things (your own loss). Then, the way to solve the worries is:

First of all, accept that life cannot be smooth sailing, and it will definitely be. The fact of setbacks;

Secondly, when encountering setbacks, remind yourself to look for the positive side (benefits) of things. If you can't think of it, look for it three, five, or ten years later (things that may be a loss in the short term will be beneficial to you in the long run);

Look from this perspective In the past, those who said "suffering a loss is a blessing" may have had such an experience:

In the short term, it was you who "suffered a loss", but one day in the future, it turned out that because of that "suffering" I got a lot of unexpected benefits...

With this method, "loneliness" is no longer a problem. When you are alone at home and feel lonely, if you can only see the "loneliness" in front of you, you will only feel more and more lonely every minute and every second.

However, if you change your perspective, take a long-term view, and discover the benefits of "being alone", you will find:

-In the long run, "loneliness" will definitely pass, and it is impossible to stay alone forever. Well;

-In the long run, "loneliness" will be the norm, and this is an opportunity to get used to "loneliness". Once you get used to it, you will no longer be afraid;

-It's okay to be alone Okay, you can read quietly and do what you want to do without being disturbed...

If you look at it this way, you will slowly fall in love with "solitude", you believe it Don’t believe it?

Finally, choose which option is more realistic and better from the perspectives that come to mind. Note that you don’t just accept whichever one is more positive, because sometimes the “more positive” option may be contrary to reality. After all, in the face of reality, we cannot escape and can only choose to accept it.

With this kind of thinking, many worries will disappear. For example, someone said that I was "stubborn, serious, rigid...". I used to be really unhappy because of this, and even muttered in my heart, "You are the one who is stubborn...". But, not anymore, because I would think like this:

If others can point out these shortcomings of mine, it means that others care about me. Isn't there a saying that says, "The people who find fault with you are the ones who really care about you." Haha, so happy.

Therefore, if you want not to be trapped by "unnecessary" worries, you need to use coin-flipping thinking to see both sides of things.

Translated again, that is:

When you are troubled by something, ask yourself this question - "What are the possible benefits behind this matter?"

After seeing its positive aspects (benefits), then accept whichever option is more realistic. It's that simple.

When you change the way you see the world, your world will also change. I hope this kind of thinking can change your subjective world, get rid of 99% of "unnecessary" worries, and have a happier life.