Teacher Zhang of a high school held such a class meeting in order to educate his students to be good at discovering the advantages of others. He asked everyone to speak freely and try to find each other's advantages.
Zhang Xinran is a special child. She was born without oxygen, so it is inconvenient to walk on one leg when she grows up. She often wrestles while walking and going to the toilet. Sometimes her classmates will make fun of her, but she is still optimistic. She insisted on going to physical education class, taking part in class dance programs and exercising. She does 120 sit-ups after school every day, travels to Yunnan and Guizhou in summer vacation, and insists on walking by herself. On the day of the class meeting, I saw Zhang Xinran also go to the podium and tell her brave story. She also invited classmates and teachers who usually help and care about her to thank her. In the applause of the students, Zhang Xinran also got two praise cards. Her classmate Ni Zijun praised her: "I am not discouraged, I am not inferior, I have perseverance." Jin Keer, the deskmate, praised her: "You are very brave. I want to learn from you."
Feng Yiting praised her monitor Sheng Wenxin: "Her English is the best, far exceeding mine. In English class, the teacher asked a question and we couldn't answer it. Only Sheng Wenxin raised his hand confidently and spoke the answer accurately and fluently. "
Zhang Gechuan, the representative of the music class, was praised by her classmate Cheng Shiyi: "Zhang Gechuan is a smart and lively girl. She sings very well. Her handwriting is clear. She is knowledgeable and can answer any questions. We asked her why she knew so much. She says this because she reads books every day. "
Some students are very excited when they receive repeated compliments from others in public for the first time. More and more students see other students praising themselves and others on the stage, and they all try their best to speak on the stage and praise the advantages of others.
Being good at discovering the advantages of others and affirming them is a psychological "enhancer". Being good at discovering the advantages of others is to learn to praise others. The function of praise is to give positive psychological hints, which is called "Rosenthal effect" in psychology. From 65438 to 0966, Professor Rosenthal, an American educational psychologist, conducted a famous educational experiment. Once, he came to an ordinary middle school, walked casually in a class, circled a few names on the list of students, and told the teacher that these students had high IQ and were very smart, and they were sure to have a bright future. Since then, the students affirmed by Professor Rosenthal not only think that they will have a bright future, but even the teachers respect them especially. Sure enough, as the professor expected, after a while, the professor came to this middle school again, and the students he selected really became the best in the class. Only then did Professor Rosenthal tell their teacher that he knew nothing about these students. He circled the names of these students at random. As for being better than other students later, it is entirely psychological.
This is the famous Rosenthal effect. Trust and expectation can produce an "intentional effect" and increase people's self-confidence. Faced with the same challenges and competitive conditions, confident people are easy to succeed. Praise is to convey trust and positive psychological expectations and encourage people to be confident.
In fact, it is normal for everyone to have shortcomings and advantages. Learn more from others' advantages and forgive others' shortcomings. The more we can find the advantages of others in our study and life, the more we can learn from others and improve ourselves. Therefore, being good at discovering the advantages of others can benefit you for life, constantly improve yourself and maximize your potential. Because in comparison with others, we find our own shortcomings, so we can stimulate our self-motivation, aim at others and try to catch up.
"There is no shortage of gold, no one is perfect", and everyone has shortcomings. On the contrary, everyone has his own advantages. Only by being good at discovering the advantages of others can we make more friends and win good popularity.