Shi Fen, the teacher of the Prince, and his four sons both have official positions of 2,000 stones, so everyone was called Shi Fen "Wan" at that time.
? "Virtue is a saint, and virtue is a gentleman." Shi Fan is a gentleman in Sima Guang's works. "There is no literature, but it is extremely respectful." Although he is not outstanding in his studies, his family education is extremely strict. When he was a teacher himself, all his descendants were officials. When his children and grandchildren return to China, they should also "face home first", that is, put on royal clothes first, which conforms to the etiquette of superiors and subordinates, and then treat them with courtesy from their families. Even if you have nothing to do at home, you must wear royal clothes as long as your children and grandchildren are around. In our opinion, this may be just a cumbersome etiquette, but Shi Fen uses this seemingly ordinary lifestyle to cultivate children's awe. What our children lack now is awe.
? But he is not blindly strict, and he is very particular about methods in educating children. "Children and grandchildren are wrong, don't blame, sit easily, don't eat cases." In other words, children and grandchildren made mistakes in this process. He never scolds them face to face, but sits without eating and lets the children reflect on themselves until they realize their mistakes and admit that he is willing to eat. It is because of his reasonable and suitable educational methods that their children do things reasonably. For example, he has a son named Shi Jian, who has always been silent when he was a doctor. But later, he will tell the emperor his opinions or suggestions, instead of pointing them out in public in court. This practice was approved by the minister and the emperor. He also has a son named Shi Qing. When Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty was a servant, he asked how many horses were pulling carts when he traveled. Shi Qing took the whip and counted it one by one, then told Emperor Wu that it was six. Do you still need to count six horses? This seemingly rigid practice is a concrete manifestation of Shi Jia's strict family style. Small things are still like this, and there is no need to say more about big things. But now our children have high eyes and low eyes. I think I can do anything, but I can't do anything well.
The stone powder family occupied a considerable position in the Han Dynasty, and even Sima Qian praised him: Zhong Ni said that "a gentleman speaks but doesn't do it", so his stone is called evil? It is based on lax teaching and governance. Alice is a gentleman! Even the empress dowager praised his pragmatic and unpretentious approach.
"Self-cultivation and family harmony" is the concept that our country has been adhering to since ancient times, and how many centuries-old families have been formed!