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1. Family education is the most prone to mistakes

First, most of our parents have not received special training. Whether when we were young, when we grew up, we fell in love and started a family, whether in school or in society, few people told us how to be parents. Even if anyone said it, it was only the elders. They may say that "a filial son will be beaten with a stick", "No growth will occur without beating"... Are these concepts that are spread in life correct? This requires us to reflect. To be a driver, you need to study in a driving school for 3 months to get a license, but as a parent, can you learn it in 3 months? Parents' different language, behavior, and education will leave different imprints on the children without special training. Parents will inevitably make mistakes.

Secondly, parents’ mentality of expecting their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed can easily cause family education to deviate from the direction. There is a natural emotional connection between parents and children, especially when mother and child are one. They naturally generate expectations and turn to their children to complete what they have not realized or accomplished, which is inevitably unrealistic. Parents' excessive care and excessive care deprive their children of space to grow. "The survey found that today's college students do not know how to arrange their lives. In fact, many of them have not considered anything since they were young. How can they grow? Going to the other extreme of too many restrictions and too much interference will also hinder children's potential. of release. We often treat our children condescendingly and regard ourselves as "parents": "You were born by me, and I asked you to listen. If you don't listen, I'll beat you up!" Such family education lacks "personal equality" - the provisions of the United Nations Children's Charter How can children grow up healthily with the fundamental spirit of education?

Thirdly, many parents neglect their educational responsibilities. Since society generally focuses on school education, parents pay more attention to school education, ignoring that they themselves are the real educational foundation and the key to determining the fate of their children. As the saying goes: You look old at the age of three. The education received in childhood affects a person's life. Children's first understanding of the world comes from their parents. The influence of family education is unforgettable. The concept of parent that parents are accustomed to is actually a derogatory term in English, which means "paternalism" and non-democratic. In order for children to accomplish something, they must have true understanding and acceptance before they can do it well. Indifference to educational responsibilities and biased educational concepts naturally lead to errors in family education.

2. Without the growth of parents, there will be no growth of children.

It is said that parents are role models for their children. Usually, behind the growth of outstanding children into outstanding talents, you can always find the shadow of a warm and harmonious family; similarly, when a person develops an unhealthy personality, you can also find factors full of conflicts and contradictions in his family.

When parents send their children to primary school or middle school, they always like to say: "Teacher, this child is all up to you, please!" The subtext is that it has nothing to do with me. In fact, this is definitely not the case. The hand that moves the earth is the same hand that pushes the cradle. Good families often grow together with parents and children; bad families often have a negative impact on children. Friends often ask me how much time I spend with my children every week? I say that due to my busy work schedule, I don’t interact much with my children, but as long as my children see me, I must be reading and writing, and there is no need to talk. Is teaching by example far greater than teaching by words? How much time parents spend studying at home, and how many books there are at home, will lead to different levels of children. A few years ago, the China Publishing House Association conducted a survey: 45% of households in my country do not have a book collection or a bookcase; 96.8% of households in South Korea have an average of more than 500 books. Without a scholarly family, how can there be a scholarly campus and a scholarly society? How can parents expect their children to become dragons or phoenixes if they don’t make progress?

In a learning family, parents and children grow together and even influence each other. They often have some successful ways of influencing, such as parent-child reading, parent-child correspondence, and telling growth stories. The growth of parents, like the growth of children, is an endless process. The influence of parents’ continuous progress and continuous learning is invisible and profound.

3. Morality is more important than knowledge, and status is more important than method.

1. The most important task of family education is to build the Great Wall of Personality. When looking at people in life, one handsome person often covers up all the ugly ones. With high scores, good grades are seen as good kids. In fact, among the factors that affect lifelong development, scores are not the most important. What restricts one is moral character, character, happiness as a person, being popular and respected, not knowledge. The influence of every little bit will lay a solid foundation for the sound development of personality. We have noticed that many parents care too much about studies. As long as they get good grades, they will agree to any request, fulfill any wish, and honor any promise. Low moral character is not noticed. Some children lie, take things from home or other people's things, are self-centered, and do not consider other people's feelings. Such educational concepts and methods are worrying.

2. Life destroys people silently, just like dripping water wears through stone; similarly, life builds people silently. Only by paying attention to the details and process of life, and only by becoming the master of life, can we be accomplished by life. There is a slogan in the new education experiment: "Status is greater than method, and method is greater than hard work." The reality is exactly the opposite, "hard work is greater than method, and method is greater than state." In fact, the biggest difference between people is status.

Once you have a state, you will have a method. If you have a state and you want to do something, you may succeed.

A scholar once said that the gap between philosophers and ordinary workers is far smaller than the gap between wild dogs and domestic dogs. The gap between philosophers and workers is caused by the division of labor. The gap between people of the same type of work in a unit is caused by their status. Some people are smart, but if they do nothing and blame others, they will achieve nothing. Therefore, the most important thing is the state and the spiritual method. Whatever is helpful to cultivate the mental state should be done; whatever is helpless, should be done less or not at all.

4. Give childhood back to children

Everyone often laments: Today’s children have no childhood and no happiness. As long as you enter school, you will never have a good life. Before entering kindergarten, parents have many dreams of letting their children play the piano, draw, sing, and dance... As soon as they enter school and enter the examination circle, many parents quit the previous games. Of course, learning is not to give children happiness, but to place many fantasies on it. Gradually, reality shattered their dreams, and by the time they reached junior high school, those beautiful imaginary hobbies were all wiped out. The rest is "bitter". As the children said: "I am the one who gets up earliest, I am the one who goes to bed the latest, I am the one who suffers the most, and I am the most tired. It's me, it's me, it's me." Yes, every morning, it's me. Children are the ones who rush on the road before the light is on, and the ones who are the last to turn off the lights every night are children (and maybe those who play mahjong). Today's children are really suffering more than farmers! They don't enjoy the happiness they deserve!

Happiness is an experience. Enjoying the happiness of education is a state of education. Ask the child if he is happy? The answer is no. But Confucius said in the first chapter of "The Analects of Confucius": Learning and practicing from time to time is not a joy! Learning should be happy. Why can't children learn in games, activities, and playing? Why is it called learning when locked in a study? Our parents should pay attention to their children's psychological happiness index! Don't let Fan Jin reappear!

5. Infinitely believe in the potential of children's development

1. Appreciation leads to success, while complaints lead to failure. Let's start with boys and girls. The toys we give girls are rag dolls and the like, while the toys we give boys are often various models and movable. It contains the meaning that we hope girls are gentle and quiet, and we hope boys are brave and lively. The result of a girl's fight is to be scolded: If you are so crazy now, what will you do in the future? The result of a boy's fight is to be praised: naughty children are smart. When children grow up, people say: Girls will not be able to do well when they reach middle school, but boys will be fine when they reach middle school. Know that a lie repeated a thousand times becomes the truth. The hint given to girls is "no", while the hint given to boys is "yes", which puts them in different states, so as the author wrote in "Enjoying Happiness": "If you say you can do it, you can do it." , it’s OK if you can’t; if you say you can’t, you can’t, and you can’t.” If you want your children to be able, then you must cherish every opportunity for your children to grow, appreciate their growth, and appreciate their words and deeds; if you want your children to be unable. , then complain and blame them.

2. A child’s potential is always greater than what has been achieved. Modern scientific research has long proven that human potential is huge. Didn't the disabled Zhou Zhou also become a great conductor? The deaf-mute girl Zhou Ting grew up to be a top student at a famous American university. This was a masterpiece of her father Zhou Hong's appreciation of education. Let us unlimitedly believe in the potential of children's development!

6. Let children have something of their own

While cultivating children's intelligence, parents must not ignore the cultivation of non-intellectual skills , should enable the younger generation to have lofty goals, broad interests, passionate emotions, strong will, and independent character.

The happiest thing for a person is to let him like something, even if it is planting flowers or raising small animals, so that he can devote his spare time and energy to it. Every child should have a hobby at home and at school. What’s best? Features. Now the score is the best and everyone else is a loser. In fact, it is too difficult for children to learn, and some knowledge will never be used in their lives. What is the value? Education should allow children to have something they like. Then even if they fail to get into college or get into a famous brand, they will still have good health. Life, happy life. Different children have different values. What is the value of that Fudan graduate student who committed suicide? There are many outstanding talents who have not received formal university education. But as they grow up, what they learn, such as kindness and diligence, far exceeds what they gain from college. Each child can have a different growth path, but letting him like the same will affect the child's quality of life throughout his life. Whether a person's spiritual life is happy or not is very important.

7. Make reading a lifestyle for children

Reading is a very important way for children to purify their souls and sublimate their personality. For a child's growth, the main task is to read. But now students seldom read except textbooks. Generally speaking, any child who reads a lot will have a broad mind, a rich spirit, a lofty ambition, and a persistent pursuit. A person's spiritual development history is that person's reading history.

Reading is the most important thing for human growth. Those nations with strong vitality in the world must be those who love reading, such as the Jews. The three greatest figures in modern history are all from the Jewish nation: Marx changed mankind's view of society with materialist dialectics, Einstein established a new view of the universe with the theory of relativity, and Freud used psychoanalysis to allow people to understand more accurately itself.

40% of the world's richest people are Jews. The largest number of Nobel Prize winners are also Jewish. Their attitude towards reading is almost religious. As soon as the child is born, he smeared honey on the book and let the child lick it, which means that reading can make it sweet. They will never allow books to be trampled under their feet. Each of them reads an average of 60 books a year, while the Chinese average only 5 books. A person who does not study cannot go far. Whether he studies or not has nothing to do with whether he graduates from college. Books are the real university and a paradise for spiritual growth.

Tranquility can lead to great distances. A person who studies may not necessarily be rich in life, but he may be a spiritual rich man.

8. Let the diary grow with your child

Writing a diary is a good habit. By keeping a diary, children can summarize and deepen their thinking about their study and life; they can exercise their ability to observe life and use language, and improve their writing skills; they can let children talk about their emotions and regulate their emotions. ; It can cultivate his independent personality and ability to handle things independently; it can exercise his will, broaden his mind, and purify his soul. Not only children can write, teachers can write, parents can also write. There are many successful examples in this regard. Some even completely change the status of a child, a parent, or a school. Because if you want to write wonderfully, you must live wonderfully and do wonderfully.

A common fact is that just because parents feel that they are not geniuses, they particularly hope that their children will be geniuses. One proposition is definitely correct, as long as parents grow up with their children, even though we are not geniuses, we can definitely become genius parents.

Nowadays, due to parents’ work reasons, they care and love their children less and less. As parents, have you ever thought about what your children really want? Parents, pay attention, these 10 kinds of spiritual food children want the most!

1. The love of mom and dad

However, the love that children want is not the love that parents replace everything else, it is not the love that makes everything submissive, it is not the love that is centered on the child, it is not the "care" that invests desperately in intelligence. Children want their parents to express their love for their children, and they want their parents to give them complete love.

A kiss before the child goes to bed, a pat on the shoulder when the child encounters difficulties, a warm embrace when the child is wronged, a greeting when the child comes home, and a "Dad" "Mom loves you" expression. This is how dozens of children we interviewed expressed the kind of love they wanted. Some children also asked: "Why can't mom and dad be together and love me together?"

Suggestion: China is a country that values ??deepness and implicitness, and elders are not willing to express their love for their children, but , children need their parents to express their love. On the other hand: the divorce rate that has remained high over the years has caused many children to lose complete love. As parents, we should create opportunities for our children to enjoy complete love as much as possible.

2. Please respect my personal image

Dressing up your children as cool guys or pretty girls is something that parents are very willing to do nowadays. As for whether the children are If you like the "packaging" designed by your parents, just ignore it. Some parents always like to use their children's shortcomings to compare the advantages of other people's children. Some parents always talk about their children's shortcomings in front of others instead of praising their children in public. In our interviews, more than 80% of the children expressed dissatisfaction with these behaviors of their parents. Children also value their own personal image.

Suggestion: Dress your children appropriately for their age, let your children engage in something independently, and then say: "Well done!" and praise your children truthfully in front of outsiders. .

3. Respect from parents

Telling children’s secrets to others as a joke. Parents usually cannot give appropriate and timely praise to their children’s good behaviors, but to their children Mistakes are always made excessively and ridiculed regardless of the occasion.

Suggestion: Children's self-esteem is cultivated through their parents' respect. Respect means that you must treat your child as a unique "one" and allow your child to develop his or her own hobbies and pursuits. Respect his personality, don't make all the decisions for him, and show your child your thumb instead of your index finger.

4. My parents serve as role models for me

Throughout their growth, children will imitate their parents’ behaviors and use their parents as role models.

Suggestion: Parents should always remind themselves that your child is observing you, so you must pay close attention to your every move. Consider yourself a good role model and a gift to your children.

5. Tell me how to be a human being

As children grow up, parents need to provide some rules for how to behave, so that they understand that they cannot do whatever they want and the importance of self-discipline. . This education cannot be rigid.

Suggestion: Everything you stipulate must be understood by the children and must be correct. Treat everyone and everything equally.

6. Let me play with my parents

More than 60% of children spend less than half an hour a day playing games with their parents, and 20% of children spend less than half an hour a day on average. 15 minutes, and nearly 20% of children cannot see their parents within a day. For children, no matter how many toys, no matter how good the nanny is, no matter how high-end the kindergarten is, they cannot replace their parents.

Suggestion: No matter how busy or tired you are at work, you should take time to play with your children. Let your children know that they are always the first priority in your mind. When playing, you must be pleasant rather than passive, and let him know that you are very happy to be with him.

7. Give me a little partner

Children need to play with children of the same age or slightly older. With partners, children can learn to compromise, sympathize and cooperate, and develop some New skills, interests, responsibilities, and more. However, not having a partner has become the biggest worry for urban children today.

Suggestion: Parents can open the closed door to greet their children's friends, or let their children go outside to meet more friends.

8. Develop good habits with me

At this time, this gift is even more important. Most children feel that their parents did not like cleaning in the past. Exercise and not pay attention to food hygiene. Recently, parents are changing their lives, and their children are very happy.

Suggestion: Keep your good habits.

9. Give me an achievable goal

Children start learning before they are born. Children face the pressure of learning as soon as they open their eyes to see the world. Children start as soon as they can speak. Let your children learn to read. As your children grow up day by day, their goals will increase one by one, and the pressure to learn will become greater and greater. All children do not want their parents to encourage their children. They said: "What we want is motivation to learn rather than pressure."

Suggestion: For children, excessive pressure will affect their intrinsic motivation to learn. Interest and motivation in learning come from parents’ understanding and reasonable goal requirements.

10. Let’s laugh together

“Our parents are too serious and have no sense of humor.” This is one of the reasons why many children think parents in movies and TV series are outstanding. Because, those parents are always laughing with their children.

Suggestion: Chinese tradition makes many parents think that they should be serious in front of their children in order to be dignified. In fact, parents who love to laugh will let their children see the relaxed and pleasant side of life, allowing them to Live with confidence. Don't always be serious with your children. Laughter can make them love life more.