Tell Children You Are Great is about how to love children. This is a guide for parents' tutoring in the new era, which provides us with a brand-new educational concept and the concept of parents' love. The following is my collection "Tell your children that you are great!" Reading notes for large classes, welcome to read, I hope I can help you.
"Tell the children that you are great!" Reading Notes for Large Classes "1" On the long road of life, everyone will have many things that cannot be realized. Good psychological quality, open-minded, calm and successful; Poor psychological quality, trouble entangled, difficult to extricate themselves, so I fell. Just like a wooden barrel, its water capacity does not depend on the longest board (IQ), but on the shortest board (EQ). "What a philosophical sentence. From this sentence, I understand that any small change of a child should be regarded as a treasure in your eyes, and his change is as pleasant as discovering a new continent. Children are still young, and there is still a long way to go. We shouldn't expect too much from them. In fact, your child is your child, and there is no need to always compare with other people's children. Any comparison is harmful. Every child has his own personality, and every child should develop on the basis of his own reality, not a copy of other children. So when he learned to write the first word. When telling the first story, compare the child's past and present from his own point of view. Even if there is a small progress and change, we should sincerely encourage and support our children. Don't be stingy with your sentence "You are great", although his handwriting is not very good in your eyes, which is far from your requirements. But as parents who love him, care for him and raise him, they should not have such negative thoughts. You should use your warmth to care for his growth.
In fact, children are looking for other people's understanding every day and expect a fair evaluation. People's demand for survival value is stronger than survival itself. When children degenerate to nothing, they will show obvious depression, which will not only affect their health, but also produce world-weariness and even make extreme actions that hurt themselves or others. Just like those children who are often classified as naughty, why do they always make mistakes but still can't change them? Actually, their hearts are not really bad! I've always wanted to go against my teacher! It's that we give them what they consider unequal "treatment". He thinks so: everyone doesn't like me, even the teacher says I'm disobedient. As long as it's bad. Nobody dares to mess with me! It's better than boring. Such an example has happened around me: a child in my class is very active, and his actions are particularly rude when he contacts others, which often hurts others. He is also strong and often likes to kick other children. His behavior seems to me to be a kind of helpless vent, because everyone doesn't play with him, so I feel very uncomfortable. Other teachers are strict with him. Once in class, I deliberately asked him to get up to answer questions and found that his answer was the best. I exaggerated him in front of the whole class. "wow! You're amazing! Great! " Then he seems to be a different person, doing everything quietly and devotedly. I asked him to stack the boxes of oil pastels in the classroom, and he was so busy that he sweated until all the boxes were stacked neatly! Then he asked me, "Teacher, is there anything else I can do for you?" At that time, I was shocked to the extreme by his behavior! Indeed, the trust I gave him made him feel confident and proud, because the teacher has recognized him as a capable child!
I believe that in the days to come, I will often tell the children that you are great! !
"Tell the children that you are great! Reading Notes 2 for Large Classes Entrust Important Tasks to Children. Support children to do everything they can; No matter what children do for their parents, even if they bring a glass of water, parents will gladly accept it and sincerely say to their son, "It's different to have a son!" "Praise your daughter and say," It's good to have a daughter! " After listening to this, the children feel that they are very useful and their motivation to help their parents is doubled.
I found the child's little progress: "very good, son, you have made progress than yesterday!" " ""Never mind, success is hidden behind failure! " "Boy, you are great! "Children will be full of confidence when they see their progress. Children who grow up with tolerance will be extremely patient.
The process of any child's growth is a process of making mistakes-recognizing mistakes-admitting mistakes-correcting mistakes; It is harmful to children not to allow them to make mistakes. Patiently help children understand their mistakes and let them feel the consequences of their actions. This is what we often say, let children learn to be responsible for their actions.
Look at children with trust and be sure that your children are good children, even if they make mistakes. Often use the vision of "discovering the new world" to discover the bright spots in children. Children feel the power of trust from their parents' unique eyes, so they will try to show their positive side for fear of losing this trust. Children who grow up with identity will master their goals, love themselves and become excellent.
Children need to be in charge and rules need to be learned. Letting go is not equal to indulgence. Caring is not equal to doting. Helping children develop good behavior habits from an early age is responsible for their lives.
"Tell the children that you are great! At the beginning of the holiday, teacher Yin in the office recommended reading "Tell the children that you are great". She suggested that I have a look, which might help the children. I didn't buy it right away, and I gradually forgot. I once came across this book in the book city and flipped through it. Only the catalogue attracted me deeply.
After reading the book "Tell children you are great", my mind was strongly shocked and I understood that "confidence comes from the hint of success, and fear comes from the hint of failure." This is not only suitable for us to educate our children, but also for ourselves.
Many parents force their children to study all day and lack confidence in their children. Parents who "push, pressure, argue and scold" their children are precisely lacking confidence in their children.
Think about myself carefully. Me, too. When my children didn't learn as well as I expected, I first lost my self-confidence, which was manifested in my words and actions, which dampened the children's enthusiasm for learning, led to the idea that I was not cut out for this material, and let the confident building collapse from now on.
In fact, I also see telling children in life: "progress", "can do better" and "don't be discouraged, and you will succeed if you work harder!" "I'm so proud of you!" "It doesn't matter, failure is the mother of success" ... When positive words imply, children will be full of energy, their faces will be full of joy, and they will work harder to do their best; But many times we will blurt out: "I've said it many times, why can't I", "You won't understand anyway", "Forget it, that's it" and "Why are you so stupid". We can't tolerate and understand children's mistakes, but express our dissatisfaction, criticism and accusation, which brings too much negative information to children. When I saw the depressed child written on the child's face, I didn't think deeply about what kind of psychological burden such words and accusations caused to the child; I haven't thought deeply about whether such behavior will make children lose confidence.
For children, it is not important to have talent, but to have interest and confidence. Seeing that children have lost confidence in learning, should we reflect on our behavior? Should we learn more about the art of educating children, love, respect, understand and understand children like Lu Qin, let children live in an environment where you can do it, and let them gradually change from negative to positive, and change "you can do it" into "I can do it"? Let children experience the feeling of success, build self-confidence and reshape the ideal palace.
Therefore, through reflection, in the process of educating children, I think I should do:
First, respect the child's personality.
Respect for personality is regardless of time and place, and it doesn't matter whether there are many advantages or disadvantages. It is wrong for parents to respect their children when they have achievements, but not when they have problems, and to praise or criticize them at will. Parents may wish to think about how they want others to treat them when they have shortcomings and mistakes. Children are eager for respect, first of all, the respect of parents and teachers. If you respect your children, you can't say anything degrading and self-respecting to your children.
Second, help children succeed and often encourage them.
Any small success can boost people's confidence. A child, when he has written a word, done a question correctly and answered the teacher's question correctly, will have the joy of success and expect himself to do better next time. As a parent, it is not so difficult to help a child and let him have a little successful experience. This is to think big and start small. In a small success, accumulate a little self-confidence.
"Tell the children that you are great! On the recommendation of my daughter's head teacher, I recently read the book "Tell Your Children You Are Great" written by my good sister Lu Qin. In the book, the author tells his parents the little things around him, one by one. The purpose of education is to bring all the potential of children into full play. Parents don't always have to compare their children with other people's children. What they should care about is that your children will be better tomorrow than today! Along the way, many stories are touching, many details are touching, and many words are thought-provoking.
I have always thought that children's potential is unlimited, but now parents are overprotective of their children. Going back to my hometown in the countryside on a weekend, I happened to meet a key high school in our place to do a tour. Teenagers stumbling forward in thick cotton-padded jackets. My daughter sitting next to me asked me, "Mom, why do these brothers and sisters run like this?" My 8-year-old daughter must have seen them not running. What is even more incredible is that the student team is followed by a group of caring parents, holding all kinds of snacks and thermos cups in their hands, and constantly pleasing their children. "Is that okay? Why don't we have a rest? " I suddenly feel that these parents have ever thought that the growth of children is ultimately their own business, and the children themselves are the main body of growth. Parents can't and shouldn't interfere.
Looking back on my daughter's eight-year growth, I have always played the role of "lazy mother". As long as there is no danger, I will try to let her solve it herself. Daughter's confidence in sunshine is also cultivated in this way. By solving the problem step by step, she gained valuable pride and self-recognition, and also developed a good habit of trying to solve the problem by herself. In winter, every time I take my daughter to take a bath in the public bathroom of my unit, I always hear someone praise my daughter for taking a bath and undressing herself since she was five or six years old. My daughter is very willing to do it herself, thinking that she can. I will also give her a thumbs-up and give her a big encouragement. "You are great!" At this rate, my daughter will do it almost perfectly. However, many times as parents, we can't let go, and often worry that our children can't do this or that, so we do everything for our children, even brushing our teeth, leaving no chance for them to try and grow. It is not that the child is too incompetent, but that the parents deprive the child of the right of independence, autonomy and self-care. Excessive protection can only bring about children's incompetence, and excessive interference can only make children helpless.
There is also a passage in the book that deeply touched me: "On the long road of life, everyone has a lot of things that can't be done. They have good psychological quality and are open-minded and calm, so they succeed; Poor quality in my heart, tangled troubles, and difficult to extricate myself, so I fell. Just like a wooden barrel, its water capacity does not depend on the longest board, but on the shortest board. " I suddenly realized that I often forget the "shortest plank"-the importance of children's emotional intelligence in my education. In fact, as Lu Qin, a "bosom sister", said, the purpose of education is to maximize the potential of different children, and the purpose of children's education is to find the truest self. "You are great!" It is the key to the child's heart. Every child has advantages and disadvantages, so we should moderately exaggerate his advantages and subtly correct his shortcomings, instead of criticizing his shortcomings in a big way. During the time when I chose the monitor in my daughter's class, every night on the way home with my daughter, my daughter would repeatedly ask me a question, "Mom, if you were the head teacher of our class, who would you choose as the monitor?" When I first asked her, I didn't take her seriously. I casually mentioned a child I knew, "What about the second one?" My daughter then asked, I said another one, and my daughter is still not satisfied? When I finally said my daughter's name, she said happily, "Is it because I am great!" " "In the next few days, my daughter and I will repeat the same question game, and finally the game will end after hearing our names. Appreciation education can ignite sparks for children's lives and make them confident and self-recognized. Children who are confident are lucky. Why not make every child lucky?
Loving children is an emotion shared by every parent. However, how to love and how to love are also issues that many parents need to examine. Thanks to this book, I can re-examine my words and deeds as a mother, let me know how to praise, admire, appreciate, understand and respect our children with a "childlike innocence", find and seize their bright spots, encourage them to have their own lives, and at the same time trust them and dare to let go, because this is also essential in their lives.
"Tell the children that you are great! After reading the book "Tell your children that you are great", my heart was obviously shocked, and I understood that confidence comes from the hint of success and fear comes from the hint of failure. This is not only suitable for everyone to educate their children, but also for ourselves.
Many parents force their children to study and train all day, and what they lack is confidence in their children. I just lack confidence in the parents who persecute, suppress, argue and scold their children.
When I think about myself, I am not like that. When my children were not as good as I expected, I first lost my self-confidence and showed it in words and actions, which seriously hit my children's initiative in learning and training, leading me to think that I didn't expect this, and the confident business building collapsed.
In fact, it is because I have seen telling children in daily life that they can do better if they develop, don't be discouraged, and their efforts will succeed! I'm so proud of you! It doesn't matter, failure is the mother of success. When positive and developed words hint, children will be in high spirits, their faces will be full of joy, and they will work harder to ensure the best. But many times, everyone will blurt out: I've said it many times, it's not easy, how to say it, you can't easily figure it out, forget it, that's it, how stupid it is, you can't tolerate and understand your child's mistakes, blindly express dissatisfaction, criticize and accuse, and produce too many negative news for your child. When I saw a frustrated child written on my child's face, I didn't think about the psychological burden such words and reprimands would cause; I never thought that such personal behavior would make children lack self-confidence.
For children, it doesn't matter whether there is a gift or not. The key is to have a hobby and confidence. Seeing that children lose self-confidence in study and training, should everyone think about their personal behavior? Should they learn and train more plastic arts to educate their children, love, value, understand and understand their children like Lu Qin, let them live in a natural environment that you can do, let them gradually change from depression to initiative, and turn what you can do into what I can do. Let children feel the feeling of success, create self-confidence and rebuild the idealized temple.
Therefore, according to thinking, in the whole process of cultural education for children, I think I should ensure that:
First, pay attention to the child's personality.
Pay attention to personality, regardless of time and address, regardless of advantages and disadvantages. If parents attach importance to their children when they have exam results and do not attach importance to new children when there are problems, they can praise or criticize them at will, which is wrong. Why don't parents think about how to expect others to look at themselves when they are flawed and inaccurate by communicating their mental state? Children expect attention, first of all, from parents and teachers. If you value children, you can't say anything degrading and hurting your self-esteem.
Second, help children succeed and often motivate them.
All subtle success can improve people's self-confidence. A child who writes a word and does a question correctly answers the teacher appropriately. Difficulties, he is full of joy of success and hopes to do better next time. As a parent, it is not so difficult to help a child and make him feel successful bit by bit. This is to think big and start small. In a small success, accumulate a little self-confidence.
I once read an article called "A Meeting between a Mother and Parents", in which all the mothers signed up for the three-parent meeting of their children. For the first time, the kindergarten teacher said: Your child has ADHD and can't sit on the stool for three minutes. You'd better take him to the hospital.
On the way home, the child asked her what the teacher said. Her nose hurts, and she almost cried. Because of the 30 children in the class, only he performed the worst; Only for him, the teacher mainly showed disdain. The little mother looked proud and said to her son: The teacher praised you and said that the baby can't sit on the bench for one minute, but now he can sit for three minutes. Other mothers are envious of their mothers and think that only the baby has developed in the class. That night, her children ate two bowls of rice for the first time and didn't let her feed them.
At the second parent-teacher meeting, the primary and secondary school teacher said to his mother: 50 students in the class, your child ranked 49 th in this math exam. Everyone suspects that his IQ is blocked. You'd better take him to the hospital for examination. Mother shed tears, but when she got home, she said to her son sitting at the desk, the teacher is full of confidence in you. He said, you are not a stupid child. If you are careful, you will surpass your deskmate. This time, your deskmate ranked 2 1.
The child's dim eyes suddenly filled with light, and his depressed face suddenly buckled. Her son is very docile, which surprised her. He seems to have grown up a lot. When I go to school the next day, I have to leave earlier than usual.
At the third meeting of mom and dad, mom squatted in the child's seat, waiting for the teacher to call the child's name, because every time mom and dad met, the child's name was always called in the team of poor students. As we all know, this time it was out of her expectation, and I didn't hear it until the end. She is not used to it. When I left, I asked the teacher. The junior high school teacher told her: according to your son's current exam results, it is a bit dangerous to enter a key high school. She left school full of joy, with an indescribable sweetness in her heart. She told her son that the class teacher was very satisfied with you. He said that if you are diligent, you are expected to be admitted to a key high school.
"Tell the children that you are great! Whether as parents or teachers, we all know that we should appreciate, understand and respect our children when educating them, but in the actual education process, there are really few people who can persist in doing this. When I am in a good mood, I do well. When I was in a bad mood, simple and rude education methods broke out without brewing. I recently read a book about education and told my children that you are great and have benefited a lot.
This book tells about the depressing learning environment of children. Parents lack trust in their children. In the long-term "noisy, pressing and pushing" environment, children lose their happiness and self-confidence. When they want to do something, they will first think of failure and think that they can't do it. They don't have the courage to try, and they don't have the motivation to believe. In fact, this cowardly thought can not rule out the excessive discipline and suppression of parents. Bernard Shaw famously said, "A confident person can turn smallness into greatness and mediocrity into magic." For everyone, confidence is a pair of wings. When you give encouragement and give a beacon that I am good at, it will fly higher and faster, and then you can see the beautiful scenery ahead. This kind of motivation, this kind of navigation mark, requires the efforts and efforts of parents and teachers.
From the perspective of life science, every child has great potential, but in the process of life growth, it is inevitable that there will be inferiority complex. The key is how to get children out of inferiority complex. As the book says, to motivate children with "I can do it", we must first make sure that children can do it. Let children practice and experience the taste of failure and success. In this process, we should learn to appreciate education and light a spark for children's lives. Children who are confident are lucky. Why not make every child lucky? In short, appreciating and trusting children requires us to believe from the heart, not on the surface. When children encounter difficulties, we should tell them loudly in the language of trust and encouragement in time: "You are great, you can do it!" " "We look at children with all-round development and believe that they will surprise us.
As a teacher and the mother of a child, I am very grateful for this book. This makes my eyes shine, my eyes open, and I understand that even ordinary children will become extraordinary people as long as they are properly educated.
"Tell the children that you are great!" The reading notes of the big class "7 Look" tell the children: You are great! I am very satisfied with this book. I know the position of the word "you are great" in children's hearts and how important it is to children, especially preschool children. I have a deep understanding of this. I want to educate my children with appreciation and praise; Children will definitely have a good effect.
Tell the child after reading it: you are great! Only then did I understand that education is a form of love, and loving children is a science and an art. How to master the science and art of educating children is something I must and urgently need to master.
Loving children is a universal emotion. However, if you only know love, as Gorky said, it is "hens can do it". Man is different from other animals because he knows how to educate his offspring. The knowledge and experience accumulated by predecessors for thousands of years can be passed on to future generations in a short time through education, so that future generations can forge ahead at a new starting line, forming a situation that "the waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves before, and the new generation wins the old".
Loving children should be the minimum morality of every teacher. It's easy to love smart children with dimples, and it's necessary to love less attractive children with real love.
The love of the sacred teacher is extensive and should be "universal love" for all children. How to love children? First of all, you have to have a heart that loves children. Only with a heart that loves children can we respect children and listen to their hearts, and we can better understand children and understand the law of their growth.
"You are great!" This sentence is the golden key to open the treasure of children's hearts.
Children in the world have different looks and personalities, but one thing is the same-they are eager to hear applause!
There are many children in kindergarten. They come from different families, different living environments and different development situations, but one thing is the same. Are parents' treasures. They hope to be affirmed in large groups and are more eager to hear applause! Then it is even more necessary for us to find children with loving eyes and enlarge their highlights. With love in your heart, you can find the bright spot of each child, and you can find the "great" children and tap their talents.
Children are angels. They are very sensitive to our evaluation. If you love him and like him, he can feel it through your eyes. Once he accepts the message of your love, he can hear everything you say. Our loving eyes come from the discovery of love, which is more important for kindergarten children. Whether in games, study or daily life, let all children who come to kindergarten come to the park happily with harvest (maybe praise, affirmation, encouragement or loving touch, etc. ).) Go home in high spirits. This is my duty and the direction of my efforts.
If we have a pair of eyes that are good at discovering, children will thank us, but more importantly, we should use the encouragement of love to mobilize children; Nourish children with the feeling of love; Influence children with loving behavior; Reject children on the grounds of love; Punish children with the responsibility of love; Hone children with the will of love; Reward children with the passion of love. Only when there is love in your heart can you find love. It's not enough to just discover the advantages and strengths of children. We should also express our praise and tell our children: "You are the best!" " "Everyone needs praise and recognition, let alone children. Therefore, I want to tell all those who love children and care about their growth that the best way to mobilize children is to praise them without hesitation and in time.
My occupation determines that working hours are children's time. Being with children every day requires me to face them with passion every day. Love is the source of passion, and passion is the expression of love. If one day I lose my passion, I won't have the charm to attract children, so I must learn from my intimate sister, learn from her observation and discovery of children from different angles, love children, respect children, understand children and understand their hearts. I have learned to observe and care for every child with my heart like a bosom sister, then I will have inexhaustible passion and charm to attract children forever.
My responsibility is to help, support and encourage my children and give them the necessary protection. How to do these things legally, skillfully and naturally can we get the greatest effect. This is science and art, this is my goal.
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