In my opinion, children are just a fate in life and a continuation of your life as an organism, but you have never come to this world because you are old in your later years and let your children take on your life. Children can be used as a way for you to support the elderly, but it is definitely not the purpose of having children.

I am married, so I still have some feelings about life. Here I want to express my thoughts in a few words.

The concept of raising children to prevent old age has gone through thousands of years of changes and is deeply rooted in people's hearts. This concept comes from our feudal society. Raising children to prevent old age, as the name implies, is that parents raise sons; Beware of being taken care of in old age. From: Song, Chen and Liang Yuan's "The Tale of the Stone Forest": "Raise children to prevent old age and save food to satisfy hunger." In ancient society, due to low productivity, the wealth of family members meant that they could be entrusted when they were old.

At the same time, due to the influence of Confucius and Confucianism, the traditional filial piety has a decisive influence in China, so the concept of "raising children to prevent old age" has lasted for thousands of years in China, and the concept has become deeper and deeper, engraved in the bones.

But in modern society, productivity has been greatly improved and material life has become sufficient. The most important concept of raising children to prevent old age, people began to reflect on their self-worth, and getting married and having children became less dominant. For example, a highly developed area like Beishangguang has experienced negative population growth. We no longer stick to the concept of carrying on the family line and raising children to prevent old age. We hope to reach the peak of another realm, that is, the embodiment of our own value.

And the tendency of this concept is more similar to that of foreign countries, such as Americans. Their view of children is that children are not private property of families and individuals, but future social citizens. They just give their children life. Apart from this blood relationship, Americans think they are just taking care of their children for God until they reach adulthood. At the corresponding age, children become independent individuals. The relationship between parents and children is very weak.

In this highly operational era, we have shown various ideas in an endless stream, similar to what happened in the north, south and lower regions. I don't think it's strange, but it's an inevitable trend.

If the bond between you and your child is limited to his future pension for you, then I think this relationship is a transaction.

I remember that the topic of raising children to prevent old age was discussed in the TV series "Heaven", and my memory was particularly profound. Ding Yuanying's father is in hospital because of a serious illness, and his illness has reached the point where he can't return to heaven. The doctor said that Ding's life depends on the ventilator at the right time. After seeing his father's desperate and painful eyes, Ding Yuanying understood his father's meaning. Ask an unacceptable question directly: What should I do to let my father die? Because he didn't want to see his father suffer. )

I guess everyone will think that this is a pair of rebellious sons and daughters, which hurts their parents' hearts too much. Ding Mu also pointed to Ding Yuanying's nose and scolded: It is said that raising children to prevent old age. Did we work so hard to raise you so big, and that's it? What's the use of having children?

Ding Yuanying's answer is: If you raise children just to prevent old age, then don't say how great maternal love is. Whether you raise them for yourself or not is an exchange. Inequality can be said in two sentences. I was shocked by this sentence at that time. That kind of ideological shock has completely subverted the relationship between children and old-age care in China for thousands of years.

This is to express that, in my opinion, self-reliance has nothing to do with having children!

Children are independent individuals. He came to this world for his own purposes. Just because you gave him life doesn't mean you must have him absolutely. Even control him.