Once upon a time, over time, I gradually became a modern urbanite with a heavy burden. I was busy with classes, housework and taking care of my children at two o'clock every day. Only when my heart is idle, do I find it full of astringent bitterness. That kind of loneliness that only exists when you leave home, that kind of mediocrity that is busy with calculation, that kind of narrow-minded struggle, all roll in your heart, and there is no peace for a moment …
After reading "Empty Cup Mentality", I found the topic very thought-provoking. An empty cup will be transparent. What about the empty mind? Will it be transparent? With such questions, I read "Empty Cup Mentality".
Wu Ganlin's "empty cup mentality" is to empty the "cup" in his heart and completely empty his mind of what he cares about, values and glorious history. It's like: a cup full of water is hard to accept new things. Only when the cup is emptied can the water in front be prevented from stinking, and there is room for fresh water, so that there can be greater success and glory. This reminds me of the story that my old father read to his grandson before he died the day before yesterday:
Eagle is the longest-lived bird in the world. It can live for 70 years. However, at the age of 40, every eagle will face severe and difficult choices. Because the eagle is 40 years old, its claws are no longer sharp, and it can't even catch its prey; The sharp beak will become long and curved, almost touching the feathers on his chest; Wings are also aging and calcifying, becoming very heavy, and heavy feathers make it no longer flexible. The 40-year-old eagle has only two choices: either face natural elimination and death, or go through a painful transformation lasting 150 days.
If you choose the latter, it must fly to a very high mountain top, live there, find a rock to nest, and temporarily stop flying. After that, the eagle will peck at the rock with its aging beak until its beak falls off completely! When the new beak grows, the eagle will use the new beak to pull out the aging nails on its claws one by one, and when the new nails grow, pull out the calcified feathers one by one. After a long period of five months, the eagle resumed its flight after metamorphosis and gained another 30 years of life after birth. This story made me deep in thought.
I was shocked and admired by the eagle's practice. What about me? Seeing that I am almost 30 years old, my accumulated thinking habits, the way I think I am very skilled and unwilling to give up, my good sense of accomplishment, my lofty heart, things I will not forgive and be forgiven, etc., will it? Become a burden to me? Is it because I am used to eating my own flavor, only taking the familiar road, and only taking the north called Root as my hometown, which makes me miss the better scenery and my life is no longer surprising? Will the things I hold tightly in my hand gradually become an unnecessary burden to my life and body, and start to drag down my will, so that life makes me stop looking forward to, trying, dreaming and paying?
Thought of here, I can't help shuddering. I began to re-examine my life and work. In my life, I am full of curiosity and enthusiasm for my work. Why is it getting more and more empty and boring? Come to think of it carefully, I really don't want to let go of the old baggage to learn new things, and I don't have the opportunity to play my potential and start a flying process again. China's way of painting and calligraphy is unfathomable. Mr. Wu Guanzhong, a leading figure in painting circles, was once called "burning a mansion" by overseas people. It was September of 19xx. Wu Guanzhong destroyed hundreds of works he was dissatisfied with when sorting out his paintings at home. What courage and determination it takes! Isn't this also the painter's empty cup mentality different from ordinary people?
The book "Empty Cup Mentality" tells us that the empty cup mentality is actually a realm and an outlook on life. In sublimating this philosophy of life, Wu Ganlin said: Many people always complain that the world is too small to display their talents. In fact, it is not that the world is too small, but that we see ourselves too big. Be careful that you are full of yourself, others will have no place, and the world will certainly be small.
And you make yourself smaller, all people and things can be integrated, and the world will naturally become bigger.
What is the "empty cup mentality"? In ancient times, a man with profound Buddhist attainments heard that there was a venerable old Zen master in a temple, so he went to visit. When the disciples of the old Zen master received him, they were arrogant and thought, I am a person with profound Buddhist attainments. Who are you? Later, the old Zen master received him respectfully and made tea for him. But when the water was poured, it was clear that the glass was full, and the old Zen master kept pouring. He asked inexplicably, "Master, why do you pour the cup into it when it is full?" The master said, "Yes, since it is full, why pour it?" What the Zen master means is, since you are already very knowledgeable, why did you come to me for advice? This is the origin of the "empty cup mentality".
First, understanding (zero mentality)
Empty cup mentality is an insatiable challenge to self-greed. If it can't be reflected in the change of action, the so-called "empty cup" is fake, which is a meaningless "mantra".
Let's start with the book "Empty Cup Mentality" released this month. Personally, the "empty cup mentality" is to empty the "cup" in your heart at one time, and to completely empty your honor, many things you value and care about, and the glorious past from your mind. Because a cup full of water is difficult to accept new things, only by emptying your heart can you put it down externally and have greater success and glory. If you don't pour water into the cup for a long time, it will become turbid until it decomposes, and the final outcome will be eliminated by life and society.
Second, the sentiment (adjust the mentality)
It has been almost three years since the beginning of 2009. When I first came here, the kitchen and dishes were managed by the five permanent members. I believe I will be as enthusiastic and devoted to the hotel as I have done before. The original tourism team was very few, so I put all my attention on the banquet, which was highly praised by the local government and VIP reception, and the employee turnover rate was the lowest in the hotel. Employee satisfaction is also the highest. Their long-term sense of superiority has caused their current arrogance and resistance to bad habits. They have been reluctant to let go of their previous honor for a long time. From the massive loss of kitchen staff at the beginning of the year to the numerous complaints from guests last month, they also blamed the hotel problem and made excuses. There is a serious shortage of personnel and the position is unstable. How did it become like this? This is not who I used to be. Complaining is now my patent We can't do this anymore. It's time to change yourself.
Some time ago, I talked with my colleagues in the kitchen until I was 25 years old, especially when I was working in a hotel in Rizhao. After work at night, there is often a scene: colleagues have had enough fun outside, read books and practice carving, and often find themselves alone in the room. The books I have read and the notes I made at home are enough to run a small library, but how many years have I not finished reading a book carefully now? How long do you stay out at midnight after work now? Drinking is my compulsory course. Every time I get drunk at night, I always ask myself in the morning, what did I get in the end when I drank? Occasionally I will go back to my room early after work in the evening. Although I never play games, I spent it in the fiction of movies. Why did I change so much at that time and now, and my empty cup mentality was so good?
Since I came to xx, I have been telling others that I like the group chain management of xx and the rapid development of xx. I have been in xx for almost three years. What have I learned? Although the management system issued by the hotel has been transmitted to your own computer, have you studied with an open mind? How much have you learned? Now I can't even give myself an indifferent answer. It takes a lot of courage to deny yourself, but only in this way can we find our own shortcomings and find the direction we should work hard for! Now it's time to let go of the past, return to zero and start over. I believe I will see a brand-new self.
Third, classic sharing
Three States, three fates
1. Those who take the initiative to "empty the cup" will inevitably develop the biggest and fastest;
2. People who are passive "empty cups" will make small progress, but the speed and intensity of development will be greatly reduced;
People who refuse "empty cups" either stagnate, regress or become a stumbling block to others.
A goal, change destiny.
First, we must be determined to establish a goal in life;
Second, we must work tirelessly to achieve our goals;
The third is that hard work pays off, hard work pays more and gains more returns;
It will succeed in the end.
I remember last month, at a meeting of department managers, Mr. Liu replied that the department had mentioned a problem and immediately said it happened that day last year. Later, I opened my notebook and found it. Maybe the people present at that time have long forgotten it, but I still remember it clearly. At that time, I deeply felt that that was where we needed to learn. If we want to grow up, we must first have an empty cup mentality, so that we can learn what we can't learn and all kinds of imperfect things more hungrily.
Fourth, introspection, improvement and transcendence.
This book has an important link: introspection, improvement and transcendence.
What I have to do now is to form a good habit, prepare a small manual, record everything I do at work every day in the small manual, do a week of reflection on Sunday night, carefully review and recall everything I have done in the past week, and then ask myself, what did I do wrong this week? This problem has arisen. What can be done to make it better? What can I do to promote my work? What have I learned from the wrong experience? What did you do well? Can you improve it next time? If we persist enough, our own shortcomings will be gradually overcome and our weaknesses will become less and less until we succeed in becoming bigger.
Verb (abbreviation of verb) abstract
Life is a feast, just like my present job. Every dish is the key. A table of exquisite feasts must not lead to the failure of the whole table (overall situation) because of the failure of one dish, nor can we be satisfied with that dish because the guests taste a delicious dish. Our indifferent attitude towards others will make us unable to find the road to success, and an empty cup mentality is the most important success in life.
The "empty cup mentality" tells us that at every stage of the career path, we should be modest and honest, not arrogant and impetuous, be an active "empty cup" person, pay more, care less, cherish every job, be humble or noble, always be curious about the job, always be enthusiastic about the job, and make up our minds to do every job best!
After reading "Empty Cup Mentality" and reading "Empty Cup Mentality" in one breath, I felt a lot and gained a lot.
People should have an empty cup mentality. In sublimating this philosophy of life, Wu Ganlin said: Many people always complain that the world is too small to display their talents. In fact, it is not that the world is too small, but that we see ourselves too big. Be careful that you are full of yourself, others will have no place, and the world will certainly be small. And you make yourself smaller, all people and things can be integrated, and the world will naturally become bigger.
Wu Ganlin uses a short story as the framework of his new book "Empty Cup Mentality": A friend's child was stuck in a vase and cried, because he refused to let go, resulting in a valuable vase worth 30,000 yuan being broken. The child said, "I'm afraid that once I let go, I'll never catch nickels again." Adults, especially those who are inexperienced in the workplace, often fall into the same dilemma: they can't let go of their bodies and lose greater development.
If everyone wants to cope with the changes of the times and environment, he must adapt to the needs. In order to change the tension, we are required to have an empty cup mentality. The premise of doing things is to have a good attitude. If you want to learn more knowledge and improve your professional ability, you should first imagine yourself as an "empty cup" instead of being complacent.
Wu Ganlin described three kinds of people in the workplace in "Empty Cup Mentality". Active "empty cup", passive "empty cup", refuse "empty cup" There is no doubt that those who refuse the "empty cup" will either stagnate, regress or become a stumbling block to others. If you want to have the biggest and fastest development, you must be an active "empty cup" person! People with an empty cup mentality can realize that flowers and applause can't determine your present, let alone your future, and can understand that the world will become bigger if you let go of yourself. "The fuller the ear of rice, the lower the head hangs." The same is true for people. The better they are, the more they should "empty themselves" and learn to bend over.
Empty cup mentality is an insatiable challenge to self-greed. Empty cup mentality is to reorganize your knowledge and ability at any time, empty out the outdated ones, leave room for the entry of new knowledge and ability, and ensure that your knowledge and ability are always up to date; Is never complacent, always learn, always make progress, and always keep the vitality of body and mind. For example, hongta group's corporate philosophy of "the mountain is the peak" contains the empty cup mentality of Hongta people constantly "looking for a higher peak".
An empty cup mentality is to forget success and learn to change. Be alert and alert when criticized, and even more alert and alert when praised. In front of flowers and applause, see the gap; Do not lose heart in the face of difficulties and setbacks. This is maturity and progress, and this is an empty cup mentality.
An empty cup is to treat yourself as a person. No one is perfect, everyone has his own defects and relative weaknesses. Maybe you are proficient and successful in a certain industry, maybe you have rich skills, but you still have nothing special about the new environment, new policies and new competitors. You need to rearrange your wisdom with an empty cup mentality and absorb the present, others', correct and excellent ones. If you don't understand, feel and learn, and rest easy on your past successful experience, it will be a terrible ending.
Empty cup mentality is to constantly clean your brain and mind. An empty cup is a constant bath for your soul. King Shang Tang, who is skilled in martial arts, wrote nine words on his bathtub-"Fresh, Fresh, Fresh". When he takes a shower, his body is washed outside and his heart is washed inside, so he is "comfortable" after taking a shower. We take a bath now, only to wash our bodies, not our hearts. In the shower, I still hate this and that. A real bath should be to wash your body outside and your heart inside, to wash away all external and internal outdated things, to wash away weeds in your mind, to wash away garbage in your brain, and so on. , so that the body and mind are clean and refreshing.
In my opinion, the "empty cup mentality" is actually an abandonment of the past glory and failure, and it is also a disguised denial of oneself. Only by really giving up will there be more room to get more things. But it is easy to deny others, but it takes a lot of courage to deny yourself, but only in this way can we find our own shortcomings and find the direction we should work hard for!
An empty cup can only hold things, and a simple truth reveals everyone's problems. In primary school, there was a saying that modesty makes people progress, but the more you go to school, the more educated you get. The current empty cup mentality is square and round, which more embodies the simple truth of being a man and doing things.
In such a materialistic and individualistic society, children pay more and more attention to what they have and how to better grasp their own things. A person only has two hands. When you always hold on to what you think is very important, you lose the chance to hold on to something more valuable. Of course, the book doesn't just encourage everyone to give up everything and wait for the most important thing to happen, so it is estimated that life is spent in waiting.
The "empty cup" empties the inertia of our continuous progress and learning, and empties our self-righteous experience.
In fact, when we feel that we have learned a lot in the book "Empty Cup Mentality" and realized a lot of truth, why not pour "water" into our own cups?
After reading "Empty Cup Mentality", everyone should adapt to the changes of the times and environment. In order to change the tension, we are required to have an empty cup mentality. The premise of doing things is to have a good attitude. If you want to learn more knowledge and improve your professional ability, you should first imagine yourself as an "empty cup" instead of being complacent.
1. Forget success and learn to change.
An empty cup is to treat yourself as a "person". No one is perfect. Everyone has his own defects and weaknesses. I can be handy in some fields, but I can't use it in other new places. If you don't learn, you should sum up your wisdom and absorb the excellent things of others. That would be a terrible thing.
2. Be confident and self-reliant and never give up
There is a saying in "Empty Cup Mentality": A person who asserts "I can't do it" is often the most arrogant. It can be said that as a fledgling person, we don't have rich theoretical experience, and we don't have much successful past. What we encounter most in work and study is "lack of self-confidence", and the most common one is "I can't". We often unconsciously complicate and enlarge the difficulties and problems, so we are timid in advance and give up in advance. When we encounter setbacks, we will shrink back and give up easily.
Empty cup mentality is empty cup mentality, which tells us from another angle that "inferiority" is also a kind of arrogance, and "I can't do it" is actually "I assert that I can't do it". In fact, how can you know that you can't practice without trying, and how can you know that you can't succeed without trying. Many successes do not start from professionals, but from self-confidence, courage to try and make progress despite difficulties.
3. Go beyond yourself and never be satisfied
Tagore once said, "Just go there and don't stop picking flowers to keep fresh, because there will be flowers along the way." I think, life is like a feast, full of five flavors and delicious. If you just want to stay in one of the good dishes, you will lose sight of one thing and lose sight of the other. As the younger generation, we should "learn to be empty": don't be carried away by temporary failures or setbacks, and don't be carried away by small achievements. Second, we must "always empty the cup": be good at picking it up and be brave enough to put it down.
4. From "natural person" to "unit person"
We often see that some people are enthusiastic about their work when they are in a good mood or when they are faced with something they like, and then they will do it well. On the contrary, they will be perfunctory. To complete the transformation from "natural person" to "unit person", we should take the initiative to empty our emotions, likes and dislikes, and even some personalities, and demand ourselves with the standard of "unit person", instead of waiting for the unit to adapt to itself, let ourselves actively adapt to the unit and environment, and make our ability closely linked with the development of the unit, so as to obtain better development.
In sublimating this philosophy of life, Wu Ganlin said: Many people always complain that the world is too small to display their talents. In fact, it is not that the world is too small, but that we see ourselves too big. Be careful that you are full of yourself, others will have no place, and the world will certainly be small. And you make yourself smaller, all people and things can be integrated, and the world will naturally become bigger.
The author takes a short story as the framework of the new book "Empty Cup Mentality": A child was stuck in a vase and cried, and a valuable vase worth 30,000 yuan was broken because he refused to let go of a nickel. The child said, "I'm afraid that once I let go, I'll never catch nickels again." Adults often fall into the same dilemma: they can't let go of their bodies and lose greater development.
What is the empty cup mentality? A scholar asked the Zen master about Zen. The literati gushed, and the Zen master was speechless, just silently treating each other with tea. The Zen master poured the tea into the cup in front of the scholar. When it was full, it didn't stop. He continued to pour tea, and it flowed onto the table. The scholar said in a panic, "Don't fall down again!" The Zen master said, "You are like this cup, full of your own thoughts and opinions. How can I tell you Zen if you don't empty the cup first? " It means that people should not be proud and impetuous because of a little achievement, but should face the world with a "zero starting point" mentality. Therefore, if you hold your own success in the palm of your hand, you will lose the opportunity to have other successes; When you let go of your success, the whole world has a chance to enter your hands.
Empty cup mentality is a state. In "Empty Cup Mentality", Wu Ganlin said that "empty cup mentality" is the magic weapon to win in today's difficult employment and entrepreneurial journey. He concluded that great achievers are those who take the initiative to empty their cups. Successful people always travel light, because they have an empty cup mentality, so they are invincible. Only people with an empty cup can realize that flowers and applause can't determine your present, let alone your future.
"Win without arrogance, lose with grace". The article tells this truth with many examples. From the president to the employees, including successful people in many industries, it is proved that they have the same experience and should always maintain a "normal mind" and a "zero mentality". I quite agree with the author. As far as a person is concerned, both employment and entrepreneurship must have this mentality, otherwise it is impossible to develop continuously. Entrepreneurs in China have a bad habit. As soon as they have money, they will get on the Mercedes, eat and drink, talk about their status, and start to pamper themselves and spend money like water. From then on, they never took the bus or subway again and stayed away from the masses, and then the enterprise began to decline until it disappeared. Such examples abound around us.
"Win without arrogance, lose with grace" is a wise saying left by our ancestors, but it is really not that easy to do.