This created a good thing for us to marry the princess. After all, from an intuitive point of view, after marrying the princess, they are relatives of the emperor, which can make these poor scholars struggle less for a few years.
But in fact, neither noble children nor poor scholars are willing to marry the princess. In addition to accepting political marriage, ancient princesses also married officials with low status. Even so, many ministers bluntly refused the emperor's marriage.
For example, Hong Song, a famous minister in the Eastern Han Dynasty, directly rejected Hu Yangfei, the sister of Guangwu Emperor Liu Xiu, leaving a famous saying through the ages. Do not forget the knowledge of poverty, and the wife of bran will not leave the court? . Hong Song's luck is good, at least he met such a good emperor as Guangwudi, while Yang Qiao at the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty was not so lucky.
After studying hard for many years, I finally appeared in front of the emperor and was reused. I didn't expect to be attracted to the princess because of her outstanding face. Yang Qiao hides left and right. Seeing that I can't hide anymore, I go on a hunger strike directly. Unexpectedly, he played too much and starved himself to death.
So many people are unwilling to marry the princess, mainly for the following reasons:
First of all, after marrying the princess, you are almost saying goodbye to your future. Why? One thing is to prevent the dictatorship of consorts. The emperor will never reuse Xu, only let him be a rich and idle person.
Another point is that the poor champion married the princess, which seems to be a step up to heaven, but in fact he was kicked out of the scholar group of the court, which was not accepted by the aristocratic family, making it even more difficult to move.
In ancient times, men wanted to get ahead, one was to make contributions on the battlefield, the other was to study and be an official, and to honor their ancestors as their official career rose step by step. Therefore, no aspiring young man will be so stubborn as to marry a princess casually. Therefore, in this respect, it is really unacceptable for ordinary people to let an ancient man give up pursuing his own career.
Then, even if you marry the princess back, it will only be a mascot. You should be careful for her. No matter how noble the princess is, you can never serve your in-laws when you are married to a minister's house, and the princess's concubines are not decorations. Xu has to go through layers of tests every night to see the princess. Therefore, the parents of aristocratic families are too lazy to marry the princess and come back to suffer indignities. Those rich kids even avoided the princess. Obviously, this is also unacceptable to ordinary men. After all, a couple will encounter so many things when they can't be filial to their in-laws.
Finally, after marrying a princess, there is always the risk of being cuckolded, which is probably unacceptable to most ordinary men. Especially in the Tang Dynasty, there were many impressive princesses, such as Princess Taiping and Princess Anle. Those poor Xu not only can't have three wives and four concubines, but also can't ask the princess not to look for them.
However, if the princess knew that Xu was out making love, it would be like a big war. Therefore, Xu's body and mind will be devastated. Therefore, normal people really don't want to marry a princess unless they really can't refuse.
Besides, marrying a princess not only has these shortcomings, but also has many unacceptable constraints. Although it is not easy to be a princess, Xu is really not as good as he looks. This is a torturous job, and you must endure all kinds of grievances.
So what? Unless absolutely necessary, it is the best policy for ancient courtiers to stay away from princesses for the well-being of the whole family and cherish their lives. ? Especially in the ancient Tang dynasty and after the Tang dynasty, it became the life dogma that those courtiers believed in.