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"Defense of Love" is an emotional program on Tianjin Satellite TV, which shows various problems encountered by various couples.

As one of the love mentors, Tu Lei is loved and recognized by the audience for his sharp words and to the point analysis.

Teacher Tu Lei’s analysis of emotional issues between men and women has also been widely disseminated through the Internet and is regarded as a wise saying by many people.

There was once such a couple in an emotional show. The woman was very satisfied with the man and hoped that the man could take her home to meet her parents and stabilize the relationship.

But the man always puts the blame in every possible way, accepts the woman's overtures completely, and turns a blind eye to the woman's hints.

Once it was exposed, the man confessed that the other party was not his favorite marriage partner and had no intention of being with the woman. But when faced with a girl's love, he couldn't refuse.

How can there be no problems in such a relationship?

Love is originally a matter between two people who love each other. If either party does not reciprocate love in love, it will be imbalanced.

If you love, please love deeply; if you don’t love, please leave.

Ambiguity in love is a blasphemy to feelings and disrespect for the other person's emotions. If you love someone, don't always be ambiguous.

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Ambiguousness is cruel to others and to oneself.

In love, not loving is not the most sad thing, ambiguity is.

Playing with ambiguity not only puts the other party in an embarrassing situation, but also puts yourself in a dangerous situation.

Testing without a clear relationship may allow both parties to have more room to think about the relationship, but it is more likely to lead to various entanglements caused by the indecisiveness of the ambiguous person.

There was once such a case: the woman had a boyfriend out of town, but she went home for a blind date during the Spring Festival and had another blind date.

The girl didn’t know how to choose, so she decided to lie to both parties and make plans later.

But in the end, both the boyfriend and the blind date from other places knew about it and found the girl and asked her to make a decision. The girl finally chose the blind date as her husband.

Although the girl made her choice and both parties promised not to be entangled anymore, will the girl be happy in the end?

Not necessarily.

These pasts will eventually become a thorn in the hearts of the three people in the future, constantly affecting their future lives.

It can be seen that ambiguity is cruel to others and to oneself.

Ambiguousness is a fruitless entanglement

Some people say that girls nowadays are easy to deceive.

Send them a few flowers, watch a few movies, and say a few specious words of love, and they will think they have met their destined true love.

He even disregards moral restraints and destroys other people's feelings for a man.

But are women really easy to deceive?

A woman who doesn’t love you can see through a man’s tricks at a glance. A woman who loves you is just willing to lie to herself.

But dear girl, if a man refuses to make a commitment to you and makes the relationship public, then it is just ambiguous.

It’s really not worth it to gamble on true love for a romantic ambiguity. Both men and women should have this understanding: ambiguity will have no results.

No matter how much entanglement you have, it is just a waste of time and energy. People who truly love you will be reluctant to be ambiguous with you. They will eagerly declare your belonging and take you as their own.

Ambiguousness is the end of a love relationship

A girl once sent a private message with this question, saying that the boy and her were boyfriend and girlfriend, but they did not make it public.

It feels aggrieved for girls to be in the position of silently giving, but boys go around declaring that they are single and showing mercy.

It is not difficult to see that the man avoids public relations just to have a better relationship with other girls.

The disclosure of love relationships between men and women is the most basic respect for each other's emotions.

If a man likes to be ambiguous with you but refuses to face up to his relationship with you, then maybe he has never considered being with you.

If a man is with you but declares that he is single to facilitate ambiguity, then he does not really love you.

No matter which one it is, it is not conducive to the development of a healthy love relationship, and engaging in ambiguity is the end of love.

Tu Lei said, if you love someone, please love them deeply and don’t always play ambiguously.

Ambiguousness is a kind of harm and an unhealthy emotional relationship.

A person who is good at ambiguity must not be ready to fall in love with others. If you can't love someone deeply, why should you take up the other person's emotions and time.