Zeng Guofan said, "Wealth and fame are all prosperous in the world, but being broad-minded is really beneficial."
A big mind means a big heart, which can be taken up and put down. A boat crosses the water without a trace, and birds fly without taking pictures.
the size of the heart determines the joys and sorrows of life. The greater the heart, the lighter the troubles; The smaller the mind, the heavier the trouble. People with small minds can't tolerate, can't stand, and can't hold the big picture.
Mind is a container that can be opened and closed. When we only care about our own selfish desires, it will shrink smaller and smaller. When we can consider others, it will gradually spread out.
the pattern of the mind is different with the difference of thoughts, which can be as big as the universe or as fine as dust.
if you have the heart, you have the measure. The mind determines the measure, and the realm determines the level.
The heart is a river, and its state depends on its depth. The still water is deep and the shallow water is noisy.
Small stones can stir up waves if the heart is too small; If you have a big heart, you can accommodate the hidden rocks.
in life, few things disturb our mood, just like the waves in rivers, many of them are not stirred by giants.
To live is a kind of practice, and practice is to cultivate the mind. To cultivate a normal mind is always happy; To cultivate a satisfied heart is happiness everywhere.
with generosity, there is weight
Zeng Guofan said, "When a gentleman fights with a villain, the villain will win. In a gentleman, there is only one thing to do. You must not be afraid of disaster and fall into the villain's party, nor should you rely on being a gentleman and have the heart to win with the villain. "
why can't a gentleman beat a villain? Because the villain has no "bottom line" to be a man, he does things by hook or by crook.
Therefore, apart from guarding against villains, a gentleman should be tolerant and generous, and don't think that he must exterminate villains from the standpoint of justice, so as not to push them into trouble.
In the process of quelling the Anshi Rebellion in Guo Ziyi in Tang Dynasty, eunuch Yu Chaoen often spoke ill of him in front of the emperor, which caused him great trouble. Yu Chaoen even encouraged the emperor to dig Guo Ziyi's ancestral grave.
After the rebellion was put down, Guo Ziyi returned to the capital, and the emperor felt guilty, so he let Guo Ziyi dispose of Yu Chaoen at will.
Guo Ziyi, however, said, "I have led troops to fight outside all the year round, digging trenches and repairing fortifications. I don't know how many people's ancestral graves have been dug. Now my ancestral graves have been dug, which is God's retribution for me. I can't blame anyone!"
Yu Chaoen was moved to tears, and later invited Guo Ziyi to his house for a drink. At that time, a vice minister in the DPRK was worried that fish and Guo would get along well, which was not good for him, so he told Guo Ziyi that Yu Chaoen would harm him and advised him not to go.
Guo Ziyi's generals also advised him not to go. If he had to go, he would take 3, soldiers with him.
Guo Ziyi only took a child and an old soldier to the party. Yu Chaoen said with emotion, Lao Guo, you are so generous!
after that, Yu Chaoen stopped giving Guo Ziyi a hard time. After Guo Ziyi's death, Yu Chaoen was in power and framed many ministers, but he did no harm to Guo Ziyi's descendants, but protected them.
Be generous to the villain, and be more generous to friends and colleagues who have shortcomings.
In history, Zuo Zongtang was originally recommended by Zeng Guofan and became an official, but he was arrogant by nature.