The interpretation of "teaching" in Xu Shen's Shuo Wen Jie Zi in the Eastern Han Dynasty is "to be applied to the superior, but to be effective to the inferior". The explanation of "education" is "raising children makes them better". These two sentences have made it clear how to educate children.

In Taoism, there is the Tao Te Ching: "Teaching has no words". There is a famous Confucian saying: "Set an example".

Therefore, at home, when parents are above (what they have done is above, indicating that they are above), they are grateful to grandparents, grandparents, school teachers, everyone around them, leaders at all levels of society, and every conscientious member (whether civil servants or cleaners), children will take the initiative to learn (what they have done is below, indicating imitation).

Where is the external tough guidance used?

If only parents and teachers use language to guide their children, but their behavior is different from that of "educating" their children, then even if the words of "sage culture education guiding children to be grateful and grateful" are colorful, it is nonsense to guide their children's behavior!