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The topic "leaving a gap" has far-reaching intentions. It is not only about physical properties, such as the thermal expansion and contraction of a wooden floor, a gap must be left; at the same time, it is also about human nature, people have personalities, and there must be room for personality development. There is a gap in everything in the world. No one can cross it or fill it up. Otherwise, society will be turbulent and mankind will suffer disaster. Just think about it calmly and you will understand the reason. The sky is so mysterious, and there are gaps between the celestial bodies, so that the sun and the moon can move across the sky with dazzling brilliance; the earth is so majestic, and there are gaps between the mountains and rivers, so the sounds of nature are so sweet; human society is endless and develops harmoniously because of human beings Only when there is a gap between people and between people and nature can the music of life and the philosophy of life be played. There is a wealth of writing materials for such topics, ranging from building a harmonious society to the art of getting along with others. The philosophical principle of "leaving a gap" exists in people's family, friendship, and love, and in various relationship norms between units, political parties, nationalities, and countries. Use such topics to click on your understanding of life, and the article will be interesting and outstanding.
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Have you ever seen a wooden floor? The tighter you push, the harder you arch. Have you ever seen a grain of sand? The tighter you hold it, the faster it flows.
Men and women in love are always intimate without any distance. As everyone knows, after the enthusiasm period has passed, countless tests and frictions will follow. There are many couples who care about each other so much that they always secretly peek into each other's privacy and use various reasons of love to tie each other down. Over time, this "deep" love made the other party breathless, and eventually there were quarrels, cold wars, and breakups. ——Obviously it was because of love, but in the end it ended in a tragic ending. The reason is very simple, it is because they do not know how to "leave a gap", leaving a gap for themselves and the other party to be free. Too much love will only become a burden. Only by leaving a little space for each other can love last forever. Even if one day, the other person's love is gone, please don't cry and beg the other person not to leave, wave your hands coolly, let love have a way out, and let yourself find a way to happiness...
This is staying. A gap, the art of handling love.
The same is true for friendship. A third person suddenly broke into the friendship between the two people, which added a lot of trouble. If a friend who was originally a good friend to him suddenly has another good friend, he will feel very unbalanced, so he will pester the other person all day long, and even prevent the other person from making other friends. Or, you have to take care of your friends’ affairs. This kind of friendship is daunting, and caring too much becomes the source of separation. If we can leave a gap between each other, give our friends a little space of our own, be more tolerant and understanding of our friends, how can our friendship not last long?
This is the art of leaving a gap to deal with good friendships.
Family love may be the strongest of several emotions. After all, blood is thicker than water. But even so, friction is inevitable. The friction between parents and children has always been an inextricable knot. Some parents want to keep their children by their side, and in the name of love, let their children move forward along the track they designed. Even though the children are reluctant, the parents still have the final say. The result of this is often that there are many conflicts between children and their parents, and the resentment accumulated by the children will explode, ranging from inner dissatisfaction to open confrontation, or even running away from home. This is called a tightrope that will explode. Another situation is when children are obedient to their parents, their personality cannot develop, they are depressed throughout their lives, and they are full of resentment towards their parents. No one wants to see such a result. If parents can respect their children's choices, leave a gap between themselves and their children, and let love find a way out, not only will the family be happy, but the children's future will also be bright...
This is to leave a gap and deal with it. Such affectionate art.
Whether it is love, friendship, or family affection, too much love is a burden. Only sensible and tolerant love can last forever.
The only way is to leave a gap for love and give love a way to survive! Only in this way can our lives be perfect!
Leave a gap and let love have a way out! For others, more for yourself!
10. Read the following text and write an essay according to the requirements.
My great-grandfather was a good carpenter. He had a mantra: "Pay attention, leave a gap!" Carpentry pays attention to density and density. , the bonding is appropriate and should be sparse, otherwise it will easily fall apart. Nowadays, when many people renovate their houses, the wooden floors often appear to be cracked or squeezed and arched. This is because they are too "full". A smart decorator knows how to leave a gap just right and leave enough space for the combined materials to avoid problems of this kind. Come to think of it, my great-grandfather must have put a lot of effort into this aspect of his unique skill as a carpenter.
In fact, in real life, the principles of being a person, doing things, and many other aspects are the same as those of a carpenter. Please write an article of no less than 800 words on the topic of "leaving a gap".
Requirements: Make your own idea, choose your own style of writing (do not write poetry), and make your own title. The written content must be within the scope of the topic.
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Not just a carpenter
This is indeed an excellent carpenter.
There are also such "gaps" around us: a mother's gentle and comforting words, a teacher's gentle guidance to students. These make our lives more harmonious and make us happier.
No gap is terrible: the story of Kong Ming and Zhou Yu in the Three Kingdoms era is well known. Zhou Yu couldn't stand the fact that Zhuge Liang was smarter than himself, so he repeatedly planned to humiliate and plot against him, but the result was tragic and he was angered to death. The story is very simple. Originally, if Zhou Yu had admitted the reality and left himself a gap, and the two great advisers had worked together, it would have been very difficult for Cao Cao to easily seize Shu and Wu. In other words: Zhou Yu's stubbornness had harmed himself and himself. country. Really scary.
Let’s look at the famous story of “retreating” in history.
Chong'er, Duke Wen of Jin, went into exile and visited princes from all over the world. However, because he had no power, no one was willing to help him sincerely. Finally, he fled to Qin. The King of Qin entertained him with grand etiquette and returned the favor. He married his youngest daughter and helped him return to Jin and ascend to the throne. Chong'er was very excited at that time. He swore to God: "If the two armies fight, I will order the army to retreat three sheds." Soon, the two countries really fought, and Duke Wen of Jin really ordered the army to retreat three sheds (equivalent to ninety miles), and Qin's army was still in pursuit. At this time, all the Jin soldiers could no longer suppress the anger in their chests, and rushed to kill the enemy, defeating the Qin army. Cheng Dechen committed suicide because of this.
Jin Wengong fulfilled his promise. He left a gap ninety miles long, but Cheng Dechen refused to do it. He insisted on blocking this gap and had to fight to the death. Really scary.
When interacting with others, friction and estrangement are inevitable. The key is how to deal with them. The carpenter did a wonderful job: he threw them all into the gap, and as they squeezed and surged, one day the gap would heal and disappear. And those who pursue "perfection" will eventually "crack" or "arch".
Feng Xiaogang said: "Be kind." I think this is not just a joke. Isn't "kindness" just about leaving a gap for yourself and others?
Life is all in this gap.
Leave a gap in your life
When you are tired of the endless pursuit of struggle, when you feel helpless about the unattainable ideal goal, when you feel overwhelmed by the willfulness When the rebellious young master and princess feel disappointed, when you are confused about the complicated interpersonal relationships, leave a gap in your life and let the fresh spring water seep into it and nourish your tired heart.
Leave a gap for yourself so that you can live a relaxed and happy life. Today, as competition becomes increasingly fierce, many people pursue perfection, success, money and fame too much. Some people even search hard all their lives. Even if they finally get what they want, they are already fading away. The joy and color of life are lost to the endless flow of documents and endless replaced by entertainment.
It can be seen that although the gap is small, it is difficult to understand and even harder to do.
There is no such thing as perfection in dealing with others. First of all, we must leave a gap for ourselves. We don't have to force ourselves to establish friendly relations with everyone. After all, "we have different paths and we don't seek each other." As long as we can treat others with a smile, treat things kindly, and retain our true self. At the same time, we must leave a gap for others, and we must not be too demanding on our friends. We must tolerate the shortcomings of others with a tolerant heart. "If the water is clear, there will be no fish; if the people are careful, there will be no disciples." A person who can leave gaps in his life must be a wise and open-minded person, an easy-going and tolerant kind person.
Perfection is what we pursue, and gaps are what we need. In this way, our lives will be beautiful and our success will no longer be out of reach.
Remember, successful seeds need gaps to germinate.
As a human being, you should also "leave a gap"
Carpentry pays attention to the density and density, the fit is appropriate, and the sparseness should be sparse, otherwise it will be easy to scatter. Nowadays, when many people renovate their houses, the wooden floors often appear to be cracked or squeezed and arched. This is because they are too "perfect". A smart decorator knows how to leave a gap just right and leave enough space for the combined materials to avoid problems of this kind.
In fact, the principles of life and life are the same as the carpenter's craftsmanship, which requires "leaving a gap". If everything is based on calculation, interests take priority, no compromise is given to each other, and "perfection" is pursued in everything, how can the relationship between people not squeeze their own ideals and change their shape?
Leave a gap for yourself and others, leaving a consistent interpersonal space for us.
If people are not intimate yet, they are like a ray, and the road ahead is as long as ever. Once the relationship becomes intimate, it becomes a line, and the countdown to friendship begins.
Napoleon said: "There are no permanent friends and no permanent enemies." The reason why friends cannot be permanent is because we often cannot help but do all the good things and do not leave the necessary room for friendship to grow.
Two people are like two railroad tracks, they can only go far if they run parallel to each other. True happiness cannot be shared, and neither can true pain. Sharing happiness with an unfortunate person can only make his heart more miserable. Certain things in the heart and emotions are irreplaceable, just as two railroad tracks cannot intersect.
With a completely open heart, it is easy to catch a cold. Revealing your inner secrets to an evil person will become a lever in his hands; revealing your inner secrets to a good person will become a burden on his spirit, because he has to fulfill his duty to keep it secret for you. Therefore, a mentally mature person will not look for trouble for himself or make things difficult for others.
When we travel and take photos at a certain scenic spot, we always use the door plaque as the background and do everything possible to highlight its features. This is to bring the distance closer and show the connection between us and that attraction. If this scenic spot is right in front of our home, we will ignore the door plaque and the outstanding features. This is to push the distance further. It is too familiar, and the aesthetic perspective needs to be changed.
The same is true for photography, and the same is true for interpersonal communication.
Keeping an appropriate distance between people and leaving a little space for each other's hearts may be an important rule for balancing interpersonal relationships.
A friend told me an intriguing story. The story tells of a woman who got divorced shortly after getting married. The reasons for divorce may sound like fantasy. In the words of her husband: "You are so good to us, we can't stand it." It turns out that this lady likes to care for others very much, even to the point of fanaticism. In addition to the normal work every day, she does all the housework, including shopping for food, cooking, washing clothes, mopping the floor, etc., and no one else can interfere, making her husband, father-in-law, and mother-in-law feel like they are living in someone else's house. Same as home. She has done almost all the good things. As time passed, the whole family couldn't bear it and finally asked her to leave the family. Because they all feel psychologically unbalanced.
Maybe you have this question: Isn’t it good to just sit back and enjoy the gains? In fact, for a person with working ability and sound mind, independence and dedication are internal needs.
When dealing with people, leave three points for others to think about, and leave a few points for others. Only when you are good at tasting and thinking about it can you feel the taste and be indifferent for a long time.
If everyone is more tolerant, human beings will have more understanding, more truth and kindness, more cherishment and beauty, and the ups and downs in life will also turn into colorful music. If you touch a vein of loess, you will feel the honesty of the whole land of China; if you step on a piece of space, you will feel the tolerance of all descendants of Yan and Huang. Life should be as thick as loess, as deep as space, experience repeated hardships without fading, and always be honored without being surprised. That is the state you have reached.