Wen | Keira
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I saw a female lawyer on the Internet saying that from the age of 25 to 28, she handled divorce cases in at least 200 families, which left her with marital phobia. So far, she is still single, and she dare not give her feelings easily, let alone enter marriage easily.
After so many divorce proceedings, the deepest feeling is that if fate comes to an end, it is meaningless to maintain a marriage without feelings. We might as well let everyone go. Marriage and family relations are so delicate that both husband and wife need to manage and care together. This kind of management and care must be both sides, and neither side can do it. There is no victory or defeat between husband and wife, either a win-win situation or both.
Indeed, in life, it is inevitable that both men and women want to run the family well, but the other party does not put their hearts at home at all, leading to family conflicts. Or eventually get divorced and fight to the death in court for the custody of the children. Even if they didn't get divorced, they didn't communicate. Without the warmth of family, separation, cold war and quarrel have become commonplace. In this case, both husband and wife are not winners, but are torturing and hurting each other.
In fact, what I want to see more is mutual respect and love between husband and wife, mutual support and common growth. It is not easy for two strangers to meet and know each other, then fall in love and form a family. If they torture and hurt each other again, it's really not worth it. Why don't two people achieve mutual benefit and win-win? Don't think so complicated about marriage and people's hearts. Just stay together, live a good life, achieve each other, and stay together for life.
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Some time ago, He Jie gave birth to three children, and the biological father of the children officially had an anecdote boyfriend Diao Lei. There are all kinds of comments on the Internet. Of course, it's more about He Jie slapping himself. Just one year after divorcing her ex-husband, she has given birth to a child, which makes people think.
Think of when He Jie divorced, he and Zi Ming also broke up in discord. Because of the recording he confided in the radio, Zi Ming He became the representative of "love rat". There are all kinds of criticisms and crusades against him on the internet, saying that he doesn't know how to love his wife and take care of his children. Since He Jie divorced He and gave birth to three children, the online evaluation of her has also lost a lot of goodwill.
Maybe there is nothing wrong with their divorce, but because they are stars, they are so embarrassed on the Internet. But it is undeniable that neither of them is a winner and they are hurting each other. Moreover, the biggest harm is two children. Feelings are gone, so is fate. Might as well let go. After all, we used to love each other. Even for the sake of two common children, we should get together and get away.
However, because of their divorce, they exposed their most ferocious side, and also tore out the most intimate parts of each other and put them in public for the people who eat melons to enjoy the comments. Think of each other as the biggest enemy in my life, wishing I had never met them. But they forget that because they have children, they will never be so clear, and maybe one day they will shake hands because of their children.
Therefore, in marriage, if the fate of husband and wife is really exhausted, let go of each other, let go of yourself, and make a final farewell to love. What I am most afraid of is that once love enters marriage, it will become a double room after living, which will hurt both the other party and myself. It's better to say goodbye, be tolerant, and get what you want.
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Two days ago, the goddess Gao Yuanyuan announced that she was pregnant, and there was a celebration on the Internet. I'm so happy for the goddess. As a netizen said, this is a match made in heaven, and this is what love should look like. Everything is so natural, knowing each other and loving each other. Much as I like Mark Chao, I don't envy Gao Yuanyuan at all. Seeing that the person I love is happy, I feel very happy.
Yes, two people who love each other make their marriage life interesting and happiness is on their faces. Just watching it makes people feel warm. Now the marriage emotion is so fragile, seeing such a happy couple also makes everyone think more positively about marriage life.
Gao Yuanyuan and Mark Chao have always been relatively low-key people, living at their own pace, completely ignoring outside views. As long as two people love each other openly, a happy life is the best. Gao Yuanyuan once said at the wedding: "Mark Chao is her destiny takes a hand, and all his goodness is beyond her imagination." How high is this evaluation?
Mark Chao was not very popular when he first got together with Gao Yuanyuan, but he bravely disclosed his love affair with Gao Yuanyuan, saying that there was no need to hide it. In The Story of Qi Dad, when he talked about the other half, he said: "When she is happy in this life, you should protect her by hook or by crook. I think men should take care of women, which is not discrimination. But I just think it should be like this, so I got married with this belief. "
It can be seen that the two of them love each other deeply, accompany each other and achieve each other, and regard each other as the first in their hearts. The five-year relationship between brother and sister does not prevent them from loving each other at all.
Now they have been married for five years, and the film and television industry in Mark Chao has developed better and better in recent years. Although Gao Yuanyuan has gradually faded out of the entertainment circle, she is also living an indifferent life. Isn't this a mutual achievement? Even if you get married, you can still maintain each other's selves and slowly let each other live the life they want to achieve a win-win situation.
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There is a passage on the Internet that I like very much:
"The best mentality in marriage is that all my efforts are a will and I will never mention it. I would appreciate it if you could repay me. If you are indifferent, I won't lose heart. Until one day I don't want to love you so much, then let's say goodbye and be happy. "
Yes, the last thing in marriage is to care about your own gains and losses in marriage. If you care, tens of thousands of marriages will face the end of separation. Because once you care, you will be divided into right and wrong, and you will fight for winning or losing. However, husband and wife are an organic whole, and they will always be honored and honored. What's right or wrong, winning or losing? Win-win or lose-lose.
Zhang Ziyi once said, "When you have a family, you will know who to share with and who to seek this comfort when you have difficulties and happiness. With a home, you have a home, and you have more power and more space to face your own affairs. "
So a good marriage must be that two people accompany each other, encourage each other, share the joys and sorrows brought by fate, and face the ups and downs brought by life together. We should rely on each other, support each other, advance and retreat together, and grow together, instead of letting each other bear the storms of family and career alone.
If two people really can't continue to love each other, then let go of each other and bless each other. Don't torture each other black and blue just because you loved and separated. Tolerance means forgiving others and letting yourself go.
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