In the intellectual talk show video program "Luo Ji Thinking", the famous entrepreneur Luo Zhenyu rudely pointed out: "There are giant babies everywhere in life."

Although this sentence This is somewhat exaggerated, but nowadays most families have only one child, probably because they only have one child, which also causes some parents to overly spoil their children.

When children grow up, their thinking still remains in childhood, and parents’ words will no longer work.

Wittgenstein, one of the founders of analytic philosophers, once said: "When you say no to your children, you must be like a wall, not like a door."

After all, , as long as it is a door, there will be a crack in the door, and children will take advantage of it and turn a deaf ear to their parents' words.

"Metamorphosis" is a 16-year-old giant baby who spends more than 10,000 yuan a day and relies on his mother to feed him. Now his transformation is amazing

"Metamorphosis" is a "life-swap" program In variety shows, children not only need to understand each other from their perspective, but also experience the other person's life, in order to achieve the purpose of gaining lessons.

In a sense, this program is a "life exchange" game for "giant babies" such as young men and eldest ladies. The 16-year-old "super giant baby" Liu Siqi was once sent to Transformation in "Metamorphosis".

When it comes to Liu Siqi, most parents will feel unfamiliar.

But if you talk about the "super giant baby" in "Metamorphosis", the 16-year-old girl who still has to be fed by her mother, everyone should know it.

Liu Siqi’s family living environment is excellent, with no shortage of food and clothing. In addition, her parents are busy at work, so they can only hire a nanny to take care of their daughter. This also results in Liu Siqi’s living habits being very poor. Even at the age of 16, she still has no child. He has the ability to take care of himself and needs to be fed by his mother when eating.

Liu Siqi usually does not dress herself. She needs help from her mother or nanny, otherwise she will lose her temper.

In addition, she also likes to spend money randomly. As long as she is happy, spending tens of thousands a day is not a problem.

In this regard, Liu Siqi also has a famous saying:

“You have money, what can you do without spending it?”

At first, Liu Siqi’s parents did not notice this. Problem, they also felt that the nanny was very reliable and took good care of their daughter.

It wasn’t until one day when Liu Siqi had an argument with his younger brother that he accidentally hit someone, and his parents realized the seriousness of the problem. They could no longer discipline Liu Siqi.

So, the parents sent Liu Siqi to the "Metamorphosis Plan" to make Liu Siqi realize his mistakes through "exchanging lives".

When Liu Siqi followed the program team to the countryside, she was still a little happy. She felt that the air here was very fresh and comfortable.

So, when the program crew asked her to hand over snacks, mobile phones and other items, Liu Siqi handed them over without saying a word.

But the good times did not last long, and Liu Siqi lost her temper. She felt that the food here was poor and the environment was simple, which was not suitable for her. She wanted to go home, but no one would accommodate her, so she had to give up.

As time went by, Liu Siqi began to calm down and observe the life here. She found that the parents here worked day and night, and the newly sensible children would also help their parents.

Although the environment here is poor and life is poor, there is an indescribable feeling that she has never felt in the city.

There is a popular saying among the people, "If you are close to vermillion, you will be red; if you are close to ink, you will be black." During the period of Liu Siqi's life in the countryside, she was slowly influenced and started to do some farm work. At the same time, she tried to be tolerant of others and curb her bad temper.

After the exchange life ended, Liu Siqi took the initiative to help her parents with housework and even refused to feed her parents. After her mother saw her daughter’s reaction, she burst into tears and said:

" My daughter has finally grown up."

Liu Siqi participated in the recording of "Metamorphosis" in 2017. What is her current situation?

While participating in "Metamorphosis", Liu Siqi thought about his future life.

So. After the recording of the show ended, she went abroad to study fashion design and worked hard abroad alone.

Now, Liu Siqi has returned to China. She has opened a clothing studio of her own and has become an excellent independent designer.

At the age of 16, she was a "super giant baby". At the age of 19, she became an entrepreneur. Isn't this change amazing?

Soul torture - What kind of family would raise a child to be a "giant baby"?

1. An overly pampered family

In the animated film "Spirited Away" by the famous Japanese director Hayao Miyazaki, the baby of Granny Yu is a giant baby.

Grandpa Tang especially dotes on the "giant baby". There are toys and snacks everywhere in the room. She always comforts the crying "giant baby", otherwise she will get angry.

In life, if parents always meet their children's needs unconditionally, they will develop a personality that is not grateful and only asks for things. Once their wishes are not met, they will become irritable.

2. Families that overprotect their children

In "Spirited Away", Granny Yu locked the "giant baby" in the room and refused to let him go out. She also said :

"The outside environment can make the baby sick."

There is nothing wrong with parents caring about their children, but they must also learn to let go and let their children complete their own things independently.

If parents only stand in front of their children and shield them from the wind and rain, the children will become fledgling birds and will never fly freely in the sky.

3. Parents who praise their children excessively

Most "giant babies" lack empathy and are emotionally fragile, but have domineering personalities. This is because parents always treat their children inappropriately. Compliments that are realistic.

For example, if a child completes his homework one minute ahead of the specified time, the parent will exaggerate:

"Wow, kid, you are great, you did such a good job." ! Excellent! ”

At this time, the child will have the illusion that he is excellent. And when they encounter real difficulties and fail, they will feel frustrated and easily confused.

How to prevent children from becoming "giant babies"?

1. Parents should not pamper their children too much

Parents may not dote on their children because of their children’s growth needs, but because of their own psychological needs.

Psychologists call this psychological need of parents the "inner child", which is a kind of self-understanding of parents towards their children.

If the "inner child" is a loving, healthy and lively image, parents can love their children rationally;

If the "inner child" is an insecure image, Parents will over-indulge their children.

Therefore, parents must face their own hearts and learn to see what their children need, rather than what they can give.

2. Parents should train their children's self-care ability

Children in Japanese kindergartens will get up by themselves, wash their faces and brush their teeth, eat and pack their bags, but our children rarely can do this.

If children's schooling is affected by national conditions and parents cannot let go, then other abilities can always be used, right?

Parents should cultivate their children's independence and exercise their ability to take care of themselves.

The point is not whether the children can do well, but whether they can do it and whether they can do it attentively.

3. Parents should cultivate their children's empathy

In the movie "Spirited Away", Qianxun told "Giant Baby" that when his good friend Bai Long was injured and needed him , "Giant Baby" doesn't care, but threatens Qianxun. This is a sign of lack of empathy.

Parents should cultivate their children's empathy and let them learn to think from other people's perspective and put themselves in the other person's shoes.