Originally, two strangers became a family after a short love affair and two small books. Since we are a family, we must get along with each other day and night, especially when husband and wife are together almost every day. Over time, various problems will arise. For example, the personality is not harmonious, the way of treating people is different, all kinds of trivial matters and so on. If it is not handled properly, friction will occur. If it takes a long time, you may not even want to quarrel, and finally enter the era of silence and language attack. If that happens, all kinds of problems between husband and wife will appear and get out of hand.
Then as a responsible couple, she/they will try their best to solve these problems with their wisdom and high emotional intelligence. Because he/she doesn't take marriage seriously, because he/she takes this thousand-year fate seriously, because he/she knows that the greatest achievement in life is to live a good life, be worthy of the elderly and children, and not let outsiders see jokes. Then, under the support of this dream, how can we spend it safely in the face of life's disappointments and frictions? The following suggestions are for your reference:
1, learn from each other? Coax?
Adults, children and the elderly all like to be coaxed. For example, the husband and wife quarrel because of a little thing, the man is lying in bed angry and doesn't eat or drink, and the woman goes out angrily. However, the woman thought outside for a day, and it turned out that she was really wrong. So when I went home at night, I bought a dish that my husband loved. When I opened the door, I saw that my husband was still angry, so I went over to apologize to him first, and then I took out my husband's favorite vegetable rice and fed it to him. After dinner, I had the cheek to drill into my husband's arms and said that my husband really didn't want me. In fact, as long as the husband still loves you, if you turn it like this, the man's anger will be gone in an instant. Then pick you up to do what husband and wife should do, and the same man can follow suit.
2. Learn to resolve conflicts through communication.
What I mean by communication is effective communication, which also needs to pay attention to ways and means. For example, after two people are in perfect harmony, they are very satisfied. When both husband and wife are in a good mood, a woman can say: Dear, we are one. What happens in the future, we'll discuss whether to come or not. Don't make a scene. Think about it. Being angry is not only bad for us, but also makes our neighbors laugh. What did you say?/Sorry? As a wife, I know that you work hard for this family, and you often suffer indignities. Thank you, husband. I'm very satisfied. I'll take everything I say to your wife in the future. . If couples often communicate like this, their feelings will definitely go up a storey still higher.
Both husband and wife should learn to compromise properly.
In fact, the word "compromise" is similar to "cajoling", but "compromise" means that when something goes wrong, one party apologizes to the other party for the sake of the overall situation, which requires high emotional intelligence and wisdom. There is also coaxing, which will make couples feel better. Husband and wife should coax each other whether there is a problem or not.
Step 4 learn to be rational
Perhaps many people think that the word sensible can only be used on children, but it is not entirely true. For example, the wife works overtime, the husband cooks at home, and when the wife comes back, she pours face wash water on her face, saying that the wife washes her face and eats. Lying in bed after dinner, the husband can give his wife a soft shoulder, pinch her legs and so on, and her wife will be moved, and 90% of her fatigue will be gone. The same plot, the husband works overtime, so can the wife! For example, praise your wife and husband more when chatting with people outside. Buy a small gift on each other's birthday or anniversary, etc. People's hearts are all flesh, and the small details in life can better reflect each other's intentions. The more you cover your heart, the hotter it gets. If you take doing these little things as a habit, the relationship between husband and wife will be unbreakable. Because little people like us have almost no earth-shattering events to discuss, it would be great if these trivial things were done to the extreme in marriage.