He has a famous saying: love is deep understanding and acceptance.
Some people have realized this for a long time, while others need to spend a lifetime to understand this truth.
Colorful spring flowers will gradually fascinate people's eyes, and shallow spring grass can barely cover the horseshoe.
The story of modern poet Xu Zhimo and talented woman Lin can best recognize the illusion of love. Xu Zhimo is a talented romantic poet, and his life is full of legends. On the other hand, Lin is called the first talented woman, which makes many men worship her in their own fields.
Lin loved two men all his life. One is her husband, Liang Sicheng, the son of Liang Qichao and a master architect in China. The other is the famous philosopher Kim.
Why doesn't Lin love Xu Zhimo? She told her son Liang Congjie that Xu Zhimo didn't love her at all. It was just an illusion.
"At that time, Xu Zhimo loved not the real me, but the forest he imagined with the romantic mood of the poet, but I was not the person he thought."
What is a "fictional forest"?
Xu Zhimo regards her as the embodiment of "love, freedom and beauty". A romantic poet holds you to such a high position and holds you to the embodiment of "love, freedom and beauty". Do you choose to stay with him or stay away from him?
If you don't know who you are, you must know yourself through the evaluation of others. Then you will like this evaluation very much, and you will probably choose to be with this talented person on impulse.
However, if you don't need to know yourself through other people's evaluation, then you will instinctively resist such beautification of your evaluation, and even choose to escape from this man.
In fact, even if you don't avoid him, he will avoid you sooner or later, because he thinks he has chosen the embodiment of "love, freedom and beauty", but soon he will find that this beautiful woman will have many minor faults and even take a shit and pee, which he can't stand.
The marriage between Li Ao and the famous movie star Hu Yinmeng is the most typical example.
In 1975, 22-year-old Hu Yinmeng plays the heroine in the movie How Can I See Through These Clouds? She also became an instant hit, with a high starting point. 1979, Hu Yinmeng first met the writer Li Ao. Maybe it's because of Hu Yinmeng's beauty or her position in the entertainment circle. Li Ao launched a fierce pursuit for this girl 18 years younger than him.
1980, the eighth month they met. Hu Yinmeng, wearing pajamas, secretly went to Li Ao's home behind his parents' backs. There was no wedding or ceremony, so Hu Yinmeng gave herself to Li Ao. Li Ao was 45 years old.
The combination of talented people and beautiful women is not as happy as the public expected. It is an incomprehensible "personality" under the glamorous life of talented people. Once upon a time, Li Ao's uniqueness was Hu Yinmeng's favorite; Now, Li Ao is unique and there is no room for Hu Yinmeng.
Li Ao is always worried that Hu Yinmeng will cuckold him and they will go shopping. Li Ao will say that Hu Yinmeng is flirting with other men. When Hu Yinmeng cooked soup for him, he didn't handle the big bones properly. Li Ao would say that Hu Yinmeng is a "big idiot" who has no common sense of life.
The most exaggerated thing is that when Li Ao loses his temper, he will shut himself in his study, and it will take Hu Yinmeng a long time to "admit his mistake" at the door. Rao, after getting married 1 15 days, Li Ao still filed for divorce.
After the divorce, Li Ao told the camera at the press conference: One day he pushed open the bathroom door and saw Hu Yinmeng squatting on the toilet. He blushed with constipation. It's really unbearable for such a beautiful person to have such a scene.
Years later, talking about the past with Li Ao, Hu Yinmeng said, "I was stupid at that time, but now I understand that he just needs to conquer and conquer excellent women to satisfy himself. I am actually his trophy. "
Love is not only a combination of beauty and beauty, but also a combination of happiness and joy.
The most important thing in love is that you see my real existence, I see your real existence, I have a deep understanding with you, and we also have a deep mutual acceptance.