However, there is something terrible about this dispute, which is mixed with personal grievances. Let me tell a true story, which is my personal experience when I was in a company:
My two colleagues at that time were both masters. Let's call them Master G and Master M. ..
Two such figures are in the same group. Naturally, some people refuse to accept each other. Master G is a Tatar and likes to beat gongs and drums in person. Even if he is sad, he should speak out, even if he is forced to compete.
And Master M happens to be an old master who is good at "Yin people". I won't argue with you, and I won't fight you. On the surface, I believe in Buddhism. In fact, I tripped you secretly, and you really don't have a bottom.
Until one time, because of a work problem, the contradiction between two people broke out. The original intention is only to solve the problems encountered in the work. I didn't expect two people to fight for this reason. To say that these two people are also "old and not serious", we all watched them, and they punched and kicked each other.
Later, we couldn't stand it anymore, so we took it apart. As a result, both of them died, and neither of them chose to stand by. Therefore, the leader must be asking questions. At this time, the two men are very United and have the same caliber. They all said it was because of work, and then they got into a fight.
As a result, two people escaped punishment by luck, but this incident gave us a warning in the workplace, that is, never mix personal grievances with work, which is not only harmful to you, but also harmful to colleagues.
And I also think that conflicts between men are usually solved on the spot, and there are few cases of holding grudges. If it is purely because of work, we should actually give each other a step, make peace, and go for a drink after work. There is basically no problem that cannot be solved.
So it's normal to quarrel at work, but if it's really personal, the problem can easily escalate. So, you can have emotions or no emotions.
It is normal for colleagues to quarrel over work. I think it is a very good thing to quarrel simply because the problems at work have not been solved, because in the process of quarreling, we can think more effectively and solve the problems, which is much better than everyone's stuffy head and no one cares about anyone. Moreover, after quarreling, the scheme obtained will often be more delicate and effective. Secondly, there is no need to worry too much about quarreling between colleagues because of work, because in most cases, it is not because of people, but because of things, so there is no need to be too angry.
However, if two colleagues have further conflicts at work because of personal feelings or personal conflicts, then I suggest that you personally stay out of this matter, because at this moment, it is very complicated for your future colleagues to help either side, and it is likely that one of them will stay away from you because of your wrong words in the future.
This is my opinion. I hope I can help you. Thank you.
I think this problem is quite common in my work, and the general idea should be "right things, not people". Differences in work are inevitable. As long as we handle the degree of an argument well and remain rational all the time, such an argument is actually helpful to our work.
The above is my general thinking on this issue. Below I will analyze for you from several specific points, and what you should do in the face of this situation.
1. If it is a work dispute, the first thing to make sure is that both parties to the dispute must love their work and want to do it well, so they will have their own opinions; At this time, if you can't draw a conclusion for a long time, it is also a headache. At this time, you can make use of the reference opinions of third parties or discuss with more people, and adopt the principle that the minority is subordinate to the majority to make a choice.
2. In the process of disputes, everyone must keep a rational mind and need to pay attention and understand at all times: both sides are doing their own work, and it is the best choice to be calm and find a solution together;
3. If the other party can't control his temper and launch a personal attack angrily during the dispute, then remember to keep calm, pause for a while, calm down the other party's emotions first, and remember not to be influenced by the other party. As soon as both sides are impulsive, this matter will escalate, and both sides will be punished afterwards, which will not help;
By answering the above points, I hope to give you some help. Finally, I wish you all the best! Be calm if something happens! Take a deep breath Take a deep breath
In the past, I was responsible for issuing settlement documents for customers to repay in advance by installments, but I was busy because the middle of the month was the peak period for customers to repay. At this time, a customer contacted the settlement post and wanted to know the relevant data. In fact, customers rarely settle accounts at this time, because even if they want to handle it, they have to repay the loan in advance to handle it. However, regardless of these, someone called us to publish, and it takes about half an hour for a form! We also need leaders to sign or something. 90% of the forms sent in a month are only for customers to know, and we don't handle them at all. At the peak of repayment, sometimes we can't even have lunch, and we don't understand us when we settle the post. Once, we had an argument over this, and our side was as busy as a bee, still urging data. I said we are really busy now. Wait a few days, the customer's loan in this period has been paid off.
Finally, the personnel department intervened in the investigation, that is, our department came to experience our work in the middle of the month, and finally wrote: these data cannot be released during the peak repayment period in the middle of the month.
Although we had an argument at work, we still have to work together in the future. The working relationship between us has not changed, and we can't delay our work because of a little dispute! He was also very friendly when he asked me to issue the form, and I was not affected by the last argument. Me, too. I can't let others think I'm stingy and bear grudges. We are still very cooperative together, and we will chat and joke together when we are not busy. In fact, there is nothing personal between colleagues, just for the disputes and contradictions arising from work, there is no need to take it to heart simply because of work. Laughing it off is the best solution.
Whether in life or at work, we will have friction with others more or less, so it is very common for colleagues to have disputes because of work.
But not everyone thinks so, and some people will regard controversy as the biggest problem. So how should we treat the disputes arising from work between colleagues?
First of all, you should know that an argument is not a quarrel. It is because both sides have a reasonable basis, but they can't reach an agreement, so the dispute is reasonable. However, quarrels are often made out of nothing and have no reasonable basis.
And the disputes between colleagues are all caused by work. On the other hand, it also shows that the work is difficult and needs some time and energy to solve it. Then the superior leaders will inevitably notice this problem and then try to help them solve it.
Secondly, disputes are also the exchange and collision of ideas. Without disputes, others won't find your good ideas, and you don't know what others think.
It is precisely because of the dispute that everyone will actively seek solutions that satisfy both sides. With more disputes, the tacit understanding between colleagues will become higher and higher, that is, the ability to cooperate will become stronger and stronger.
You can imagine, if colleagues keep silent every time they work or have a meeting, for a long time, people with ideas dare not and don't want to talk about it, can this company still operate normally?
At work, peaceful coexistence and mutual disputes are not contradictory, and they occur at different times.
Then, you should treat things instead of people. Colleagues have disputes not because they are responsible for this job.
If a colleague is the kind of person who is irresponsible for his work, he is likely to die with a mentality that has nothing to do with himself, so even if he has doubts or puzzles about his work, he will not take the initiative to solve it, let alone have an argument.
Therefore, colleagues can't confuse work and life because of work disputes, so they think he is a quarrelsome person. Remember, things can't be human.
It is normal for colleagues to have work disputes. After the dispute is over, the work problem is solved. In private, people should talk or play.
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First of all, this is a normal thing.
1. Work disputes, talk about the facts, don't attack life;
2. If they are equal and calm, they will discuss joint research and listen to the opinions of other colleagues when necessary;
3. If you are a leader, you might as well adopt his opinions first and measure who is right and who is wrong with facts;
When working together, it is best to be more understanding and tolerant. Life is not easy. It is best to help each other and make progress together. The collision of ideas will spark brilliant sparks, which is not a bad thing. Everyone is public, not private, and this kind of dispute is also necessary for the development of the company.
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Because of the disputes between colleagues at work, there are actually many restrictions or situational conditions on how to treat this problem. Careful analysis is as follows:
1, a real work dispute. That's understandable. At work, everyone has their own views on things, and the team that expresses their opinions is more effective.
In the face of such work disputes, we should face them with the quality that a person in the workplace should have, listen to different opinions, and jointly contribute to the great development of the unit or company. This controversy is responsible for one's own work and highly respected for one's career, which is worth preserving.
2, on the grounds of work, personal disputes. This kind of dispute does exist, and this kind of dispute is often an important reason why units or companies are locked up. It is precisely because of this internal friction that the company spirit is frustrated. This kind of dispute is absolutely unacceptable! Once found, it must be banned. In real life, there are many examples of this kind of "killing people with a knife".
And if we personally face such disputes, especially the so-called "scheming bitch" disputes, we must stay away. Once you get into such a dispute, it will affect a lot, work and even life. If you are unfortunate enough to encounter this kind of dispute, don't be afraid. Use facts and time to break the media of this dispute and make it have no market.
In fact, at work, we should pay more attention to harmony, build ladders for each other, and never lower our salaries at the bottom. Not only do individuals not get any benefits, but they are more likely to bring down our work unit, which is what all people in the workplace do not want to see.
Life will be better if there is more glory and harmony among colleagues.
There are different views, welcome to discuss below.
It is common for colleagues to have disputes over work. Disputes at work are things, not people. After quarreling, it is also a good comrade to face the problem positively and finish the work effectively. In the words of my former boss, you can quarrel at work, which shows that you really work hard at work, much better than those who push around when faced with problems.
It was 20 12 when I was a production supervisor in a factory in Shenzhen. One day, the quality department had to rework the product because of a little appearance problem. I have confirmed with the customer corresponding to the order in advance that the customer realizes that the problem of label bubble is acceptable. The quality department insists that the customer give a concession acceptance letter, otherwise the goods will not be delivered. I said that the customer had received it, and you had to get insurance if there were problems with the customer's chat records and pictures, so I quarreled with the head of the quality department, and he asked me to rework it or the customer would not accept the book. I said he was overqualified, so I could be a quality manager. He said that I had no sense of quality and didn't respect the work of the quality department. I was angry at that time, too. We quarreled in the office and soon quarreled with the boss. The boss naturally hit 50 boards first, and then he felt that he could ship the products. So the quality department won't embarrass me.
Although the matter has been solved, it still makes me feel bad. I stayed in the company until 8 o'clock to prepare dinner. I just came downstairs and met the leader of the quality department. Seeing that I was coming down, he asked if he wanted to take a bus. I said that I not only had to take the bus, but also felt sorry for eating. I am also angry about this novel. You should also invite me to dinner. Don't invite me to dinner. I won't drive your car. The man said, well, today is really bad for me. I found a place to eat and ordered some dishes. Actually, we usually have a good relationship. After the incident, no one can rest assured to eat meat and drink. After the meal, the boy paid the bill as agreed, and didn't want the waiter to say he bought it. He came to ask me if I bought it, and I said no. We all wondered who bought it, and asked the cashier at the cashier's desk that it was bought by a girl. Since we are both single dog, how can a girl pay for our door? Went home with questions.
I stayed up all night. I just arrived at the company boss's secretary this morning and said there would be a meeting at 9 o'clock. Everyone is here, and the boss begins to speak. First of all, he mentioned our quarrel yesterday, and we all bowed our heads. Then the boss changed his mind and said what we did last night. It turned out that the boss and her daughter had dinner last night and saw me having dinner with the head of the quality department. The boss thought that they were still quarreling in the afternoon and could sit together for dinner at night. Such employees are the ones who do the practical work, so he asked her daughter to pay for dinner last night. The boss praised us, and we thought about the question all night and got the answer. The answer is no, that aunt has a crush on me,
The conclusion is that the boss likes such employees because of quarrels at work.
We are all colleagues. Working together will inevitably lead to the collision of ideas, concepts and ideas. This has nothing to do with whether the relationship is harmonious or not. No matter how harmonious the relationship is, there will be different views on the work. As a supervisor, you should allow disputes to exist. The more the truth is argued, the clearer it becomes. Only by expressing their opinions and brainstorming can we form the best decision. Therefore, it is a bad thing to have work disputes between colleagues. It is not normal to protect yourself wisely and not talk about problems when you see them, or to say that there is no discussion with different voices.
As the saying goes, "principle is important, style is important." Don't be a peacemaker, don't be obsessed with trivial matters, and don't look for trouble everywhere, or even get something for nothing, causing work disputes. This has affected the relationship between colleagues and ruined the professional atmosphere. I don't know how to advance and retreat, and it is a matter of character to go looking for trouble to stir up disputes. What is worthy of recognition is that when you encounter principled problems at work, you should stick to your own opinions, argue with your colleagues, and finally achieve unity.
Work disputes should be based on facts, without personal attacks, with the goal of doing a good job, rather than taking the opportunity to make trouble and targeting colleagues. Work can be controversial, but the relationship between colleagues remains the same.
Work disputes are caused by work, but also for work. Leaders or colleagues should intervene in mediation disputes in time to be impartial and uphold justice. We can't judge right and wrong by factors other than the power of one party to the dispute, such as the leader, the boss's son, and the good relationship between one party to the dispute and us, but by whose opinions are legal, reasonable and reasonable, which are in line with the system and reality of the unit and are more conducive to work. As a judgment standard, we can mediate and coordinate, enhance consensus, calm disputes and promote work.
In fact, this question is very simple. It's all about fighting over work. This is also a common occurrence, which shows that you are all serious and responsible, which is also a good thing. You all work for the sake of work, and there is no deep hatred. You should sit down and discuss your views and opinions calmly. If that person is good for work, wouldn't it be nice to do as that person does? Then they are still good friends.