1. What are jealousy and greed?
Jealousy is everyone's demons. I came into contact with this word very early and was influenced by it very early. I am jealous of people around me who are more handsome than me. I am jealous of those whose academic performance is better than mine; I was jealous before I had a girlfriend; I envy those who earn more money than I do; I envy those who mix better than me. I won't compete with others in the world. As long as there is a trace of ordinary life, I can't be detached.
If it is greed, don't say anything else. Look at the composition of the word "greed" first, and you will know that our ancestors spent a lot of effort in creating this word. Greed is above now, shellfish is below, shellfish is money, which means that money is recorded every day. This is not greed. What is it? People with normal income can still record it every day? Even business people sometimes lose money and get discounts! Let's talk about this "greed" first. There is a forest, and there is fertile land at home, called forest, with women and beautiful women. Generally speaking, these two words together constitute a person's most primitive desire. People who want to succeed will devote themselves to their careers for a period of time, showing good professionalism and moral standards, but once the time is ripe, they will show considerable pursuit of money, rights and women and even greed.
Greed is human nature, both ancient and modern. It is normal to show the true nature of human nature in front of money, power and women. If a person says that he doesn't have these basic desires, it is cheating and lying. Let's classify him as an out-of-touch saint for the time being, but it still can't impress him. Let's just say the temptation is not enough. We might as well increase the temptation of temptation to know whether he is telling lies or telling the truth. Human nature cannot stand the test. A woman in love often judges whether a man loves her by whether he is willing to spend money for her. No matter how good a friend is, he will hesitate to weigh the gains and losses in front of economic interests. Similarly, the road to power is extremely powerful, and the people who often restrict you are precisely the people you know best.
Envy and greed can be said to be a pair. He is my brother. Envy first, then greed. Envy is the cause of greed, and greed is the fruit of jealousy. Envy is because of lack, greed is because of too much. Want to have more because of lack, and have more because of lack for too long.
When I was a child, I didn't study well. When others are studying for the rise of China, I hide aside and read extracurricular books with relish. My greed at that time was to read all the books I could collect. Later, when I grew up, I became greedy under the influence of this materialistic society. When I want to compete in the workplace, I want to stay in history and beat time with words. It can be said that greed is very obvious.
Jealousy and greed are bad, but they are also wrong. They are always on the alert like a scourge. But for those who want to succeed, proper jealousy and greed are necessary. The pleasure of making achievements and attacking the city and pulling out the village is enough to shake the little unhappiness brought by jealousy, which should be one of the driving forces for success. Most geniuses are paranoid, and the desire for success, even the formation of desire, is the premise of success.
Therefore, jealousy and greed are both obstacles to success and motivation for success. It is natural that he is my brother. For those who are interested in success, how should we manage them? This is a lifelong practice.
Second, how to manage jealousy and greed.
Are you good enough to reach the peak of your life, and you can eliminate "jealousy" and "greed" by looking down on all beings? Of course not, greed is endless, just as no one thinks he has more money and just wants more.
Furthermore, even if you get something very rare, your heart will become bigger and you will become more jealous and greedy. What should I do? Even if you are great and practice the method of doing things well, the good things will always belong to you, will you become better? No, it will increase your risk.
There is an old saying: "It is not enough to laugh at people, it is irritating." If a person keeps getting what he thinks, the best reputation, the most money and the most beautiful woman, others will only envy and hate, what should he do?
I've been thinking about what to do, and the answer is regret. There is no good way.
My mother has recently fallen in love with a rehabilitation instrument. She tried several times and thought it was good. She wants to buy one, but it's expensive. After some ideological struggle, she decided to buy it. This should be the biggest sum of money my old mother spent for herself in 80 years. I asked her why, and she said that before I touched this instrument, I walked very fast and was short of breath, so I couldn't get up as soon as I sat down. Now that I'm well conditioned, I can jog when I buy food. There are obviously more black hairs on my head, and the vertical stripes on my nails are gone, and my complexion is getting better and better. .....
I said, you are healthy, conditioning is just icing on the cake, not necessarily the role of the instrument, it may be the reason for your good attitude!
Old lady: "My health is your blessing. If I really want you to take care of me while I'm lying in bed, that means I'll see your father soon. Everyone has desires and is jealous of his health, which should be a good thing. If I don't think about anything and don't envy others, what strength does my life have? " I was speechless when I said this.
Ordinary as my mother, at this age, she has already surpassed the age of natural selection, and has gone through the years from jealous health to greedy pursuit of the future. It can be seen that it is very difficult for ordinary people to live a life without jealousy and greed. Can a saint do it? I read Zeng Guofan's article and found that he can neither be jealous nor greedy.
Zeng Guofan said: "When bad things happen, it is worse than suspicion. This is a common problem in ancient and modern times. The defeat of the country, the death of the family and the death of the body are all due to doubt. " Disaster is caused by jealousy and suspicion, which has always been the same. The destruction of the country and the death of people are all caused by suspicion.