This country, which has come all the way from the ancient farming era, has always valued family relationships, and love has been habitually placed within the framework of the extended family.

"Meeting the parents" is often a sign of the formalization and openness of the relationship between the sexes, and getting the approval of both parents is an important milestone in the further development of the relationship.

Young people are often advised empirically that relationships that are not blessed by their parents will not have good results.

The spring breeze of reform has already blown away the marriage pattern of "matchmaker's words and parents' orders".

There is neither a rigid time limit nor a lifetime limit on the content of meeting your parents.

To what extent your relationship has reached, you can consider meeting your parents and hearing from others.

01

It will be you for the rest of your life, and you will meet your parents naturally.

There is a widely circulated famous saying, "Love without the purpose of marriage is just being a hooligan." Even in today's era of open love concepts, this sentence is still sought after by ordinary men and women.

Marriage-oriented love will not be a matter of one person. Just one person's contribution is not enough.

Under the national conditions that attach great importance to family ties, marriage is also a kind of union, the union of two families.

No matter how sweet and perfect the love is, at a certain point, conflicts, accusations, and confusion will inevitably arise between the two.

If two people set out towards the vision of building a small family together, are willing to tolerate their shortcomings, and are willing to explore their advantages, when the relationship is strong enough to swear to each other that "I will be you for the rest of my life," it will be a matter of course for them to meet their parents. .

The approval of both parents will be the icing on the cake for this relationship.

Xiaoqing and Xiaolei are a typical campus romance. They were classmates in high school and came together on the university campus.

After graduating from college and getting a stable job, Xiaoqing, as the woman, has already started thinking about meeting her parents.

However, Xiaolei politely refused over and over again, which made Xiaoqing doubtful. Wasn't it "destined for this life"?

Wait until another year later, when Xiaolei actively made an appointment and nervously visited his parents-in-law, he realized that the pain he had felt before was because he had just graduated, started working, and had nothing to do. Achievement, very uneasy to see parents.

"It's you for the rest of my life". In my heart, I really long for the affirmation and acceptance of the other person's parents. However, some external conditions are restricting me. In order to "meet my parents", it has become a huge motivation in life.

02

The relationship is stable. I want to know about your family of origin.

When two people have compatible temperaments and their emotional relationship becomes stable, it does not completely mean that their future emotional life will be smooth sailing, even if they are happy.

When the relationship is limited to two people, it is likely that hormones are playing a leading role, and it is easier to be happy if it does not involve daily necessities.

So when the relationship is stable, it is a good time to "meet the parents".

The so-called words and deeds, and the influence of the eyes and ears, the situation of the native family can often predict the future of the world of two people.

For example, for people who come together because of their preferences, during the relationship, both parties will often bring out all their own advantages, and even become blinded and automatically filter out the other person's shortcomings.

"Meeting your parents" can bring you back to your senses and see how the other parent's parents get along: the allocation of responsibility within the family, the dining atmosphere at the table, the attitude towards work and interpersonal relationships? Eight Being inseparable indicates your significant other's "true face" in the days to come.

03

Emotional and financial independence and maturity, whether seen or not, feelings are all here.

Papi Jiang’s views on marriage once ignited heated discussions on the Internet. She always looked for her mother when she returned home during the Chinese New Year, and her parents have not met each other for five years since they were married.

He Jiong gave an evaluation of the relationship between the two parties. They are independent and dependent people who have an independent living space, but the close connection is constantly being separated.

Is there a time and opportunity choice for both parties who hold this concept in "Meeting the Parents"? No, because it is not placed in an important position.

Behind this positioning is emotional and financial independence and maturity.

Raising children is a process in which children and parents gradually grow apart. The focus here is on spirit.

Pushing children to independently assume family and social responsibilities, rather than making decisions by "meeting their parents", is undoubtedly an increasingly accepted parenting concept.

So, seeing or not seeing is a ritual, not a choice, or even a "one word".