What attitude? Refers to personal views on things and actions taken.

So what is the right attitude? This means that we should have a reasonable view of things and be able to take actions to improve ourselves.

Simply put, the correct attitude is to look at things objectively and take actions that are beneficial to you (provided, of course, that it does not violate morality and law).

The correct attitude can be a single attitude such as carefulness, patience and long-term vision, or an attitude in which various attitudes are combined in a certain proportion.

Third, why is the correct attitude important?

Why is the correct attitude so important that it can crush other factors and directly affect your success or failure?

The United States Military Academy at West Point has a famous saying:

"Attitude is everything."

Nothing can't be done well, the key is your attitude. When a thing has not started, you think it can't be successful, then it will definitely not be successful, or if you don't take it seriously, then things will not have a good result.

Let's look at a short story:

Three workers are building a wall. A nosy man came up and asked, "What are you doing?"

The first worker said indifferently, "Didn't you see it? I am building a wall. "

The second worker looked up at the busybody and said, "We are building a building."

The third worker said sincerely and confidently, "We are building a city."

Ten years later, the first man built a wall on another construction site; The second man sat in the office drawing drawings, and he became an engineer. The third person became the president of a real estate company and the boss of the first two people.

Attitude determines height. In just ten years, the fate of three people has completely changed. What caused this result? Is the right attitude!

Stallone was rejected 1855 times and finally succeeded: is it bad luck to do nothing? The right attitude is the key.

Assuming you have a high IQ and good luck, the whole trend is in your favor.

But you are an unwilling and impetuous person. What will happen if things go on like this?

Nothing, the worse the better.

Because of your carelessness and impetuousness, even if you are lucky and have a high IQ, everything you face will get worse and worse. Bad things can be accumulated if they are not eliminated. If they accumulate to a certain extent, you will roll over and naturally become mediocre.

What's more, the IQ and luck of most of us belong to the category of ordinary people. At this time, if there are still incorrect attitudes such as carelessness and inner impetuousness, it will be difficult for us to turn over in our life.

If Stallone doesn't have the right attitude and is impetuous and careless in visiting again and again, it is estimated that it will be difficult to succeed after visiting 10 thousand times.

If the third worker only takes building a wall as his immediate task, he will not be president in ten years.

The correct attitude is so important, so how can we cultivate our own correct attitude?

Fourth, how to cultivate a correct attitude?

A correct attitude means that we should look at things reasonably and take actions to improve ourselves.

The word attitude includes all kinds of actions, both good and bad, such as impetuousness, patience, foresight and concentration.

The key attitude that makes us mediocre, when cultivating this piece, we need to divide it into two situations, namely:

Good attitude, but unreasonable training proportion, leading to incorrect attitude and mediocrity.

There is no good attitude, just need training to develop a correct attitude.

Stallone was rejected 1855 times and finally succeeded: is it bad luck to do nothing? The right attitude is the key.

1. The attitude is good, but the training ratio is unreasonable, which leads to incorrect and mediocre attitude.

What does this mean?

For example, you have a goal now. You want to read 50 books a year, but in fact you don't understand what attitude you need to match when reading 50 books a year, so when you take action, you read at will.

And your casual attitude is concentration and relaxation.

What will happen if you study with concentration and relaxation?

You may be able to read 50 books, but you can't flatter yourself, because sometimes you will relax and concentrate on reading, and you haven't adjusted the ratio of these two attitudes. Too relaxed reading will make you regard reading as a leisure and relaxing thing, and the absorption effect will naturally fail.

It may be a good attitude to relax when the proportion is reasonable and put it on other things, but once the proportion is unreasonable or arranged on things that are not suitable for relaxation, relaxation is a bad attitude.

Therefore, it is necessary for us to arrange the proportion of attitudes in various scenarios.

Next, Pangpang gives you two attitude matching templates in particularly common scenarios.

A. Work

How to match the attitude at work?

Reliable 100%

Remember, it doesn't matter if your communication skills, expression skills, emotional management skills, learning ability are poor and your professional knowledge is not solid enough. You only need to act with a reliable attitude of 100%, and your workplace will get better and better.

Why do you say that? Think about it, if you are very willing to make yourself reliable, when you can't communicate well because of poor communication skills, your reliability will make you improve your communication skills until you can communicate well and avoid the next mistake.

When your expressive ability is not good, your reliability will also improve your expressive ability, so as to do things that need expressive ability well.

Because the problem of emotional management leads you to screw things up, it will also improve your emotional management ability in private and avoid repeating the same mistakes next time.

Learning ability and professional knowledge are the same. Your reliable attitude will make you do better and more reliable things you didn't do well. Therefore, in the workplace, the proportion of reliable work attitude is 100%.

Stallone was rejected 1855 times and finally succeeded: is it bad luck to do nothing? The right attitude is the key.

B. Life

What kind of life do most people like?

Happy life, of course.

Therefore, in the attitude matching of life, A Pang's suggestion is 60% courage +40% optimism.

A happy life will not be waiting for you, but won by you. Where there is struggle, there is contradiction, and we are afraid of contradiction. To overcome fear, we must be brave and dare to challenge contradictions, and we may fail. How can we get up faster after failure and pursue the next round of happy life? What we need is optimism.

A brave and optimistic attitude can make you form a positive cycle and move towards happiness in your life.

2. Without a good attitude, you can learn a correct attitude only through training.

If you are an impetuous and unreliable person and don't have all kinds of good mentality, then if you want to have a correct mentality, we need to constantly cultivate a good mentality, so that we can use the template of 1 point to make a match and get things done!

A Pang shares with you three most common and widely applicable attitude training methods.

The Way to Make Yourself Reliable: Result-oriented

What does it mean to be reliable? Everything has an explanation, and everything has a response.

Stallone was rejected 1855 times and finally succeeded: is it bad luck to do nothing? The right attitude is the key.

Most of the reasons why we can't do this are because it takes a lot of energy and time to explain everything and respond to everything, and we will encounter all kinds of difficulties, and our nature is laziness, so of course we will follow our own nature.

From this perspective, the key issue is to resist your own nature. How can you resist your nature? Come the other way.

We didn't care about the results before, so now we are result-oriented, and we won't stop until we see clear and reasonable results.

Completely oppose your nature, so that you will gradually become reliable under the power of result orientation.

Brave way: repeat the difficulties.

Why not be brave and timid? Because you hate loss, you think that difficulties will bring you losses, but in fact, many times difficulties are not as terrible as you think and will not bring you losses. So the way to be brave is to repeat the difficulties from an objective perspective.

For example, giving a speech on stage is a very difficult thing for fat people at first. Before that, if I want to speak bravely on stage, I will repeat difficult things from an objective perspective.

I will say, "I'll come on stage later and share my thoughts with you."

Repeatedly repeating this sentence, you will find that this seems to be a very common thing, so common that it seems that this thing is not what I want to do. This method of becoming brave is really useful, and everyone can try it.

The way to make yourself optimistic: get used to seeing the bright side of things

Many times we are pessimistic because we hate losses, so we usually pay more attention to our own losses, and when we look at things, we will instinctively look at the disadvantages it can bring, which will make us pessimistic.

The way to change is to slow down when looking at the disadvantages of a thing and think about what benefits it can bring to yourself.

Stallone was rejected 1855 times and finally succeeded: is it bad luck to do nothing? The right attitude is the key.

For example, when I made a year-end summary recently, one of my goals failed. If I look at it in the usual pessimistic attitude, I will definitely think that my goal has failed, so I will fall behind others again, which will have an adverse impact on my work in the second half of the year.

But at this time, I stopped to think about its advantages. What good can this failed goal bring me? Oh, although the goal failed, I found my problem. I can bear the result of this failure. If I can't bear the next failure, I will make a lot of money once I avoid it. This seems to be a benefit, so my second half of the year will definitely be better!

Summary: Si Long was rejected 1855 times and finally succeeded: is it bad luck to do nothing? Attitude is the key factor.

So how to cultivate a correct attitude? There are two situations:

If you have a good attitude and it's just a matter of matching, then use a fat matching template.

If you don't have a good attitude, train the attitude that can be used in most cases with the method of fat, and then match and realize it with the method of point 1.

Do these two things, and you will get better and better. Come on!