There is no doubt that a white lie is a lie itself. Lies, lying is cheating, cheating is immoral, and immoral things are unpopular. These are all inculcated by teachers since childhood. But we ask ourselves, who hasn't told a lie? There are many purposes for our relatives, friends or strangers, but when we add "goodwill" to a lie, it seems that everyone may accept it, which is the concentrated expression of human weakness.
mark. Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponent and make your friends feel relieved. " Therefore, the view of psychologists is: don't lie easily, even if it is a white lie.
We think that we should start with the definition to distinguish things, and synthesize the interpretation of Kangxi dictionary. A white lie means not seeking truth from facts, telling lies and empty words, exaggerating, covering up and distorting the truth. From the analysis of the structure of well-intentioned lie phrases, it is a partial phrase, and the head word is a lie, so a well-intentioned lie is essentially a lie. It is an indisputable fact that white lies are often used by some "professional liars" because of the uncertainty of white lies. The "lie" itself is dark, the likes and dislikes of things are not measured by the purpose of things, and a white lie itself is a lie. Although he has shed his beggar clothes and put on his cheongsam, he still can't get rid of the essence of his lies, and lies mean deception, which hinders honesty. The starting point of a white lie is good, but often once it is exposed, it will do more harm to the other party. As a lie itself, it is already an act contrary to honesty.
in the 2-character moral code put forward in the "Outline for the Implementation of Civic Moral Construction" promulgated by the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China, "honesty" is a very important code, and honesty means seeking truth and justice. The ancients said that "the true one" is sincere. Not refined and sincere, not moving.
As General Secretary Hu Jintao said in his speech, "The socialist harmonious society we want to build should be a society with democracy and the rule of law, fairness and justice, honesty and friendship, full of vitality, stability and order, and harmony between man and nature."
through the above analysis, we believe that no matter whether a lie is for a good purpose or not, being a lie will inevitably hinder honesty.
In an environment where honesty is not emphasized in the whole society, you are the only one who suffers. However, honesty and trustworthiness are the foundation of being a man and should not be a condition for keeping up with others. The society is progressing continuously, and internationalization is getting closer and closer to us. The villain who earns the interests of others by fraud will eventually be spurned. In this way, your honesty and faith will gain the trust of most people, and your road will be wider and wider.
basis of the debate (example):
The opposing party argued that people need to be honest. I have a small example here. In 1933, Lao She's friend asked him for an old man's painting of Qi Baishi. Twenty years later, when Mr. Lao She saw that friend again, he gave it to him. This does not mean that Mr. Lao She kept his promise. Has he not forgotten what he promised his friends twenty years ago? Therefore, we still support that people must be honest and not lie.
A white lie is a lie in itself. He just changed his robe into a stone robe, but it is still a lie. A false lie is cheating, and cheating is an obstacle to honesty. Therefore, we believe that people should be honest and not lie.
White Lies Although his motives are good, he is often used by some professional liars. A professional liar may, I told a lie, but it may be a white lie. In this way, there are many lies, and he still thinks he is noble, so I think people should be honest, otherwise once you tell a lie, whether it is good or malicious, your intentions may be good, but someone may take advantage of it.
Moreover, there are more and more white lies in life, and people's discrimination against lies will become worse and worse. Once life is full of lies, there is no way to distinguish which ones are white and which ones are malicious.
if you live in a world full of lies, will you feel at ease?
A white lie is also a lie. It is just like a disease. Even if it is not malignant, it is benign. Even if it is only a minor illness, can you say that it is not a lie? Can you say that he is not ill?
If you say that his painting is beautiful, he will be laughed at when he goes out. If you tell him directly that your painting is not good and teach him where to correct it, then he will avoid some unnecessary embarrassment.
A lie is cheating. Does the other debater want to add a beautiful light ring to the lie? Isn't it a kind of deception to tell lies from an objective point of view? Since it is well-intentioned, why should the other debater lie? In fact, there are two kinds of lies, one is acute and the other is chronic. Acute means that a child didn't listen carefully in class. When he got home, his mother asked him, you didn't listen carefully in class. The child said, I listened carefully. This is because he didn't want to be scolded by his mother. He also wanted to appease his mother and not make her sad, and he passed two points. A chronic lie means that you meet a mentally retarded child. Can you tell him that you are mentally retarded? Can you call him stupid? You can only say that you are smart, but if you say that he is smart, you are slowly disintegrating your credit system.
excuse me, your opponent, can you say that honesty is not a person's moral capital? A philosopher once said that there are two things that can deeply shock our hearts, one is the bright starry sky, and the other is our moral code-honesty. It can be seen that honesty is a person's moral code, a person's spiritual beauty, and honesty is a major premise. When we hold this debate, you can say honesty ...
Debate skills:
To correctly use the method of "winning by slow" in the debate, we should at least pay attention to the following three points: First, we should wait for the opportunity to strike first, as the saying goes, "haste makes waste." "Slowness" is also necessary under certain conditions. The method of "winning by slowness" is actually a delaying tactic in argument, which is a strategy to delay the other side's invasion. When the argument situation is not suitable for quick decision or the time is not yet ripe, we should avoid the direct confrontation between the needle and the wheat, but delay the time to wait for the arrival of the fighter plane. Once the time is ripe, we can attack the enemy and defeat the opponent. For example, in the first case, Stand by slowly. At the critical moment when discussing the prime minister's candidate, silence was used to express opposition, and finally victory was won. Secondly, the method of "winning by slow" is suitable for the debate situation of taking advantage of disadvantage and taking advantage of weakness against strength. It is a strategic means adopted by the weak side to defeat the seemingly powerful side. There are strategies in "slow", and the slow action should be clever. The "slow" here is not a reaction. However, it is one of the magic weapons for the eloquent orator who is just as foolish as a fool. For example, in the first case, Churchill pretended to be deaf and dumb in the face of Chamberlain's questioning and delayed the time. In this tenacious stalemate, Chamberlain's side finally lost his temper, and Churchill finally won the battle with slow tactics. Third, Slow down anger with cold versus heat is still a good technique of "slow down" in argument. In argument, people with poor self-control are easy to get excited. In this case, people who are overly excited should be persuaded to deal with it in slow motion and slow tone. Only by slow down anger and cold versus heat can they "cool down and decompress". Only when the other party is calm. It is with a calm attitude and gentle tone that the other side's anger is calmed down and the contradiction is resolved. In short, the "fast" and "slow" in the debate are also a dialectical relationship of unity of opposites. It is of course good to be quick, but sometimes "slow" also has its beauty. "slow" can stand by, but "slow" can. "Slowness" is a tactic to slow down the war of words. Although it takes a long time to slow down and take a long time, it is often a shortcut to victory in many cases.
The famous aphorism:
People don't believe in it, but they don't know what to do-Confucius
said that he was unfaithful and faithful, but he was only profitable and did everything. If so, it could be said. -Zhu Xi
If someone cares about heaven and earth, loyalty is clothing and trust is clothing. -Lu Zhaoling
You must be honest with others, and others will be honest with you-Li Ka-shing
Starting a business is not like studying. You can live for many years in a day, and you must take it one step at a time. -Zhou jinfeng
seeking treasures, though his taste is expensive, he will not dare to reduce material resources; The lecture hall is famous, and although it is complicated, it will not dare to save labor. -looking at honesty in "Tong Ren Tang"
No one sees the reconciliation, but God knows it.
if an enterprise wants to operate continuously, it must first be recognized by the society and users. Only when enterprises are sincere to users forever can users and society return to enterprises, and can enterprises develop forward-Zhang Ruimin
Sincerity forever-Haier's famous advertising slogan
Credit is an indispensable personal intangible asset in modern society. The constraint of honesty comes not only from the outside world, but also from our self-discipline mentality and our own moral strength. -He Zhiyong
After entering the society, we deeply felt the seriousness and harmfulness of the credit crisis. But it's no use complaining, let alone waiting. Rebuilding social credit must rely on everyone's efforts, starting from now and starting from yourself. -Guo Hui
The slightest bit is related to moral integrity. A trivial matter and a casual breach of promise may ruin our reputation for life. -Lin Dasheng
Brand contains the reputation of honesty accumulated by the company over the years, and it is a huge intangible asset-British businessman
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