The word "parents" is indeed a great one, but everyone has the potential to be a parent. Therefore, parents are all different in the world, and unkind parents abound. A single sentence from a universal parent is often a talisman for moral kidnapping.

It is an old custom that a son does not complain about his father’s faults. To put it bluntly, the feudal mentality remains, and the father is the guide for the son...

The old man Guxi has four nannies every six months, and his weekly living expenses are 1,000 yuan, and he spends 19,000 yuan during the Chinese New Year. He also said that his children are unfilial. Old man: My wife and three children ignore me!

77-year-old Deng Yunduan and his wife Tang Qunhua have been married for 53 years. Their three children are in excellent conditions and are very filial to their parents. According to common sense, the old couple should live a happy and contented life in their later years.

However, just six months ago, his wife Tang Qunhua suddenly moved to his son's house, leaving Deng Yunduan alone in the rental house. Even his favorite nanny was fired by his sons. The old man's later life Suddenly in trouble.

The wholesale department is less than two kilometers away from the old man’s residence. The old man said that he comes here every day.

I hired three nannies to take care of him, but all three couldn’t do it well! He hired a female nanny and he wanted her to sleep with him!

The eldest son also took out an account book, which recorded the pocket money he had given to the old man in the recent period. Accounts show that tens of thousands of yuan have been spent in the past three months. Among them, 19,000 yuan was spent during the Spring Festival.

Deng Xian: My mother is 77 years old, but he has been making unreasonable demands for a long time. My mother is afraid of him to death.

My mother is an honest person. He might have threatened my mother, choked her, and said that if she didn't agree, he would die together.

It turns out that Deng Yunduan worked in Guangdong all year round when he was young. Various ambiguous rumors about him continued to spread to this family. For the sake of his three children, Tang Qunhua chose to endure it.

Deng Xian: My father has always had a bad personality. When he was in Guangdong, he was always looking for women outside. At that time, I was only 7 or 8 years old.

The marriage between the two had been turbulent for decades, but starting from three or four years ago, Deng Yunduan became more and more controlling over his wife, and in the end Tang Qunhua had no choice but to leave.

Deng Xian said that although his parents were separated, the children still hired a nanny for their old father, and they responded to his father's financial needs.

Today, my father’s monthly living expenses plus the nanny’s salary cost at least 6,000 yuan, not counting the rent.

It’s okay to spend money, but what they can’t tolerate is spending money like water and making trouble unreasonably!

Did the old man really spend so much money?

But the old man emphasized that my monthly salary is more than 2,000! That's my money, I use it for myself.

Regarding his son’s unclear relationship with the nanny, the old man did not answer directly. Instead, he suggested that we ask the nearby neighbors.

Let me tell you, he is looking for a nanny, not a nanny in the true sense. He just wants to find a wife.

The grandma is afraid of him. If she doesn't agree to his request, she will beat the grandma. The old lady gave up and moved away.

That grandpa is very good at pretending to be pitiful in front of you. His three children are very kind to him. In fact, it's the old man who is fooling around.

Is Deng Yunduan the person his neighbors say he is?

Deng Yunduan rents a unit on the third floor. While helping the old man go home, the nanny The introduction said that because of the inconvenience of his legs and feet, it took him several minutes to go up and down the stairs every time. The old man always said that he would not live long!

Old man: It’s all spent on groceries and living expenses!

Old man: Spend two to three thousand yuan in January.

Old man: It’s Chinese New Year, I just asked him to take my year’s salary.

Old man: I need to spend money during the Chinese New Year, so give red envelopes to my wife and grandson!

The old man said that with living expenses of at least 1,000 yuan per week, he has no problem with basic life. However, the key thing is that his wife has left him.

Speaking of his wife, Deng Yunduan’s evaluation is: She is very weird and likes to do tricks. He is also a bit confused and likes to run around.

As for the nanny, the old man said without hesitation that the first nanny, Qin Sumei, was his favorite. However, after taking care of him for three months, he was driven away by his children.

Do you know that your reputation outside is not good?

Here, the group did not see the old man’s youngest son, nor his wife, but they met Zhao Hai, the general manager of the hotel.

Zhao Hai said that he is half the son of the Deng family, and he takes care of many things by himself, including finding a nanny.

The hotel staff said that the Deng children were very kind to the two old men, but the two old men could never get along. Want a divorce.

This old man must find a female nanny, and she must sleep in the same bed with him.

Zhao Hai on the side added that he hired all three nannies. The old man was most satisfied with the first nanny, Qin Sumei, but they suspected that most of the old man’s money went to Qin Sumei. So he quit the nanny.

But since then, Qin Sumei still came to Deng's house from time to time, which made everyone have to doubt the relationship between the two.

Everyone thinks that the purpose of the old man's troubles is to get the first nanny to come back. On the surface, the old man is looking for a wife, but in fact he is looking for a nanny to live with his wife.

It is precisely because of this that the children, including Zhao Hai, are very disappointed with the old man.

Zhao Hai also said that this old man is very shrewd and he is very good at pretending. The problems with his legs and feet are all fake, he wants to pretend to be pitiful.

Zhao Hai said that a year ago, the old man said that his health was not good, and his children immediately took him to the hospital for examination. The results showed that the old man was very healthy. Moreover, in the past two years, the children have taken the old man to travel around. The traveling process shows that the old man is also in good physical condition.

Returning to the rental house again, the nanny issue was discussed again. The old man gave a thumbs up and said that the first nanny Qin Sumei had a good conscience and he was most satisfied.

Of course, the old man said that he did not give such an evaluation because the rumors outside said that the relationship between himself and the nanny was innocent.

After receiving the call, Qin Sumei quickly rushed to the home of old man Deng Yunduan. Qin Sumei took care of the elderly for 3 months and 9 days. She said that the real reason for her resignation was that Zhao Hai did not honor the salary they had agreed upon.

However, after Qin Sumei resigned, Deng Yunduan kept calling her, sometimes even five or six times a day. Because she felt that the old man was very pitiful, Qin Sumei came back to visit him every now and then.

As for the gossip among the neighbors, Qin Sumei said that she was unaware of it. However, she said that when she was taking care of the old man before, the old man did offer to give him a bath, but she refused.

There is also the so-called sleeping in the same bed. Qin Sumei explained that the old man has a bad heart and wakes up several times every night. Every time, she will lie next to the old man and help him hold down his heart. chest, so the old man was very satisfied with her.

Deng Yunduan and Tang Qunhua got married 53 years ago. Not long after their marriage, Deng Yunduan went to work in Guangdong and only came back once or twice a year. They lived apart in the two places for more than ten years.

After the two lived together, Tang Qunhua discovered that Deng Yunduan was an extremely domineering and violent person. She chose to endure it for the sake of her three children.

But in recent years, Deng Yunduan has become even more unreasonable.

Tang Qunhua: He doesn’t allow me to talk to other men, including acquaintances. You can't talk to a woman for a long time. If the time goes on for a long time, you will suspect that she is talking bad about him.

Unable to bear all the torture from her husband, Tang Qunhua ran away from home several times, and this time she left home for half a year.

Regarding the days to come, Tang Qunhua said that these six months of separation were the most relaxing time for her, so she never wanted to return to Deng Yunduan again!

Regarding her husband’s later life, Tang Qunhua said that only by hiring a male nanny for him can everyone feel at ease.

In the community office, Deng Yunduan and his eldest son Deng Xian sat face to face and quietly.

Deng Yunduan said that he was not very satisfied with the current nanny, and the one he wanted most was Qin Sumei.

Deng Xian said that he firmly disagreed with inviting Qin Sumei back again, but he could absolutely guarantee that someone would take care of his father.

Hearing such a promise, the old man seemed a little unconvinced, but reluctantly chose to accept it.

In their later years, the elderly yearn for the company of their family members and the obedience of others. He has been stubborn all his life, so don't expect him to suddenly make sense.

The job of the elderly is very difficult, but as children, you must take your time, build a good bond between parents, and do not isolate the intimacy between relatives.

Writing this, the uncle who was born in the 70s couldn’t help but feel a lot of emotions.

Some people say, “Everyone in the world is a perfect parent”! How should this sentence be understood?

If you take it literally, this sentence definitely doesn’t make sense! "No one is a sage, how can he make no mistakes?" Once you become a parent, do you have no mistakes?

For example, Deng Yunduan, as a father, he has many shortcomings, needless to say! It was precisely because of these shortcomings that his wife and children left him, unwilling to look at him again!

However, this old man is almost full of shortcomings. As a child, can he be indifferent to him?

The answer is of course no!

As a wife, Tang Qunhua can leave Deng Yunduan without hesitation. Because there is a legal relationship between them, it can be terminated through legal channels.

However, as children, the three Deng Xian brothers and their father have an ongoing blood relationship, and it is the children's legal obligation to support their parents!

In other words, children's obligation to support their parents is unconditional, unless you are actually incapable of fulfilling your obligation.

Therefore, for children, as long as they are able, they must support their parents. No matter whether your parents are excellent parents or incompetent parents, it doesn't matter whether your parents have paid for you or how much they have given!

In real life, many people often like to use their parents’ shortcomings, mistakes and so-called unfairness as reasons for not supporting their parents. This is very ridiculous!

Leaving aside the legal provisions, just talking about the nurturing grace of parents can override all the "nos", and it is a sufficient reason for children to support their parents!

So, in this sense, there are no bad parents in the world!

Sometimes, we find that our parents have become naughty. In fact, this is just like crying when we were children, because we want to get the attention and care of our loved ones!

Just like Deng Yunduan, if his heart is warm and valued, why would he place his hopes in his later years on a nanny?

So, Deng Yunduan's "no" is actually the "no" of his children: for parents, they pay attention to financial satisfaction and ignore spiritual care and care.

In this sense, we can also draw the conclusion: there are no bad parents in the world!

There are no unfilial parents in the world, which means there are no unfilial children in the world. Two sentences are one sentence, one sentence is two sentences, there is nothing wrong with it. This is about the essence, nature, and original heart of everyone. It is about the fact that everyone is essentially the same as Yao, Shun, and Yu. They all have consciences, so they can discover and realize their original minds with their consciences.

So before the conscience notices it, it will naturally make mistakes. If there is unkindness and unfilial behavior, it is called a person who is not a saint, and no one can do anything wrong.

What should I do if I have? Don’t complain, be tolerant, trust, criticize and help. Criticism and help are all based on trust, love, and filial piety. Trust is the belief that everyone has a conscience and that everyone can be Yao, Shun, and Yu. Criticism and help are based on this confidence.

Therefore, the Sutra of Filial Piety says that a king has his enemies and his ministers, and a father has his sons. Those who criticize ministers have great loyalty, and those who criticize sons have great filial piety.

Just as parents love their children, they should criticize their children's shortcomings and help their children make progress. If the son doesn't teach, it's the father's fault. This does not mean that parents no longer love their children when they criticize them. This does not mean that if children criticize their parents, they are being unfilial to their parents. We need to help each other and criticize each other. This is great kindness and filial piety. Otherwise, it is unkindness and unfilial piety.

Although they are said to be unkind and unfilial, they are all kind and filial in nature. Otherwise, what's the point of criticizing? To criticize is to believe that the other person can change. Why can it be changed? Because the other person is essentially good. I will return to my original mind and think: Ah, I was wrong and I have to change it.

This kind of criticism is essentially love, trust, filial piety, and the belief that there are no bad parents and no unfilial children in the world. Therefore, criticism is not directed at the individual, and is based on self-criticism before criticizing each other.

For example, when their children make mistakes outside, and parents apologize to outsiders, the first sentence they often say is: I blame me for not educating my children well. I apologize to you first and make amends.

When parents make mistakes, mature children will also take the initiative to take responsibility for their parents. Sometimes, to a certain extent, the son hides from the father, and the father hides from the son, there is something reasonable about it.

This is a popular saying in the old days. It is inappropriate to adapt to the times and say that it is "the biggest lie in the world".

This sentence contains three meanings:

First, China has been a small-scale peasant economy for a long time, and the social production methods and lifestyles have been passed down from generation to generation almost unchanged. Parents are the communicators of their generation, and of course their children must inherit it unconditionally. This is the fundamental meaning of this sentence.

Second, parents always think about their children, and what parents say is for their children’s benefit. Of course, children should listen to it.

Third, parents are the elders and children are the juniors. From the perspective of filial piety, children must of course obey them unconditionally.

In the old days, not only saying this, but also doing it, played an important role in maintaining the stability of feudal society. To dismiss it as a "lie" would be too simplistic and crude.

Of course, this sentence is not correct today. In today's society, production and life are changing with each passing day. There are many situations where parents lag behind the changes of the times and cannot keep up with their children. Parents care about their children and respect their children's opinions, which go hand in hand. The old concept of respecting elders and younger children has long been eradicated.

It is said that among the 360 ??ancient tomb robbing practices, only the most dangerous tomb robbing rules can best prove the "father's love for his son". After the robbing hole is made, the father must enter the hole first, and then notify the son after confirming that it is safe. When leaving the tomb after finishing the work, the father goes out first and the son comes out later. This order of entry and exit can never be changed. The reason is that there is danger in entering the tomb first, so it is decided by the father to explore the tomb first. To ensure the safety of the son, the father came out first when leaving the tomb. Perhaps the son was suffocated to death in the tomb because the father was greedy for money. This shows the parents' love for their son.

In the world, there are many people in the world who do not mention their names in front of their biological children and stepchildren, and who violate various laws. There are many bad emperors and bad fathers in history.

As far as parents are concerned with the huge sacrifices they have made for their children, there is nothing they can fault their parents for.

People are not sages, and it is an eternal saying that no one can make mistakes, and there is no need to discuss it. It is absolutely true that there is no one in the world that is not right except parents. A person can have thousands of things that are wrong with him, and there is absolutely no wrong way to treat his own children. The hardships of being pregnant in ten months are endless. It is said that in the care of infancy, when the left side is wet, switch to the right side. When both sides are wet, put it on the chest. The third chapter of Polygonum in the Book of Songs is a portrayal of parents. The Polygonum is used by E, and the bandit E and Yi are used. I mourn my father (mother), who worked hard to give birth to me! …. A parent who has spent all his efforts since childhood, even if he beats you and scolds you, he still hates the iron but cannot become the steel! There are ten children in the hearts of parents, but how many children do they have in their hearts? But parents rarely care about it. If this sentence is the biggest lie in the world, it is the greatest injustice and irony to human beings, including beasts. Who in the world is not a parent? Anyone who holds this view should use the words of Confucius to conclude! "Not human"!

You and I both heard wrong. He was not talking but singing