First, nothing should be done.
We can always get help from others, but we are often not satisfied and have no gratitude to those who help us. Why? Because, we think, everything he did for me was right. My parents love me, support me and work hard for me. Who let them be my parents? It is right for a teacher to work hard for me. The nature of his work determines that he should work hard for me. My classmates and friends should help me unless he is not my friend. The leader is right to care about me and promote me, because I am working hard for him! In a word, what the whole society and the whole world gave me was right. "But why can't they realize their' should'? I'm so disappointed. Nowadays, people and society really make me sad. " Therefore, we constantly complain and lament. I don't like this, and I don't like this. I am angry and full of complaints. I always feel that others owe me and society owes me, and I have never felt what others and society have done to my life. Philosophers say that the greatest tragedy and misfortune in the world is that a person has the audacity to say, "Nobody gave me anything."
Meanwhile, why do we sometimes refuse to help someone? Because, I helped him kindly, and he didn't feel anything, as if I should. Everyone has the heart to help others, but once they are marked with "should", many people feel that they have no appetite.
"What should I do?" This is a requirement for oneself, and it is also the conscience and responsibility of a social person. However, "what should you do for me" is demanding of others, which often brings disappointment and blame. Actually, in this world, no one should do anything for me, no one must be responsible for me, and no one owes me anything. Recognizing this, reducing the demands on others and thanking others for everything they have done for me will make our hearts less complaining and more soft.
Second, cherish everything you have.
The beautiful red rose became the most beautiful flower in the garden, and it was proud of it. But it found that people just stood there at a distance and appreciated it, and never approached it. Later, I found out that people didn't come near because there was a big and ugly frog squatting next to them. The red rose was very angry and ordered the frog to leave it at once. The frog obediently left. Not long after, the frog passed by the red rose and was surprised to find that it had withered and all the leaves and petals had fallen out. The frog said, "You look terrible. What's the matter? " The red rose replied, "Since I left you, bugs have been eating me every day, and I can never regain my former beauty." The frog said, "Of course, when I am here, I will help you eat them all, and you will become the most beautiful flower in the garden." In fact, there are many such "frogs" around us. We should not wait until we lose it to cherish it. We shouldn't owe all our success to ourselves. Cherish the people around you and appreciate them.
The whole life is interdependent, and everything depends on everything else. What we need is to cherish and love what we have now. Cherish your own life, which is the most precious gift given to us by nature and parents; Cherish the era and country where we are now, cross history and the world, and stand on the node of time and space to trace back and think. What a happy era and country we live in! Cherish your work and career, many pioneers have built such a broad platform for us; Cherish your family and friends, they always support the shade of love and shelter me from the wind and rain ... only cherish will you be grateful; Only when you are grateful will you be happy.
Third, turn everything into a driving force for growth.
Don't expect everyone to give me a positive influence. What we need to do is to try to turn all possible negative effects into my growth strength. In life, everyone will encounter many misunderstandings and criticisms. If you stop what you are doing to pay attention to and identify these, it will only add insult to injury. Why should we care so much about this? A lot of criticism is actually that "idle people" talk about "busy people", "villains" talk about "gentlemen" and "villains often share weal and woe, an upright man is open and poised", which probably refers to this. Focus on your goals, clear your path, and stick to it. All misunderstandings will disappear. The key is to have the power to move forward in your heart.
Many times, everyone is a group, you and I are brothers, equal and harmonious. Suddenly, one day, one of them wanted a promotion. At this time, there are often many hands holding your feet and not letting you get up. In this development, you must have great perseverance and determination. If you overcome these pulling forces, you will rise slowly. (www.lz 13.cn) Only when your feet are high enough away from this group that others can't pull your feet when they jump, people will begin to envy you and praise you. "A little more than others is easy to cause jealousy; Much more than others will bring praise. " Understand the jealousy of others, because it shows that you need to make greater efforts. This is the case for individuals, the collective, and the country.
Hit the glass with a stone, and the glass will break immediately; Then I smashed a piece of tempered glass with a stone, and the glass did not move. The same stone, the difference lies in the hardness of the glass itself. In our life, when a stone hits us, we can't prevent it. What we can do is to constantly improve our hardness, especially the resistance of the mind. Throw a grain of sand on the beach, and you can hardly get it back. However, it is basically not difficult to throw a pearl on the beach and get it back. Because it's so different. Many times, why can't we get a kind of recognition and appreciation, because we haven't grown into a pearl yet.
Whether it is misunderstanding or jealousy; Whether it is indifference or injury, others have made his influence. We can't change others, but we can defuse this influence. Everything can be the driving force for our growth.
Fourth, always give your smile to others.
In fact, each of us likes to see a smile. As long as that kind of smile is sincere and spontaneous from the inside out, we are always happy when we see it. We all like to see others smile. Why do we have to keep a straight face? Each of us wants to be affirmed and praised by others. After finishing a job, writing an article, making a report or speech, organizing an activity and wearing a new dress, we all hope to be affirmed and even evaluated. Sometimes, the simplest encouragement will make people look cheerful and confident. We hope to get these, why can't we take the initiative to give them? When everyone in our society, this school and this collective can give their love, we will all get love; When everyone can respect others, we can all be respected. Help others as much as possible when you can; We really can't help others, so let's offer compliments, or just stick to our smiles, OK? Because, when we always give others a smile, we will also get a smile.
Whenever we pass it on to others, we should have a positive influence. Because positive emotions may be transmitted slowly, but negative emotions are transmitted quickly. In the office, people were working very hard by themselves when a man came up and suddenly said, "Ah, work is really interesting". Often can't inspire many people to feel the same way. However, when a person suddenly says, "Alas, work is really boring. It's really unfair to be so tired with such a small salary! " , there will always be someone to echo. Negative emotions are more contagious than positive emotions, especially when people are tired. Therefore, each of us should actively influence people around us, and what we say should always be positive, because we are influencing others. We teachers should pay special attention to this.
The abbot of a temple made a special rule for the temple: at the end of each year, the monks in the temple should say two words to the abbot. At the end of the first year, the abbot asked the new monk what he wanted to say most. Xinhe Shang said, "The bed is hard." At the end of the second year, the abbot asked the new monk what he wanted to say most. Xinhe Shang said, "Poor food." At the end of the third year, Xinhe said, "Goodbye, before the abbot asks questions." The abbot looked at the back of the new monk and said to himself, "It's a pity that you have a demon in your heart and it's hard to achieve positive results! Unfortunately! " Xin Heshang thinks that there are demons in the world, but the demons are actually in his heart. Similarly, people who always see the advantages of others must have a sunny inner world; People who always stare at other people's shortcomings must be not harmonious in their hearts. The so-called "Buddha's heart looks at people, everyone is a Buddha; Ghosts look at people, and people are ghosts. " The world is actually in my heart. What I see is what is in my heart. People who can see sunshine will have sunshine in their hearts.
Always be grateful and appreciate others. This is a kind of personality charm, a kind of life wisdom, and a kind of great love!
Hope to adopt! ! !