Honest and clean people sometimes can't tolerate a grain of sand, and they can't tolerate anything unusual when they see it. Because of their integrity, they talk about honesty and self-esteem, and they can't tolerate people, no matter for themselves or others, they can't tolerate mistakes and shortcomings. This is not necessarily good, because it will inevitably offend people and will not do you any good. Although I can be frank and clear-cut, I should also have an inclusive heart, not only a generous mental state, but also a generous and kind heart. I shouldn't be indecisive in everything. I should be good at judging the truth of things, distinguish right from wrong, and have a correct view of right and wrong, instead of not talking about right and wrong at all, so as not to go too far or too extreme.
Although some people are very smart, flexible and capable, they are often self-righteous, sarcastic and sometimes pretentious. They think they are smarter and more talented than others, but they look down on others and don't take them seriously, which will inevitably arouse others' resentment ... Therefore, a wise person should have both ideas and wisdom, not intelligence, and be too demanding of everything, but we should have great wisdom. People who are honest and frank tend to be straightforward in everything they do and are not good at paying attention to ways and means. Doing so will offend some people, but they still unconsciously turn good intentions into bad things, which will inevitably backfire and overcorrect. Therefore, honest people should pay attention to ways and means in dealing with people, and how to do things completely without hurting others is beneficial to themselves and others. In other words, we should have an honest heart and a proper way to live, instead of overcorrecting and turning good things into bad things. This is the right way. ...
"The virtue of a gentleman is the golden mean", a person can't be perfect, nor can he be perfect, but we should try our best to be a virtuous gentleman. However, if we can do this, not everyone can do it in our real social life, especially in such a very complicated environment. In the final analysis, society is a complex and intangible environment, just like a big dye vat, with various colors that make people see things in a blur, and not everyone can control it, which constitutes the complexity, diversity and unfathomability of society. Therefore, without the baptism of this vat, it is impossible for us to grasp the scale of life, so that we are either too naive and simple, or overcorrect, and as a result we have taken many detours. This is a lesson we should learn.
So, how to grasp the scale of life? How can we use our wisdom, that is, how can we use our intelligence properly? The author's "Gentleman's Virtue, the Doctrine of the Mean" is the wisdom that we should follow, that is to say, we are in such a complicated social environment. If we want to make it beneficial to our living environment, that is, based on society, then the Doctrine of the Mean is the principle that we should abide by. The so-called golden mean is like candied fruit. Although it is sweet, it is not too sweet or too greasy. Although seafood is salty, it is not too salty. Only in this way can we cultivate a good character.
In fact, the so-called golden mean means that the author is telling us that those who know the times are wise, which is good advice for us. We should always remember this proverb. That is to say, no matter what kind of environment we are in, we should be good at understanding the changes of the objective environment, and be good at dealing with anyone and anything, because the social environment is always complex and changeable, and everyone has to survive, so we should be rational. This is the condition that a gentleman should have, and it is also the ideology and morality that a gentleman should have. If we want to have such moral character, we must understand that "the virtue of a gentleman is called the golden mean", which is the basic principle of human life and also our very important philosophy of life.
"Being bright and tolerant, judging with benevolence, being bright and not hurting observation, being straight and not overcorrecting" is a philosophical saying of the golden mean. In order to survive, people should learn to adapt to the complex environment, not be too harsh on people, and have an inclusive attitude. Although hate shows that a person has a concept of right and wrong, if it goes too far, it will overcorrect and produce extreme thoughts, which will not do us any good.
Therefore, a person should be broad-minded, instead of haggling over everything, or lacking the ability to judge what to do, or even some people think they are too smart to be arrogant, or … such an approach will inevitably lead to bad consequences. Therefore, moderation is our code of conduct. If we can understand the present situation, we must be "bright and tolerant, benevolent people have different opinions, wise people have different opinions, bright and not arrogant, straight and not arrogant". This is the moral standard of a gentleman, and it is also a good character of a gentleman. Only Jie Jun knows the current situation, so "the virtue of a gentleman is the golden mean".
[Author: bamboo window dream]