From movements, to language, to folk songs, to letters, to phone calls. Then there were cell phones.

Communication between people has changed from difficult to easy, and now, it seems to have changed from easy to difficult.

There are probably two reasons for this difficulty. One is that there is nothing to say, and the other is that there is too much to say.

In the first few episodes of the TV series, Yu Wenjuan chased Yan Shouyi and wanted to talk to him about his work. He tried to avoid it in every possible way, which made people angry. Husband and wife have the closest relationship in the world, so how come they don't want to say more than a few words? Later, when Yan Shouyi went back to Yanjiazhuang to meet his grandmother alone after the divorce, he confided to his grandmother that they knew in their hearts that after being married for many years, they actually had nothing to say. At that moment, he was lonely, tired, and looked extremely pitiful. For half his life, he tried to please everyone with his clever words. In the end, he had to admit that the people he was closer to became more distant from him. Others were tired, and he was tired too.

To say that people are beginning to be divided into two types: "those who can speak" and "people who cannot speak" may be a sign of people growing up. When I was a child, I saw that everyone was the same, and at most they were divided into those who were good to me and those who were not. As I grew older, I began to have ideas, persistence, and my own system of thinking. I began to feel the gap between myself and others, and I might not even talk to some people. Huan, and some are not speculative. The first word that people in modern society learn when they grow up is "entertainment". Finding something to talk to when you have nothing to say to those who originally had nothing to say or nothing to say, and what you say must be thoughtful and appropriate. This is socializing. When it comes to socializing, Yan Shouyi should be the leader.

However, if you socialize a lot in life, it will inevitably become a habit and become more and more convenient. So when facing some people who shouldn't be socializing, I can't help but develop a social attitude. Even in front of relatives and friends, I can't tell how much is true and how much is social. The friendship between Yan Shouyi and Fei Mo seems to be honest at first glance, but in a sense it is based on Yan Shouyi's social remarks that he always says when meeting people - the so-called "the things I said on TV are actually... Taught by Mr. Fei." As for the later promotion of Fei Mo's status, he felt guilty when facing Yan Shouyi, and friendship became more important, so I won't say more here.

In life, I am so used to speaking more than I mean. When I get home, I don’t know how to deal with myself. Language sets up the framework of life, and the content of it is always studied and explored by oneself without being able to communicate with others. No wonder Niu Caiyun recounted a comment made by the judge when her parents were getting divorced. These days, no one speaks the same language as anyone. Therefore, Yan Shouyi was very cautious all his life, walking on thin ice, and even after returning home, he did not change his style of flattering all kinds of exquisite people everywhere, saying "You have a good rest and pay more attention to your health". But after all, socializing cannot be a part of life, and behind the decent words is a harsh emptiness. It’s natural to have nothing to say.

If you have nothing to say, just say nothing. Maybe it can be done in Niu Sanjin and Lu Guihua’s family for twenty or thirty years, but in the city, it won’t work even for a moment. The city is bustling with people all day long, full of people talking to each other. And this TV series is a living encyclopedia of talking. All kinds of conversations between people, from clever words and flirtatious words, to empty words and meaningful words, to concise words with long meanings, and everything that should be covered. No.

Among them, the role of mobile phones is the most intriguing. It is not only a carrier and symbol, but also a catalyst that catalyzes the gaps and conflicts between people. When Yan Shouyi arrived at Wu Yue's house for the first time, his cell phone rang at an inappropriate time. It was a natural situation, but Yan Shouyi's casual lie turned it into a spiritual affair. There was a slight element of ambiguity in the air. , became bright and dazzling because of a mobile phone check. This is the burden that the convenience and cheapness of communication have placed on modern people. Too much communication creates secrets, and real-time contact creates even more barriers. So when a couple is contacted by mobile phone, the husband always feels guilty and the wife is flustered. To put it more broadly, this problem is a crisis of trust in today’s society and a lonely proposition in this era.

However, in the final analysis, the problem is not about mobile phones, but about people. The estrangement is not only between people, but also between people and themselves. Being aloof and arrogant like Fei Mo, and being as smooth as Yan Shouyi, they all inevitably compete with themselves. In Liu Zhenyun's words, they live a miserable life. If a person wants to be sincere to others, he must first be sincere to himself. The mouth is the gateway to the heart. The heart comes first before the mouth. The relationship between the mouth and the heart cannot withstand the changes in personnel and the test of time.

So at the end of the play, Wu Yue ran away and left her mobile phone on the table. Yan Shouyi, who was eloquent and eloquent, chose a waterside country where the language was not accessible to seek temporary peace of mind.

At the end of the TV series, the screenwriter gave an answer that could not be called an answer, that is, when Shen Xue got married, the groom said in sign language, "Let us communicate with our hearts." This answer is a bit cliché and a bit grand. In comparison, the examples given in the series of shots in the finale seem to be more vivid. After Niu Sanjin suffered a stroke, he laid two eggs in the noodles he cooked for Lu Guihua. Decades ago, it was two eggs that made Lu Guihua decide to marry him. Decades later, it was two eggs that kept the couple from having sex for half their lives. *Couples who speak the same language decide to stay together until they grow old. This is the most tearful scene in the whole show. In Yanjiazhuang, Yu Wenjuan finally put a coat on Yan Shouyi. Fei Mo sent a text message "missing Shouyi" during the Spring Festival. The true feelings at that moment have been washed away by the years and are true to their words. sincere.

I was playing cards with my friends a few days ago, and someone’s cell phone rang, and the ringtone was exactly like before. At that moment, the past hit me, and I suddenly remembered some of the feelings I had when I answered certain phone calls in the past. I vaguely seemed to have gained something and lost something. I came back to my senses and continued playing cards. I couldn't express any emotion, but my back was actually a little numb.

This may be the power of mobile phones. It symbolizes the connection, exchange, and communication between people—sometimes it means trouble, more often it means the infinite possibilities between people, and the reason why life is alive and worth loving. All reasons.

After thousands of words fade, no matter what is left is the two eggs in the bowl, the emptiness of the people who were far away during the holiday gathering, or just the faint tingling in the spine when I accidentally think of the past. , are always precious.