when dealing with people, you will inevitably encounter some unpleasant things.
It is a rare state to be tolerant of others, be kind to yourself and live with an optimistic attitude.
it's a person's greatest kindness not to embarrass himself or others.
A really smart person knows how to make himself happy and others comfortable.
It is rare wisdom to make yourself happy.
Actor Tao Hong shared her unique wisdom in life when she was interviewed by 36Kr:
Her husband Xú Zhēng is a slow-moving person, and the two men were unhappy before, so Tao Hong was waiting for Xu Zheng to coax her.
It happened that her husband's comic talents were all used in movies. After making her angry, she couldn't figure out how to make her happy for a long time. In the end, the more she waited, the more angry she became.
One day, they quarreled again. When Xu Zheng was worried about how to coax her, she had already started housework happily. This surprised Xú Zhēng and asked her, "Are you not angry?"
Tao Hong's answer is a little arrogant: "Do you want to decide my joys and sorrows? I shouldn't. "
Many people are impressed by Tao Hong's acting skills, but I am even more impressed by her wisdom.
Only when you can make yourself happy at any time can you live your life vividly.
San Mao once said, "To live is to find happiness like a mirage in a desert, and then let the barren land be full of flowers of hope."
People will have many unpleasant things when they are alive, and if they dwell on it, they will be very tired.
It's better to find happiness in life, and life will lead to fragrance all the way.
French writer Thackeray has a classic saying: "Life is a mirror. If you smile at it, it smiles at you.": You cry to it, and it cries to you. "
life is only a hundred years, and it's a snap of your fingers. If you live in negative emotions every day and constantly consume yourself, you will soon lose the pleasure of being a human being.
As the old saying goes, "He who pleases others is numerous, and he who pleases himself is king."
The real wise man is the one who can find happiness in his life every day.
To make others comfortable is an advanced EQ.
Zhang Daqian, a master of Chinese painting, once painted a picture of green willows singing cicadas and prepared to give it to a collector friend of his.
On the picture scroll, I saw a Xia Chan lying on a willow branch, head down, tail up, flapping its wings to fly, which is really lifelike and interesting.
It happened that Qi Baishi saw this painting. When he saw Xia Chan's posture, he knew that Zhang Daqian had made a mistake.
it's just that he didn't tell you the truth, but changed his story.
"When I was chatting with an old farmer before, I overheard him mention that cicadas' heads always seem to face up and rarely face down. However, this is what his family said, and it will inevitably be wrong. I don't know if it is right. "
after listening to it, Zhang Daqian went to observe the cicada on the willow tree and found that he really made a mistake.
After he informed Qi Baishi of his observation results, he corrected his paintings in time, so as to avoid the embarrassment of making jokes in front of others.
After thanking Zhang Daqian, it suddenly occurred to him that Qi Baishi has always been good at painting flowers, birds, insects and fish, and all his works are exquisite in detail and lifelike in expression. How could he not know how to draw cicadas in trees?
It's just that Qi Baishi was afraid of making a fool of others, and he was willing to help him, and he was afraid of hurting his face, so he gently reminded him through the mouth of the old farmer.
This kind of proper help made Zhang Daqian respect Qi Baishi more.
who doesn't have a temporary difficulty and who doesn't need help from others?
But rushing to help others sometimes only touches the sensitive heart of the other party and hurts the dignity that the other party is trying to maintain.
Zhang Zai, a thinker in the Northern Song Dynasty, said in the chapter "Zhengmeng Zhongzheng": "If you love your beloved, you will do your best."
There may be no real empathy in this world, but there are people who put themselves in others' shoes.
it is a rare accomplishment to be able to put yourself in others' shoes.
the most respectable person is to get along with others in a comfortable way.
Don't embarrass yourself or others
In the Round Table School, Dou Wen Tao shared a sentence: "Life needs three bowls of noodles: decency, scene and affection."
without giving ourselves any trouble, we should take care of the dignity of others to the greatest extent and not put others in an embarrassing position.
When I first entered the university, the girls in our dormitory always liked to go shopping together, and they were inseparable everywhere.
Xiaohui is the only one. Every time we discuss where to go, we choose to silently pick up the books on the desk and go to the library to review.
I secretly asked her, "Why not play with everyone?"
she said half jokingly, "I don't have enough money, so I don't want to go to the mall with you for excitement."
Later, when I became a class committee member, I realized that her family was very poor, and she had been applying for subsidies for poor students. The money we bought casually for a dress might be her living expenses for half a month.
since then, I have gradually understood her behavior. Knowing that your conditions are not as good as others, but not deliberately comparing them materially, does not add to your difficulties.
On one occasion, I accidentally let slip her situation to other roommates.
From then on, roommates always deliberately buy one more cup of milk tea, telling her that it is a "buy one get one free" discount; I always think of her first when I have a good part-time job opportunity.
At the dinner party in the year of graduation, her eyes were wet and she hugged all of us and said goodbye. She also prepared a small gift for everyone, which contained a small card: "I will always remember the warmth of my big family. Thank you for taking care of me so carefully and quietly."
Plato said, "Be kind, everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."
everyone's life has its own difficulties.
When you are inferior to others, please don't deliberately compare with others and make yourself uncomfortable; When you are superior to others, please don't show off in front of others, try to understand their difficulties.
it's a rare education not to embarrass yourself or others.
for the rest of your life, illuminate yourself and warm others
Mr. Yang Jiang wrote in his book "Walking to the Edge of Life": "Life is really bitter."
Try to sweeten your life and others':
Learn to make yourself happy every day and try to make others feel comfortable.
The true meaning of life is actually hidden in this sentence:
"Live and make yourself happy; Be a man and make others comfortable. "
for the rest of your life, illuminate yourself and warm others.
realize life.