Insecurity in life is the most important reason why people suffer from mental illness. Everyone has fear in life, and fear greatly affects a person's success. If we are afraid and blindly treat it negatively, then we will fail, especially in life and workplace. What can we do to eliminate fear?
First, don't do bad things that can't end. There is a saying: if you do nothing wrong, you are not afraid of ghosts knocking at the door. It literally means: if you don't do anything against your conscience, you won't be afraid of ghosts coming when you sleep at night. What is expressed is that only by not doing bad things can people maintain inner peace and tranquility. If they do something bad, they are likely to be afraid. In reality, some disasters are natural, unexpected and irresistible, and some disasters are caused by themselves. Selfishness and greed are human nature, but in the face of temptation, you must evaluate the worst possible consequences. How can this result be beyond your control and may completely change your life? Then you must be careful. People's fate often changes in a few minutes, and a wrong decision may make you fear for life.
Second, find out the cause of fear. There are four reasons for psychological fear: 1. Fear of stress and expectation; 2. Fear of rejection and abandonment; 3. Fear of being misunderstood or ignored; 4. Fear of physical or mental abuse or violation. Find out what causes your fear and think about what makes you feel dangerous and threatened. As long as you think seriously and take active measures, you can nip all bad signs in the cradle and let your heart settle down. You can write down what you are afraid of, why, think about how it scares you, and then reflect on how to solve it. When fear is written on paper, it loses its power.
Third, accept the unchangeable facts. Recall those traumatic life events, analyze your subconscious psychological conflicts, and make them rise to the level of consciousness. As long as you are really awake and clear-headed, the symptoms of fear will often disappear. What has happened cannot be changed. You must accept it. If you accept it, you won't feel so bad anymore. If you don't accept it, it's like hitting a wall. If you want to knock it down, it will only break your head. The best way is to bypass it. When you encounter something you are afraid of, you must vent it in time, and don't let it occupy your body, which will form a shadow and become a dark world. This also requires us to accept fear and not to think that we are weak just because we feel fear. Our goal is not to get rid of fear completely, but to accept and understand it, and not to let it become an obstacle to doing the right thing.
Speaking of which, I think of Professor Nash, the proponent of game theory in the movie A Beautiful Mind. He never got rid of hallucinations. That roommate, that little girl, often appears everywhere in his life, but he accepts and overcomes them. This illusion is like our weaknesses-fear, cowardice, out of control and laziness. We have been fighting them, but we can't completely destroy them because they are us.
Fourth, try your best to do unpredictable things. Prepare for the best and prepare for the worst. No one can accurately predict what will happen in the future. You try your best to do it, and its result can only be resigned to fate. Listening to your destiny is doing your best, but you can't control the result. Listen to God's arrangement, this sentence should also become a kind of wisdom. If you do your best, you should put your heart down, face it calmly and let nature take its course. No matter what happens, you won't regret it. When you lack confidence, think more about your past brilliant achievements and recall your own successful scenes, and your mood will get better. If you rekindle your confidence and hope, you will drive away your fear and anxiety and restore your confidence.
Fifth, learn to divert attention. When you are upset, paranoid and scared, find something that can attract you, or do some manual work to make you forget those painful things, so as to avoid paranoid thoughts and enhance your adaptability. When you are upset, you can go out for a walk more, and don't stay at home, which will only make you think more and more. Go out for a walk more, take part in some social activities that make you feel relaxed and happy as much as possible, do something you have always liked but haven't done for a long time, increase the fun of life, get together with friends more, pour out your heart and do some physical exercise. People can feel relaxed and be their own masters after exercise, but the exercise must have a certain intensity, duration and frequency to achieve the expected results, such as walking, bodybuilding, dancing and Tai Ji Chuan.
Fear is just an illusion. We often unconsciously make up fear stories that will happen in the future, and then keep thinking about them. Many people have this mentality, which is normal. In the face of fear, we should not shrink back blindly. We should calm down and encourage ourselves to overcome our fears. Only by overcoming fear can we succeed.