China is a country of etiquette, and every family in China attaches great importance to harmonious coexistence among its members, which may be closely related to the patriarchal clan system and the influence of Confucianism handed down in the early days. In ancient times, in the late feudal society, the universal ethics of Confucian "three cardinal guides and five permanents" permeated people's lives. After entering modern times, although the democratic consciousness has been popularized, the excellent virtues in traditional culture have also been passed down. The ancients left many famous sayings and aphorisms. As ancient teachings, we should learn from them. What's the old saying? Five complaints of being a child and seven responsibilities of being a parent? Should we all do this? Let's talk today.

First of all, parents are not responsible for seven things, that is to say, parents are responsible for their children: not for the public, not guilty, not eating at dusk, not celebrating, not sad, not getting sick.

Some parents are too strict with their children, and often loudly criticize and scold them regardless of the occasion. This is a very irrational behavior, which will not only hurt their self-esteem, but also make children timid and lack self-confidence in the long run. Therefore, parents should be irresponsible to the public first. Secondly, if the child has made a mistake, but has clearly realized his own mistake, parents should stop blaming him. The purpose of blame is to correct mistakes. At this time, parents will be affected if they don't take care of them.

Don't blame the children before going to bed. Sleeping with sadness is not good for children's physical and mental health. Similarly, don't blame your diet, and don't scold your children when eating. This will not only affect children's digestion, but also make children afraid to eat with their parents, and even form a character that it is difficult to communicate with others when eating.

Celebration is not responsible. When children are happy, as long as it is not a principled mistake at this time, parents should not excessively accuse their children of throwing cold water. Emotional ups and downs may form a psychological shadow on children and become silent. Sadness means that when you observe a child's depression or sadness, don't blame him, because accusations at this time are likely to lead to quarrels. It is better to pay more attention to him and point out his mistakes when his mood improves. Finally, when the child is ill, it is best not to blame him. When he was ill, his body was already very fragile. At this time, hearing parents' reproaches will be seriously affected, and it is naturally more difficult for him to get better.

Parents' long-term feelings for their children are understandable, but educating their children also requires scientific methods. Conversely, children should treat their parents with "five grievances".

First, everyone can't choose their own background. Some people were born in a rich family, but others were born in poverty and suffered a lot. We should appreciate the rich material life given by our parents, and don't complain about the poor family conditions. At least, your parents gave you life and raised you. As the saying goes, a person's greatest achievement is to forgive his parents' imperfections. Therefore, we can't complain about our parents' ability at first.

In addition, as children grow up, they will feel that their parents are nagging, often acting impatient or even rebellious, and turning a deaf ear to their parents' words. This is because they don't understand the truth that people who really love you will always nag you. Therefore, the second point is not to complain about parents' verbosity. Third, don't blame your parents. Everyone's life has too many disappointments, perhaps because of the pressure of work, or because of working too hard and feeling tired. Don't be annoyed when parents vent a little emotion, because they may have nowhere to talk except you.

Then, don't complain that your parents are slow. Time goes by mercilessly, children are growing up, but parents are getting old. They are no longer energetic, have poor memory and are slow to move. Don't complain at this time, just calm down and wait for them, just as they would wait for you when they were young. Finally, if you don't blame your parents for getting sick, the disease can't be controlled artificially. When your child is ill, it is your parents who are most anxious. Be kind to your parents when they are old and sick. After decades of reincarnation, they are very fragile now and need the care and care of their children most. Perhaps life is a practice, and the relationship between parents and children is the strongest fate in the world. In addition to the outside world, there may be the ultimate meaning of personal life buried deep here.