Speaking is an art and also a kind of wisdom.

People who can't speak are prone to self-defeating and misunderstanding; People who can talk can turn decay into magic, just as refreshing as spring breeze and rain!

Urgent, speak slowly.

Impulse is the devil. In case of emergency, don't make a hullabaloo about, calm down and think of something.

Don't pass the buck, no matter how smart, rich and powerful you are, many people have zero IQ at the moment of anger. Therefore, in an emergency, speaking slowly is also a kind of wisdom.

Learn to shut up if you don't understand.

A person who drinks water knows how warm and cold it is, sitting still thinking about himself and chatting with others. Speaking is self-cultivation, and keeping silent is education. It is better to be silent than to echo. Learn to speak for two years, but shut up for life.

An embarrassing thing, humorously said

Giving others a step down is also a kind of accomplishment. Don't take everything seriously, don't be harsh, and learn to use the wisdom of language to resolve embarrassment.

If you are not sure, say it carefully.

For those uncertain things, if you don't say anything, others will think you are fake; If what you say is groundless, it only shows that you have no common sense. If you can say it carefully, people will think you are a reliable person.

Don't talk nonsense about things that didn't happen.

Speculation or nonsense about things that have not happened can easily arouse others' resentment, while being cautious in words and deeds, talking less and doing more will leave people with maturity, self-cultivation, conscience and responsibility.

Educate children and tell them equally.

Adolescent children are rebellious. If parents blindly impose their ideas on their children, their emotions will become more violent. The correct way to get along with each other should be to enlighten them in an equal and gentle tone and help them realize the mistakes of their actions.

Between husband and wife, put yourself in the shoes and say

The strongest way to get along is to understand and tolerate each other, appreciate each other's advantages and tolerate each other's shortcomings. Know what the other person is thinking and needs, don't care about trivial matters, don't say excessive words, and think from the other person's point of view.

Watch your mouth and don't judge others at will.

Being with people depends on the heart, not the mouth. A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts in June. Being a man, the most important thing is to be broad-minded and compassionate. Talking about people's right and wrong is fun for a while, and the consequence is to hurt others.

Don't judge others at will, no matter when or under what circumstances. Don't judge the virtue of others at will, because you are not necessarily nobler than them; Don't judge other people's families at will, because honest officials can't judge housework; Don't judge other people's knowledge, because knowledge is the most important thing in the world. Don't judge anyone at will, even the person you despise the most!

Praising others is a measure and accomplishment.

Mark Twain said, "You can be happy for two months with a compliment."

Praise is the best gift for others, a happy gas station, and the power of praise cannot be underestimated.

The last thing a person should be stingy with is to give praise. Praising others also reflects one's self-cultivation. A compliment is better than a bitter medicine, which can resolve the war and give people pleasure. Praise is like a rose, which gives others beautiful enjoyment, but leaves fragrance in their hands.

Praise is a virtue, it doesn't need to pay any price, but it can give people an invisible force, which makes people summon up courage and build self-confidence. Praise can not only bring good luck to each other, make them feel happy, but also effectively improve interpersonal relationships.

Be a man, keep silent in the group and be alone in the heart. Self-cultivation is the most important thing, and being cautious is the first thing you get involved in.

The key to a person's elegance lies in managing his emotions. Hurting people with words is actually the stupidest behavior. Learn to walk for two years, learn to shut up for a lifetime, and sometimes learning not to talk is also a kind of practice!