The secret of success is self-confidence;
Self-confidence is believing that the future is full of success. Xiang Yu, who firmly believes that where there is a will, there is a way, has made great feats. He broke through single-handedly, defeated Qin Jun's main force in one fell swoop, and set a military myth. Li Bai firmly believes that since God has given talents, let them be used! After being frustrated, he created a romantic and magnificent poetic world with all his talents. Li Na, who insisted on a bright future and didn't take the usual path, embarked on the road of professionalism without hesitation, and completely broke the dominance of European and American players in the four Grand Slam events after the French Open and the Australian Open. The belief of winning gives people wings to fly to the peak of success.
Self-confidence is the persistent pursuit of a goal. When a person persists in pursuing a goal and makes unremitting efforts in a down-to-earth manner, he will certainly reap brilliant success and at least write a life without regrets. As Madame Curie once said to her friends, we must persist, no matter how much it costs. In order to change the poor and white oil level in New China, Li Siguang spent a long time sleeping in Qian Shan, and several oilfields, such as Daqing Oilfield, Shengli Oilfield and Huabei Oilfield, were successfully developed and became an outstanding geologist in China.
Numerous successful events and experiences in history have proved that self-confidence is very important to success, but blind self-confidence is also conceit. Otherwise, Fu Jian of the former Qin Dynasty was too confident and headstrong, which led to the fiasco of 800,000 troops in the Great War. He fled back to the north with an arrow in his body. Without complacency and self-knowledge, how can he not swallow the result of failure? True self-confidence should be based on a clear understanding of yourself, others and the status quo.
A person who relies on others is tantamount to saying to others, "Your opinion is more important than my opinion of me." The recognition of others can really make people happy and progress, but without the recognition of others, they will be worried, unhappy and lose confidence. If you always seek others' approval, it is equivalent to saying "Don't trust me, how about listening to others' opinions first". If this goes on, I will gradually doubt me and become more and more dominated by others. Self-confidence means cultivating a self-identity view, which is not influenced by other people's views. But in fact, there is a misunderstanding. Obviously, schools should cultivate each student's personality and ability, but in reality, students are often fixed as models of "obedient", "not naughty", "knowing rules" and "honest". In fact, many students who love learning have low self-confidence, and they mainly rely on "standard answers", "teacher's affirmation", "prescribed format" and "leadership appreciation". This desire to praise others, as the driving force of learning, can get "high marks" and not necessarily "high energy". This kind of education is similar to a "teaching equipment line", and "products" lack independent thinking and dare not develop themselves, thus forming an inertia. Because it is always simpler and safer to act according to other people's requirements, and once you start your own business in society, it will expose its disadvantages. Cultivate self-confidence and don't rely on others' approval. When you realize your own value, when you decide to choose a behavior, others will object and will not feel depressed. Because it is a natural situation, others don't see far and know everything. According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, everyone wants to be recognized and respected by others and expects to be respected, because these can inspire people spiritually. However, in the process of struggle, what really makes a difference is not to follow others, but to innovate. Understanding is lagging behind. If you don't cultivate the consciousness of self-praise, you can't be sure of yourself, you can't strengthen your confidence and determination, and failure is waiting for you at any time.
Self-confident people should dare to make any new attempts and accept new challenges, rather than rest on their laurels. Young people are inevitably subjected to negative education: "think twice before you do things" and "never take risks" ... In fact, the deeds of those outstanding people prove their success, and they all challenge ignorance and dare to take risks. The mysterious unknown is the source of human development and * * *, but in real life, many people often equate the unknown with danger.
Challenge yourself not to be shocked by honor and disgrace, and maintain consistent self-confidence when being frustrated or evaluated by others. When things are going well, it's easy to remain confident. If I don't have self-confidence based on objective self-knowledge, but rely on others' affirmation of me, then I will easily lose self-confidence in difficult times. Take my evaluation as the leading factor and others' evaluation as the reference to become a truly confident person. Let's start now.
The secret of success lies in being smarter, not working harder;
One: Challenge the limit
Beware of extremes.
Can limits be challenged? Don't! No one has ever broken the real limit. Those successful challengers just broke through some big obstacles, and the real limit is insurmountable. The impulse to challenge the limit hides great danger, so enough is enough.
Two: the wise don't dance "double-edged sword"
All the sharp weapons to win are in danger of hurting themselves, but the temptation of interests makes people reluctant to part with this "double-edged sword". So the future is confused, the feet are deep and shallow, the pass is bloody, and the heart is bright and the eyes are dark ... What does a double-edged sword mean? Strategy.
Three: people who indulge in lust are shallow.
Playing with people is frustrating, playing with things is often frustrating, and greed is inevitable. At all times and in all countries, there are too many things to humiliate and mourn the family with hobbies and greed. The world is changing with each passing day, and new things emerge one after another. If you don't pay attention to your career and cultivation, you will fall into a terrible crisis at any time.
Four: moderation is medicine, and excess is poison.
Pride, like a full moon, is getting less and less. Proud people always think they have knowledge and ability, but the real reason for pride is ignorance. Please remember lev tolstoy's clever metaphor: if a person's real ability is compared to a fractional value, then his self-evaluation is the denominator; The larger the denominator, the smaller the fractional value.
Five: excellent soldiers
invincible
Everyone is eager for success and a happy life. However, it is wise to participate in the competition only on the basis of improving your own quality.
Six: people who lack self-control
All efforts and actions are not as successful as success, that is, nothing.
Dare you dance in chains? Mr. Wen Yiduo compared poetry to dancing in chains, which is intriguing. You can't imagine a game without rules, nor can you imagine words and deeds without control. Only under the control of rules and regulations can everything be beautiful.
Seven: You can't surpass yourself.
You can't surpass others.
"If people are right, the world will not be wrong." Whether a person can beat his opponent and win a place in the fierce competition for survival depends on whether he can beat himself; And it is a bigger problem than defeating others and defeating yourself. ...
Making friends is the most important thing in life.
This is a matter of success or failure in life.
The importance of friendship to life cannot be overemphasized. There are too many people whose lives are decided by their friends. The phrase "success is also Xiao He, failure is also me" has made people feel deeply since two thousand years ago. It is precisely this that makes the topic of choosing friends and making friends often new.
Nine: People who send flowers are surrounded by flowers.
People who plant thorns are surrounded by thorns.
This is a question of how to treat others better for yourself. The answer is simple. Being kind to others will ultimately benefit you, and being evil to others will put you in a hopeless situation. "People who surpass you, people who surpass you", whether your life path is full of flowers or thorns depends on yourself.
Ten: the measurement is not enough.
There is no scale for doing great things.
Don't ask for understanding, just ask for forgiveness. Instead of haggling over every ounce, laugh it off, especially don't try to change others. With the net open, you may come back from all directions; Cut through thorns, it is better to go around. Why not?
Eleven: Be good at grasping human nature.
In order to win people's hearts.
"Those who win people's hearts win the world, those who lose people's hearts lose the world", "People's hearts belong to destiny". To win people's hearts, we must be good at grasping human nature, especially its weaknesses. Human nature is like heaven, those who follow it prosper, and those who oppose it die.
XII: The Power of Language
Enough to dump the world.
"All mass movements in the past history were due to the power of language." Although this statement is hard to agree with, it tells the fact that language is so powerful. It enlightens us that language is power, enough to conquer people's hearts and even everything.
Thirteen: It is difficult to use the world independently.
We live in a world dominated by the majority. Power is given by the majority, stars are famous by the majority, and the rich are fattened by the majority. The essence of "majority" is ordinary. In the case that the "majority" can veto everything, let us become one with you like light and dust!
Fourteen: a capricious person
Treason and separation.
In the fickle modern society, the chances of changing the following objects or partners are greatly increased. People in China value loyalty very much. People who change jobs are often regarded as traitors, and people who have two feet on both sides are also regarded as capricious people. Loyalty doesn't mean clinging to residue. What should we do?
Fifteen: Everything can be done positively.
Negative accomplish nothing.
There are only three situations in the world, impossible, impossible and possible. Most cases fall into the third category. Therefore, whether it is positive or negative has become the decisive factor for the success or failure of a career. If God is in charge, then your mind is God's will.
Sixteen: You can't go on the road while lying in bed.
Plans can be perfected in implementation, conditions can be matured through creation, and waiting for everything can only make plans stillborn. It is impossible to sail without risk. Perhaps the biggest risk is waiting, and the safest way is to do it.
Seventeen: Be good at using external forces.
Career has a fulcrum.
Remember Archimedes' words? "Give me a fulcrum, and I can pry up the earth." Any cause needs a fulcrum, and this fulcrum depends on external forces. Although human nature is selfish, it is also helpful. As long as you have a beautiful blueprint, he is the best cash cow.
Eighteen: The piano can't hold three hands.
Although playing the piano requires ten fingers, it is absolutely not allowed to have a third hand inserted. Similarly, you must make your own decisions. For the third hand, be careful and guard against it. If you don't take it back, you must give a solemn warning. Just cut decisively!
Nineteen: Work concentration is directly proportional to career success.
It is an iron law that "industrious people are diligent and thrifty, while wasteful people enjoy themselves". Only those who concentrate on their work can succeed. The more they concentrate, the greater their success. As Xunzi said: "Earthworms have no claws and strong bones and muscles. They concentrate on eating land and drinking yellow water. " The crab kneels six times and pinches twice. Those caves that are not snake food, people who have no sustenance are also anxious. "
Twenty: Fatal failure
Depends on a slight disadvantage
Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? There is actually only a little difference between a glorious winner and a pathetic loser. The score of a ball is to lose a ball game, and one percent of the defective products are enough to destroy a famous brand. Therefore, we must never ignore the weak disadvantages, but strive for decisive advantages.