I am a person born in the 1960s. I feel uncomfortable and have nowhere to talk. My husband has a bad temper. He hits him whenever he wants and scolds him whenever he wants. As for me, I dare not fight back when he hits me or scold me. Mouth, the simplest time was when I was at home, he drank some wine and hit me when he came back. I asked him why he hit me, and he said no reason, he just wanted to hit you. This time I asked him what he had for lunch. He scolded me and said, "I feel annoyed when I hear you talking, and my eyes turn dark when I see you. I have too many helplessness, too many grievances, and too much tolerance, which cannot move his heart." He abandoned me and scolded me, and he ran away from home. That time it was my daughter who knelt down to beg for mercy. I said good things to him and asked him to stay. Hey, no matter how I said it, I still had to endure it and let him. Live your life,

Sometimes, inadvertently, some things will always be running around in our minds. Thinking about yourself, things to worry about, people you miss, and the rest of your life. Let us suddenly become quiet. Everyone has his own little sadness in his heart. That is because he has not found anyone to talk to, to listen to the little discomfort in your heart. Life has ups and downs, life has pain, and you are happy. . When you feel uncomfortable, just find someone to talk about life and work. After tonight and tomorrow morning, think about it, life is like this, and the little sun will still rise on time tomorrow.

Who has an easy life?

Recently, I see people born in the 1990s moaning for nothing every day (will they be under siege?). I would like to ask those who are 80/70/60/50, is it difficult for you to live?

Yes, life is difficult for everyone, especially in 2019, when we encountered many ups and downs. For individuals and companies, most of them were spent in hardship.

Is the oldest post-90s generation already 30 years old? Life is difficult, where is the "point"?

If you say that you have parents above you and kids below you, then you are happy. At least you have parents above you who can support you. You can get married and start a business early and have children. Isn’t that very happy? Compared with your 30-year-old peers who know everything, you are happy.

If you say that you are alone, you are also happy, because you don’t have to worry about your children or your parents’ health. You can feed yourself and the whole family will not be hungry. Isn’t it very happy? Spend all the money you earn yourself.

If you say that work is difficult, then go and look at those born in the 80s and 70s. The people born in the 80s and 70s are already middle-aged, and it is no longer a simple matter of seniority and minor worries. What's more, they have a lot of helplessness and no choice in life. The limitation of age has drawn a circle for them, and they don't even dare to step out easily. What are the options? It's stable.

If you say life is difficult, how did you get to 60/50? Was it harder when they were younger. When they get old, they still have to help take care of the children of the 80/70/90 people, and even more, they have to worry about their lives. There are also many people who are against the old people.

No matter what age you are, you actually have your own helplessness. Think of the good things. In fact, living is happiness. If you close your eyes one day, other people's lives will continue, and you are just a cup of loess. , the most desolate thing is that now we can’t even afford a cemetery, so where can we bury them?

Do something you like and learn to release stress.

Or you can talk to a friend. It would be nice to talk about some things.

I usually use the method of taking a nap, but it may not be universal.

In short, you must not hold it in when you feel uncomfortable. You should try to resolve your sadness through reasonable and effective methods. We must also firmly believe that everything will pass and everything will be insignificant.

By the way, I am a miserable person who wants to die, but I am still trying to persuade others to be happy, which is pretty cool.

I suggest doing good deeds, such as releasing animals. For example: help others. You can try it because love will change you.

The subject of the question should be having trouble. It is difficult to enlighten others and it is difficult to be effective. The author myself is also a troubled person. When things go wrong as you wish, you can tell them the same thing. Let me share with you my experience in fighting worries:

1. Shantideva’s famous sayings

If the dilemma can be solved, why bother;

If What's the use of being depressed when there's no solution to the dilemma?

I often quote this passage, especially when I and those around me are in pain.

It means: If the trouble can be solved, we should be happy; if the trouble has no solution at all and it is a fait accompli, why should we add another trouble to ourselves? Just accept it and let it be!

2. "Happy Song" by Asanga Bodhisattva

This Taoist song tells us:

All kinds of ups and downs experienced in life can be Find an angle worthy of happiness. If we can understand the following content, our lives will definitely change, and we will reach the beautiful state of "Gods have no other way, they only produce joy and not sorrow":

1. How to be happy when you are sick?

Since this body is illusory, if you are sick, you should be happy.

Eliminate all the sins and karma accumulated in the past, and practice the righteous Dharma.

All of them will be pure. Remove two obstacles.

Popular explanation: Being sick can eliminate sinful karma. When the disease is over, the sinful karma will disappear.

2. How to be happy when you are healthy?

If you are not sick and are happy, your body and mind are comfortable and your good deeds increase,

If you want people to have real meaning in life, you should practice all the good Dharma through the three doors.

Popular explanation: When there is no illness or disaster, it is time to develop your own cultivation and career. You should be grateful to have good health.

3. How to be happy when you have no money?

If you don’t have money to be happy, and you don’t have to protect yourself from busy things,

all disputes and troubles will arise from greed for money.

Popular explanation: Most wealthy bosses are very busy. The bigger their business is, the more things they have to do, and they can’t make enough money.

4. How to get happiness when you are rich?

If you have wealth, you should be happy and spread the good resources of merit.

All temporary benefits and joys will definitely be the results of blessings.

Popular explanation: When you have wealth, you can be more able to help others and share and increase your happiness.

5. How can you be happy when you are about to die?

If you die quickly, you should be happy, and bad karma will not hinder you.

Connect with the good karma in the next life and enter the unmistakable wonderful path.

Popular explanation: If you are going to die soon, then you will have no chance to do bad things in this life. Make a good wish and be a good person in the next life!

6. How can you be happy if you live well?

If you live for a long time, you will be happy, and the crops of cultivation and enlightenment,

will thrive and mature according to the temperature and humidity taught by the teacher.

Happy no matter what!

Popular explanation: If you are in good health, then study hard, do good things, enrich yourself, and use this healthy time to mature yourself!

Reading this Taoist song slowly can make us happy no matter what.

3. A special way of thinking that I often use

The following way of thinking has never been used by most human beings, and it may sound strange at first. You can try thinking like this, which can completely subvert your troubled mind:

When you are unhappy, think to yourself: I hope the pain I experienced today can replace the pain of all other lives in the world. , they wouldn't have to go through such pain.

When I was very proud, I thought to myself: I hope my happiness today can be shared with all other lives in the world, so that they can experience the same luck and satisfaction as me.

Thinking like this in your heart means breathing out the same nostril as the saint. This is a kind of thinking that is completely contrary to ordinary people. Once we get used to this kind of saintly thinking, we will plant the seeds of sainthood in your heart. Every time you think about it, it is equivalent to watering and fertilizing the seed.

Finally, I wish the friend in question can have an eternally happy heart, and the happiness will continue to grow because of your sharing.

Think about the sun tomorrow? It will rise again and add brothers and sisters