1. The impact of the original family environment on children: The family environment includes the connections, attitudes, emotions, concepts, etc. between parents and children. Among them, the humanistic environment has the greatest impact on children, followed by the material environment. The significance of the humanistic environment lies in the temperature between parents and children, which includes emotional communication, communication satisfaction, and parents’ responsibilities to the family. These factors have a subtle impact on children's outlook on life, values, and world view. The material environment determines a child's control over desires. Although it does not play any role, children who grow up in a wealthy family go to the best schools from an early age, develop all-round moral, intellectual, and physical development in music, chess, calligraphy, painting, and are well fed and clothed. Compared with a child whose family conditions are poor and who have problems eating and going to school, the impact is quite large.
2. The influence of genetic inheritance in the original family: Physically speaking, if the parents are originally tall, there is a 70-80% chance that the child born will also be tall. In the same way, if a parent has diabetes or high blood pressure, the child also has a 20-30 chance of inheriting the disease. The chance of obesity being inherited is as high as 50-60%. In addition, intelligence, emotional intelligence, talent, etc., although these are not 100 genetic, they have a great impact on children (family environment influence).
3. The impact of the family tradition of the original family and tutoring on children: The impact of a good family tradition on a child’s life is self-evident; family tradition is the soul of a family and is the starting point for a child’s beautiful life the first step. There are too many cases in reality that show that if you live in an unhappy family since childhood, you will easily become tired of studying, addicted to games, fall in love early, hang out with bad friends, etc. after adolescence.
How much harm does the original family do to the child?
1. It easily affects the child’s sense of security: The harm caused by the original family actually affects the child’s sense of security, especially frequent quarrels. Or a divorced family will make the children feel that all this happened may be because of themselves. And as families break up, children will feel very insecure and become very fearful and frightened.
2. Easily affect children’s views on marriage: Problems in the original family can actually easily affect children’s views on marriage. Because they feel that their parents are not particularly happy and it affects them, they will be very resistant to marriage. Moreover, the harm caused by their original family will also make them feel that since they have been affected in this way, there is no need to start a family and have children, lest their partners and children will suffer the same harm.
3. Easily affect children’s views on making friends: Children who have been hurt by their original family may unconsciously develop a pleaser personality when making friends. Because in the minds of such children, as long as they are more obedient, maybe their parents will treat them better, and a complete family may still exist. This kind of thinking will also affect children's friendships. They may try to please others without any bottom line or principle, just in exchange for a good relationship between others and themselves. After a long time, the friends a child makes are not necessarily real friends, they may just be "friends" gained by trying to please themselves.