-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
2. believing that your talent is immutable-that is, a fixed mode of thinking-will make you eager to prove your ability again and again.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
Your basic ability can be cultivated through hard work. Even if there are various differences in talents and qualifications, interests or temperament between people, everyone can change and grow through hard work and personal experience.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
4. The real potential of human beings is unknown (and unknowable); After years of enthusiasm, hard work and training, what kind of achievements human beings can achieve is unpredictable.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
When you have time to improve yourself, why waste time to prove your Excellence over and over again? Why hide your shortcomings and not change them? Why should you find someone who can only protect your self-esteem instead of someone who can promote your growth as your friend and partner? Why look for things that you have tried and tested, instead of choosing things that can improve you?
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
6. Another special talent possessed by outstanding people is to turn setbacks in life into future success.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
7. When we were young, we all came across a multiple-choice question, choosing between a talented but impetuous rabbit and a slow but steady turtle. This story is to tell us that we won the game slowly and surely. But do any of us really want to be a turtle?
No, we just want to be a less stupid rabbit. We want to be as agile as the wind, but more strategic-that is, don't doze off for so long before the finish line. Don't forget, in order to win the game, you will always show up in the end.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
8. The story of the race between the tortoise and the hare wanted to emphasize the importance of hard work, but it gave them a bad reputation. It strengthens the idea that only those who lack talent need to work hard, and makes people think that only in rare cases, when talented people make mistakes, latecomers can take advantage of it.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
9. Success means being the best you can be, not being better than others. Failure is an opportunity, not a death sentence.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
10, before evaluating others, remember that efforts are not everything, and everyone's efforts are not based on the same fair premise.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
1 1. We have many wrong ideas about our abilities and achievements. In particular, we always feel that those lonely and smart people have suddenly invented something magical.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
12, when you are labeled as positive, you are afraid of losing it; And when you are unfortunately labeled as negative, you will be as afraid of yourself as the label says.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
13, when people trust a talented leader and a genius too much, there may be a phenomenon of group thinking.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
14. In the workplace, what we really need is to accept challenges, persevere and be able to admit and correct mistakes.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
15, people can think independently and work as a team.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
16. A healthy and long-lasting relationship between men and women requires the efforts of both sides, and both sides need to adapt to each other's inevitable differences.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
17, the relationship between men and women who don't work hard is born to die and unhealthy. Both sides need to work hard to communicate correctly, and both need to work hard to find and solve their different expectations and ideas. This is not to say that no one in the world "lives happily together forever", but that "they will always work happily for their relationship".
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
18, think that your partner has the potential to change and think that your partner will definitely change. The premise of change is that your partner must want to change, promise to change, and take concrete actions to change.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
19, when people start a relationship, they sometimes meet completely different partners from themselves, but they still don't know how to deal with these differences. In a positive love relationship, people will improve their ability in this respect. In doing so, both sides will grow and their feelings will become deeper and deeper. But if you want to do all this, you must both think that you are on the same side.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"
20. When people give up the idea that they are either good or bad or strong or weak, they can better learn effective strategies and help themselves control themselves. Every little mistake will not lead to the end of the world. These mistakes, like other aspects in the growth mode of thinking, remind you that you are not a perfect person and tell you how to do better next time.
-Carol Dwek, "Lifelong Growth"