Let me talk about this topic. The ancients said; Poor children, rich daughters. Mencius' mother, in order to cultivate Mencius' adulthood, left a famous saying, and Meng Mu chose neighbors. It can be seen that ancient people attached great importance to the influence of environment on children's growth. In the early days of the People's Republic of China, the older generation attached great importance to the education of their children. Nowadays, children are all brought up in honeypots. They can't bear hardships and don't know that life is hard-won.
Preference and respect for life give children a character of being afraid of hardship and fatigue, arrogant and loving, gluttonous and lazy. Life tells us that there will be no pie in the sky, and no pains, no gains.
Poor child, who grew up in misery, knows that only struggle can yield.
Rich children, who have enjoyed it since childhood, can't bear hardships and refuse to give, how can they gain something! It can be seen that children who are single-minded and single-minded can only grow up in prosperity, refuse to suffer hardships and dedication, and how can they innovate and make great achievements! All success is achieved through hard work and sweat, and nothing is achieved for nothing. Therefore, children who have liked since childhood will not have a bright future. This is the conclusion drawn from ancient times to the present. Don't pamper children from childhood.
You don't have to fight for it yourself. If you want something, someone will bring it to you. After a long time, who still has fighting spirit and motivation? Many parents can't understand which child they like, but try their best to leave him something good. I don't know if this is the reason for hurting him.
To love children, we should understand that it is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish, and it is much better to leave him brothers and sisters who love each other than to tear his face and leave him a house.
Spoiled, irresponsible, irrelevant, hanging high. How can I put it? I just feel that my mother is too kind, too hardworking and has no temper. She does everything by herself and doesn't ask the children to help her. Finally, the children bullied her to death.
The mother suffers by herself, and as a result, it is useless for the child to grow up, and nothing can be done. Not only did he lose his life, but he also harmed his own children, and both generations suffered mental damage.
My mother is very kind, and as a result, all six of us are not afraid of her and don't respect her very much. To say filial piety is to follow your conscience.
Brother and sister are the most filial and diligent, and none of us can do it. My sister and I are lazy and my brother is diligent, but his family is small and farmers are hard.
Some family tutors are very strict. In that sentence, it means "children are filial to their wives." Old people should have dignity and be afraid, or they will suffer when they get old.
Some children are afraid of old people, just like mice see cats, and some old people are like tigers and poisonous snakes. The children were very scared. They frightened him and taught him to go east, but he was afraid to go west.
If you spoil him, he will feel dependent, depend on you all his life, kill you and suffer his daughter-in-law. The worthless children are all farmers. What should we do to honor the elderly? Low income.
My aunt is cruel, and both her sons are sent out to be soldiers, and both of them drive buses when they come back. Long distance to the provincial capital, a bus, all have jobs, and several grandchildren drive the leaders.
My mother can't. I can't bear to part with all my children in the army. I'm afraid of war. My aunt has a heart of stone and doesn't care. I think it's good. My aunt lives more smartly than my mother. She likes playing wild, not doing housework, but also visiting relatives and friends and socializing.
My mother has been miserable all her life, and nobody cares when she is old. I just spoil the baby and I can't rely on anyone.
Now it is a question of providing for the aged, that is, giving money, and everyone is unwilling to take care of it. How can a daughter-in-law serve her mother-in-law when her son is unwilling to pay for a nanny for 3 thousand yuan?
The staff of the nursing home are all meeting the needs of work and have no feelings. They can't suffer like their daughter. My mother is 88 years old at my sister's house, and even if she gives money to her sister, she is reluctant to give up, because she also gave birth to a second child, who is over 6 years old and has many things to do.
If I can take care of children, I don't care about old people. I cook, wash clothes and help with my homework. There is no water in the bathroom, but I have to dump it. There are steps. My mother has cataract in one eye and can't see. Alas, it's hard.
We have to take care of babies, the elderly and men's food and clothing. If men are not diligent and women love to watch mobile phones, where will they get the time? Feels not enough, does it?
It would be nice to have a bathroom with water, but is there a bathroom with water in the countryside? Wash basin? Vegetable basin? The faucets are all in the yard, and they are frozen in winter, so we have to draw water, burn kang, scrape ash and make a stove.
Haven't you burned the kang yet?
Few children who are spoiled by adults are particularly sensible.
Favored children often have little promise. This proposition only applies to parents who can't educate their children. Strict requirements for children, resolute implementation and scientific education are the great love for children! The strange phenomenon you mentioned is the blind doting of parents on their children.
Preference is a kind of shelter. When I was a child, adults helped to deal with all external factors. When I entered the society, my children's independent ability was extremely poor, and their hands-on ability was extremely poor. Is that his brain was not fully developed when he was a child. Preference from childhood is equal to a lifetime, which will give him a very selfish mentality. I guess he won't be partial to you when you get old.
Man-made deprivation of survival skills!
Spoiled children often have a bleak future, mainly because they are artificially deprived of survival skills.
Preference for children is not "love" but harm. As an adult, subjectivity is good for him, but it actually hurts him and artificially deprives him of his right to live.
There is a lovely little boy in the neighbor's house, and the whole family loves him dearly. Don't ask him to do anything, just plan everything for him. Child 10 years old, can't tie his shoelaces. When I was in middle school, the car was picked up by car, and all the things in life were taken care of by adults. When I was in college, I was asked by my roommate: Why don't you brush your teeth? He replied, I don't need toothpaste. I don't know how to squeeze it. As soon as this embarrassing joke came out, it spread all over the campus. Many people don't like him, and cynicism is introduced into their ears from time to time, which seriously affects their learning mood. I had to drop out of school and go home because I failed too many courses.
Never be partial to children, and be willing to let them "suffer" and "suffer". All kinds of things in life should be done by yourself, and you can never do it all by yourself. At the same time, we should also urge to learn the ability to do it yourself.
If you don't advance, you will retreat. If you don't use it, it will be wasted. From an early age, we don't favor children, let them learn to handle life affairs and solve problems independently, then we can face life directly and survive and develop effectively. Otherwise, the consequences of preference will create a "waste person"
Parents have done what they should do, and they have also assumed their responsibilities. Parents have decided all the decisions to make, so what can you do for him?
This is not a strange phenomenon, it is normal. Planting flowers and plants, not fertilizing, properly fertilizing, over-fertilizing, not watering or watering too much, the result is either brilliant, withered or premature aging? The same is true of education. What kind of seeds are sown will bear what kind of fruit, what kind of education will be given to children, and what kind of outcome will be there! Education is an art, and it usually takes time to carve it carefully. From the beginning of children, there is a dialect: it is this truth to watch the hours carefully. The so-called worthless, can only ask parents themselves!