The definition of happiness in general dictionaries is mostly: feeling satisfied and happy. The German philosopher Immanuel Kant believed: "Happiness is when our needs are met." Indeed, happiness is a beautiful state of affairs, that is, nothing bad or painful exists, and you feel that both yourself and the world around you are pretty good. How can you get it?

1. Only by actively searching and pursuing with heart can you obtain it.

There is a major prerequisite for pursuing happiness: that is, you must understand that happiness is not easy to obtain. It is neither a gift nor a right; you have to seek it out and pursue it to get it. When you realize that you can't just sit there and wait for happiness to come, you have taken a big step in the pursuit of happiness. How about it? Doesn't feel bad? Don't be happy first. After you complete the other nine steps, you will be able to reach the true state of happiness.

2. Expand your life and try new things

When you are willing to try new activities and accept new challenges, you will discover a new dimension of life. And pleasantly surprised.

Learning new technologies and exploring new ways can bring people new satisfaction. Unfortunately, many people tend to ignore this point and lose the opportunity to realize their potential and gain happiness.

Many people think that they should wait for an appropriate opportunity to develop their future in a safe way. This is too conservative a thought, as the right time may never come. No one's life is a carefully designed, error-free computer program, so one should have the courage to be prepared to face challenges.

3. There is not only one answer to everything in the world

There are many ways to pursue happiness, not just the one you stubbornly believe in. Most people tend to think that they can only successfully hold one job or play one role in this life, and even think that if they cannot get or achieve this, they will never be happy. This idea is too narrow. It's painful to not be able to achieve your goals, but it doesn't mean that you are insulated from happiness from now on, unless you want to think so.

Adopt a flexible attitude toward things, don't be stubborn, and remember that there is not necessarily only one best thing. Of course, this does not mean that you should give up on realistic, feasible, and dreamed goals, but it does encourage you to go all out to make your dreams come true.

4. Dare to pursue dreams and hopes

Bernard Shaw once said: "Most people only see what has happened and ask why? I dream of things that have never been. , and ask yourself why not? "Young people, especially, should have dreams and hopes, because the process of struggle and achieving the goal can bring about incomparable happiness. You must have the courage to dream that you can become a famous doctor, a star, an outstanding scientist or a writer, etc., and you must go all out to pursue your ideal.

Of course, your dreams must be reasonable, concrete and feasible, and don’t aim too high and dream of reaching for the stars. For example, if you are born with a crow's voice, "Don't dream of becoming a thrush! Also, you have to remember that even if you fail to achieve this goal, it is not the end of the world. Browning once said: "Ah! If everything a mortal dreams of is within reach; then why would there be a paradise? ! ”

5. Compare only with yourself, not with others

Since we are sensible, we have felt the pressure of “achievement”, and this pressure becomes more and more important as we grow older. Therefore, young people want to perform well everywhere, thinking that they must be perfect before others will accept and like them. Once they find that they are not as good as others, they will start to feel sad and feel inferior. Of course, there is no happiness at all. p>

So you should use yourself as the standard of measurement. Think about where you went wrong in the beginning and whether you have made any progress now. If you have really tried your best, I believe that today will be better than yesterday and tomorrow will be better than today. .

6. Care about the people and things around you

If you care about certain people, things, and things, your view of life will definitely change. Live only for yourself and believe that your life will become very narrow and limited. Self-centered people may continue to make progress, but they will never feel satisfied.

So what should you be concerned about? Who do you care about? Open your eyes and think about it. Although we are ordinary, we can at least help children go to and from school, read to patients, do odd jobs in nursing homes, and even clean the surrounding environment... As long as you give a little bit, you will be happier. Psychologist Allison once said: "Those who only care about themselves will eventually become their own slaves!" However, people who care about others can not only contribute to society, but also avoid living a boring, boring life by caring only about themselves. A life without joy.

7. Don’t be too confident, nor be unconfident.

People who are overly optimistic always think that they will be able to achieve all their goals because they ignore the dangers along the way. People who are extremely pessimistic always think that the hope of success is very slim and dare not move forward. Both types of people have lost many opportunities as a result.

When selecting a goal, the attitude should be objective and the judgment should be practical. Don't be too sure and take it lightly, nor should you lack confidence and be timid.

8. Slow down when the pace is too fast

You may be busy here and there from morning to night, spinning around like a clock. But when you stop and think about it for a moment, don’t you feel uncomfortable and unsatisfied? Because many people are afraid of facing emptiness, they fill their time with trivial matters. As a result, the pace of life is too tight, and they cannot achieve true happiness.

List all the things you have done and see what can be deleted, so that you can have some free time and relax. Leisure is also like a luxury product that can make you feel satisfied.

9. You can be thicker-skinned

According to expert surveys and research, one of the characteristics that makes people feel satisfied is not to care too much about other people's criticism. In other words, you need to be thicker-skinned. Don’t give in to external countercurrents. Don't feel sad and angry because of other people's sarcastic remarks, thinking that you have been greatly hurt. However, you should reflect on it calmly. If others' criticism is correct, you should improve. If the criticism is unfair, why not laugh it off? ! Maybe at the beginning, you are not able to master the countermeasures for dealing with criticism, because you may be very sensitive and will inevitably have emotional reactions, but you have to practice controlling yourself. This skill will be used throughout your life.

The taste of happiness is like drinking water, it varies from person to person. What makes other people happy may not make you happy. Only you know how to pursue happiness. But remember: don’t wait and see! Happiness is a cunning rabbit, you have to work hard to pursue it to get it!

+. Happiness does not mean the absence of troubles

Everyone has troubles, but not everyone is unhappy. Happiness does not depend on wealth. Some people have very little money but are still happy. There are also some people who are wealthy, but they may not always smile all the time. Can people stay happy and live happily throughout their lives?

American Dr. Schuler reveals the secret to eternal happiness in his new book "The Happy Attitude".

If everyone knows the following eight secrets, they will naturally have a happy life.

1. No one is perfect. You must admit your weaknesses and be willing to accept suggestions, help and advice from others. As long as you have the courage to admit that you need help, success is bound to be in sight.

2． Learn from setbacks. Your attitude when facing failure or setbacks should be to learn from it and keep trying.

3. Life must be honest and full of justice, so as to attract good friends to help you. The famous psychologist Bardas was once asked: "What are the most basic and deepest psychological needs of human beings today?" She replied: "Human beings need love." But this is not limited to the love between men and women. From a psychologist's point of view, good people are always happy.

4． Able to bend and stretch. No matter in good times or bad times, our attitude towards life should be calm. If you make a mistake, correct it immediately.

5. Enthusiastic about helping others. If you want to be truly happy and respected by others, you should help others and have a harmonious relationship with others.

6． If you want people to treat you well, you must first treat others well. You must forgive and empathize with others when you are treated unfairly.

7. Keep the faith. When you do anything, you must stick to your personal beliefs.

8． Happiness stays in my heart forever. As long as you always keep a cheerful mood, happiness will be hard to abandon you.