Let's start with the problem of men cheating. As the saying goes, once you are unfaithful, you don't need a hundred times. The first time a man cheated, will there be a second time? Most comments on men's infidelity on the internet think that there will be a second time once. After all, a leopard cannot change his spots. But there are many reasons why men cheat: 1 is a necessary playboy for men, and they are willing to enjoy it if the cost of cheating is not great; 2. Contradictions within marriage lead to its derailment. Just as you have different views, poor communication and bumpy marriage, men will seek this comfort outside marriage.

In fact, there are roughly two needs for men to cheat: one is to meet their physical needs, and the other is to meet their spiritual needs. The former is easier to understand and the latter is more complicated.

Some people say that men cheat for sex, right? Both men and women have needs during marriage. They want each other to be considerate, caring and considerate, to be happy together when they are happy, and to accompany them when they are sad. This is what marriage should provide (of course, marriage should provide many benefits, so I won't go into details here).

When this demand is not met in marriage, both men and women's spiritual needs become empty, so they want to look outside marriage. From the biological point of view, people are never monogamous animals, and both sexual desire and lust are diverse. Monogamy cannot restrain people's natural attributes, and people will always try different and fresh things.

People are more often controlled by their inner feelings than by rationality, and are easily moved by others and involved in the fantasy of sexual relations, thus deducing love stories with people they like. Whether married or unmarried, when love is strong, people will only follow their own feelings, not moral and ethical advice. When the scope and capacity of morality expand, we should think deeply about the diversity of human nature and reflect on the defects of marriage itself.

In other words, when a person has to maintain an extramarital affair, or even run an extramarital affair at great cost, except for the period of mental madness, it shows that your marriage itself is problematic. Spouse marriage can't guarantee people's happiness, especially when some inhuman factors such as unsatisfied sexual life, lack of emotional communication, separation between two places, domestic violence, poverty and hardship, and setbacks accompany marriage, the occurrence of extramarital affairs brings people a chance to live temporarily and a way to release pressure.

However, the development of social civilization requires us to practice and abide by the spouse system. From Freud's view that sexual repression is a symbol of human civilization, monogamy does suppress men's desires, but promotes social civilization.

Objectively speaking, it is normal for any party in any marriage to be tempted by others under appropriate conditions. This is human nature. Extramarital affairs can meet human needs for sexual attraction, emotional concern, curiosity and intimacy, and its attraction is self-evident.

But not all emotions in marriage will develop into extramarital affairs, just as hungry animals can resist not eating bait because their vigilance against danger has restrained their hunger instinct. People will also be influenced by interests, security, morality and other factors, restrain instinctive needs and make rational choices.

At present, the main reason for the prevalence of extramarital affairs in society is that the factors that need to restrain instinct are getting smaller and smaller, and the cost of cheating is getting lower and lower. Why are men more likely to have extramarital affairs? Apart from physiological reasons, men's biggest excuse is that the cost of cheating is lower than that of women.