Worldview refers to what kind of eyes the other person looks at the world, or what kind of angle to cut in and what kind of attitude to face when something happens. For example, there is a famous saying on the Internet that clearly points out the difference in world outlook. "When I said the sea was beautiful, you told me that many people drowned in the sea." This is a different view of the world, but there is no difference between good and bad, just a different angle.

Values refer to life and life path. When faced with problems, you need to make a choice. When making a decision, the weight you consider is values, which actually involves a wide range of life levels. For example, if you like to eat in a restaurant, but the other person thinks you can have a full meal, then why spend money in the restaurant? You like going to art galleries, but he said, why pretend to be Wen Qing?

In fact, these are all different values and interests, and the resulting values are different, so it will be more difficult to get along with each other, and it needs a high degree of cooperation to be harmonious.

After understanding the world, you will gradually know and think about yourself, have what you want to pursue, live the life you want, and work hard towards your goals. This is your outlook on life. My way of life, but you think it is a waste of outlook on life, usually refers to the meaning of life that the other party thinks, and where our future direction and value are.

In fact, because these views are all derived from our childhood experiences, whether it is the family lifestyle or the people and things we have experienced, they will all create the foundation of our three views.

So what are the real differences? You like reading books and he likes playing games, which is not a disagreement; But what's the use of reading? Isn't it just pretending to be literary? That's a three-view disagreement.

You like to go to a western restaurant to eat steak, and he likes to string together in food stalls, which is not inappropriate; But he said it was expensive and not delicious, and that you were really artificial. This is a disagreement. If you like to travel around during the holidays and he likes to stay at home, this is not a disagreement; But he said that the interesting thing about traveling is that suffering costs money, and lying at home is more comfortable. This is called three views.

So what are the real differences? You behave yourself, and he says you don't pursue it; You want to pursue your career, and he says you are not practical; If you want to work harder and have better living conditions, he says you are vain and think he is poor; You insist on going to the gym, and he says you spend money indiscriminately; You like buying flowers to decorate your home. He said it would expire in a few days, and it was still so expensive. Why buy it? What is natural to you becomes incredible to him. These are called three views.

So what are the three views simplified as: world outlook: cognition of things in the objective world, outlook on life: how to prepare for life, values: what is more important to you.

To sum up, in fact, the consistency of the three views does not require that your hobbies and ways of thinking are exactly the same, but that you can seek common ground while reserving differences and know how to tolerate, understand and appreciate each other. Otherwise, you share your happiness with him, and he thinks you are showing off; You tell him you are sad, and he thinks you are melodramatic. Getting along with people with different views is more tiring than moving bricks, because he won't understand you at all. It's hard for you to change his cognition, and he won't understand your thoughts. It is natural that you will never get along on the same frequency.