When harmonious but different cultures are established within the team, we should pursue a higher level of team realm, let team members appreciate each other, establish emotional ties, and ignite team energy and passion with mutual care and love.
Take the movie Our Days as an example. When the white and black players in the team are familiar with each other and work together to win the stadium, they have sincere friendship with each other. When Bai Xing couldn't play because of a car accident, the team's best black partner went to the hospital to encourage him and promised to fight for him. Sincere emotions inspire the strongest fighting capacity of the team and make the team persevere in the face of powerful opponents.
The essence of emotional link is to inject love into the team and stimulate the empathy of team members.
The word empathy comes from the Greek empatheia, which was originally used by aesthetic theorists to describe the ability to understand the subjective experience of others. In the 1920s, American psychologist Tiechener first used the word empathy, referring to this kind of sports imitation.
Empathy generally refers to psychological transposition and empathy. In other words, put yourself in the cognitive awareness, grasp and understanding of others' emotions and emotions. Mainly reflected in emotional self-control, empathy, listening ability, expressing respect and so on.
Empathy is not simple sympathy, but putting yourself in the other's shoes to perceive the problem. Ability to perceive other people's emotions, situations and opinions.
Empathy points to win-win cooperation. Why should we be able to perceive the feelings, opinions and positions of others? This is because a person's strength is limited. If a group of people want Qi Xin to work together to do something, everyone should have empathy and realize that everyone's interests and feelings are very important.
Empathy is essentially a kind of kind and altruistic compassion. Why put yourself in others' shoes? Egoists only need to pay attention to their own feelings. Willing to put yourself in others' shoes, respect and listen to others' opinions, and consider others' feelings and interests in decision-making and action, there must be kindness and altruism behind this.
Empathy is a great wisdom, because it goes against human instinct.
Psychology has found that human nature is self-centered, and people are used to thinking from themselves. Clinging to one's own feelings, interests, knowledge, views and sense of existence, while ignoring the feelings and interests of others. This leads to the self-help bias. When you fail, you usually tend to blame others, and when you succeed, you tend to take the credit for yourself. Overconfidence in one's own ability and correctness of decision-making, selective absorption of supporting information, and indifference to opposite information lead to rigid thinking.
Empathy is anti-human, so it is the most difficult to cultivate.
Breaking this illusion is usually achieved by one setback after another. People can force themselves to reflect on themselves and gradually understand the situation of others when facing the special difficult experience of life and career.
Satya Nadella, the president of Microsoft, was inspired by the misfortune of his first child, Zain. Zain suffers from severe cerebral palsy due to asphyxia in uterus, and needs to spend his life in a wheelchair. This incident hit Satya hard. In extreme pain, he sought the teachings of the Buddha. He gradually realized that he should take the responsibility of parents, deeply understand Zain's experience and feel his pain.
Satya realized: "If you can deeply understand impermanence, then you will get more peace, and you will not react too violently because of the ups and downs of life. Only in this way can you have deep empathy and sympathy for the things around you. "
Empathy is a process of epiphany. Its essence is to jump out of yourself and see the whole. If we look at ourselves and others from an objective perspective, we will find that there is no essential difference between people in the world. Everyone has pain, confusion, joy, and a desire for love and happiness. This indifference is the starting point of love, and it is also the way for individuals to liberate themselves from their own pain.
The emergence of empathy is still a gradual process. The scope of empathy extends from family, organization and nation to the whole human society. The larger the scope, the higher the realm. The highest state is the traditional spirit of China people-the unity of heaven and man. Realize that the world universe is an organic whole and everything is closely related to each other. For example, Zhuangzi's famous saying in the theory of homogeneous objects: "Heaven and earth coexist with me, and everything is alone." When the self's state of mind expands to infinity, everything in heaven and earth will be one with me, and we can communicate freely with the spirit of heaven and earth.
Starting from empathy, we can give birth to sympathy and compassion for all things in the world, and we can also find the meaning of life and the ultimate energy of self-drive. As Zhang Zai, the great master of the Northern Song Dynasty, said, "Make a heart for heaven and earth, make a life for the people, carry forward the past and forge ahead into the future, learn from others' strengths, and be peaceful for all generations."
Everyone has empathy. It is a powerful spiritual energy, gentle and powerful, invisible but warm enough to melt hard ice and form a joint force. Mobilizing this energy within the team can form cohesion and motivation in a short time.
Team leaders should consciously stimulate the empathy of team members, establish emotional ties between team members, let team members appreciate each other, sincerely care about each other, stimulate the greatest goodwill in human nature, and thus produce a strong team centripetal force.