Number one? People are selfish, which is the attribute of people. I remember telling the master that all your actions are for yourself. Including filial piety, filial piety is also your impulse to have children in order to meet your inner needs and to continue genetic selfishness. Most of these people are irresistible.
If colleagues, family members and friends can't handle this problem well, there will be many complaints, such as quarreling between husband and wife, who often say that he/she doesn't understand me at all. If you can understand that everyone is selfish, you will understand that she/he should understand himself/herself first, not you. Why do you say to be tolerant? Tolerance is to satisfy the selfishness of others, but we often only see our own needs. My selfishness is.
? Do you know the difference between a big businessman and a small businessman? Small traders just want to know their interests and earn their own money. Big businessmen want to know everyone's interests first, and their own interests will naturally come. Zeng Guofan made good use of this weakness. He got what he wanted on the premise of satisfying everyone's selfishness, so he made an evaluation of Zeng Guofan. Selflessness is the greatest selfishness.
? What is man's second weakness? Even if it is satisfied, it is still short-sighted. We often lose the habit of picking sesame seeds. Amazon ceo Bezos said that when everyone is eager for quick success, we only have to do something long-term to have a chance.
There was a program in which two dogs were abandoned by their owners on the streets of new york. These are two clean and beautiful dogs. They were locked in front of a closed shop and sat quietly on the ground. Their helplessness makes people feel distressed. There is a board next to the dog, which says, "I am the owner of the dog." I'm broke, my house is mortgaged by the bank, and I can't take them away anymore. I really can't afford to ask a kind person to take care of my dog. "
On the busy street, all kinds of passers-by come and go The last tramp chipped in $25 to buy dog food and bowls for the dog. The truth is: this is a social experiment done by a reality show in the United States. Dogs have not been abandoned, and no one is bankrupt. The program group just wants to test "people's hearts are warm and cold". After the video was sent to Tik Tok, it received 265,438+046,000 likes and more than 30,000 comments.
? But what I want to tell today is not a touching dog story. The story of the little brother and the dog above, no matter how warm it sounds, hides a cruel fact: shortsightedness = poor thinking. Those passers-by who don't lend a helping hand to dogs and have more money than wandering brothers are not bad people. But they are not short-sighted,
When the money and other resources around us are seriously insufficient, we will only pay attention to the immediate interests and the most urgent needs. In other words, Brother Wandering may be more sympathetic to the dog's hunger and loneliness than anyone present. But this doesn't mean that the wandering brother is kinder than those who don't help the dog around him.
For a long time, the vagrant brother has been in the three points of "focusing all his needs and satisfaction on eating enough, wearing warm clothes and having a place to spend the night tonight", and he can best understand the pain of unsatisfied urgent needs. Just like other messages on Tik Tok, people who don't fall into this kind of thinking, besides feeling sorry for the dog, may also think, "If I give the dog this meal, the dog may not have the next meal." "Before helping this dog, I must consider my actual ability."
"Just like I usually don't give money to beggars, it will cultivate their habit of getting money as long as they beg, and even breed some behaviors of defrauding sympathy for money. They will never think about other ways out of life." "It didn't help at all. In the long run, they will be deprived of their own motivation to find a way out. "
Help for a while, ruin your life-this is not an alarmist.
I remember a real survey that gave subsidies to some slum people. As a result, they are still used to hoarding enough food and water, and never think about educating their children or buying books to learn something, because short-sighted thinking has occupied their brains.
? I remember Zhang Yiming, the headline of the evaluation, said that he is a person who can delay satisfaction. What is delayed gratification, not short-sightedness.
? What do you think of the above two weaknesses? Can you leave a message or comment, or do you think others have other weaknesses? If you think today's sharing is useful to you, please take a look at it for me.